"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My Neighbor Dillemma

scarface316

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I moved here a couple years ago and always knew this HB 8 lived 4 houses down. When I first moved here, I was an AFC and very obese. You're typical nice guy. (Still am to some) After years of struggle to get with women I am now physically ready to do it. Mentally though, I'm still a big boy. Now I've lost most of the weight (315 to 200, presently).

I've seen her at school since I moved here 4 years ago and dreamed of how hot she is! Up until this year, I never really met her! But this one time in a kickback, I was playing beirut with my buddies and I was just "on fire" for the whole night. (Back to back to back shots multiple times being nailed in). She was watching me nail shot after shot and win game after game and as I kept going, I heard her make sly comments like, "(name)! You're so chill!", "OMG, how come I haven't met you earlier?!", "We NEED to hang out more!".

But this is my problem.. I kinda have a thing for another girl right now (link to that problem) and my neighbor is an ex of one of my homies.. (2 years ago though...) What would you do?!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SilverSonnet

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
2 years ago? Your good to go? Just depends on how good their relationship was, if it was a quick thing, with no real emotions, and he wasn't sobbing after, it's cool, if he did do all that, no go.
And, if I had two girl I liked, I'd spin plates ;)
Remember, you NEVER be exclusive unless the girl asks your FIRST.
 

scarface316

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Effington said:
You go for both. Are you obligated to one?
I am more obligated to the other girl just because I know her a lot better.. All my friends are suggesting I ask her to prom.. (And I do have a fun idea in mind) She's known me since I was a fat boy and has shown interest before. Up until I lost the weight, she's been wanting to hang out more often but I'm still used to being my old me when I'm with her. (Therefore, I don't make any moves)... Which I know is NOT alpha!

SilverSonnet said:
2 years ago? Your good to go? Just depends on how good their relationship was, if it was a quick thing, with no real emotions, and he wasn't sobbing after, it's cool, if he did do all that, no go.
And, if I had two girl I liked, I'd spin plates
Remember, you NEVER be exclusive unless the girl asks your FIRST.
Well, they had a very serious relationship.. Her myspace has him on it as one if her heroes. I don't really understand what you're saying though.. lol
 

Effington

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Are you dating one of them? If you aren't, then you aren't obligated to them...that's where I was going with that. The length of time you've known someone does not matter, and in a lot of cases, could be more of a hinderance than benefit.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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king0fhearts59

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um i didnt realize you had to be held to date just one girl, if you can get both GET BOTH son! especially if shes makin those comments

and congratrs on losin that weight
 
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