"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My mom told me to get good grades and HBs will be lining up to chase me

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My mom told me all throughout my life that if I work hard in school and get good grades that HBs would be lining up to chase me. They love a responsible man who is smart and got into a good program at a top school and has good grades.

I accomplished all of this, graduated from one of the toughest programs there are, and got good grades to boot. Yet, there is no "HB" chasing me, I have no plates and no options.

I guess my mom does not understand this society, maybe this is the way it is in Asia or something, the smart guy with good grades gets the HBs.

In North America, the scumbag unemployed, uneducated drugdealer gets all the HBs.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Momma said there'll be days like this, there'll be days like this, my momma said (momma said, momma said)

Please do not complain anymore. Save that for momma.
 

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343 posts. How many were positive? You're really negative.

Damn dude - smile every once in a while, it might actually make you feel better.
 

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My mom obviously lives in this fantasy world, and keeps asking me when I'm going to get married, and tells me the reason why I cannot get a good HB is because I don't "work hard enough" at work.

Really?

If I suddenly started "working harder" at my job, then HBs will notice me and start chasing me.

What world does my Mom live in. I really want to know.

All this ridiculous advice I get from her.

Her solution is for me to "work harder" at my job and be "nicer to my boss" and say "good morning" to my boss.
And somehow this will get me HBs.
 

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gspshields2 said:
My mom obviously lives in this fantasy world, and keeps asking me when I'm going to get married, and tells me the reason why I cannot get a good HB is because I don't "work hard enough" at work.

Really?

If I suddenly started "working harder" at my job, then HBs will notice me and start chasing me.

What world does my Mom live in. I really want to know.

All this ridiculous advice I get from her.

Her solution is for me to "work harder" at my job and be "nicer to my boss" and say "good morning" to my boss.
And somehow this will get me HBs.
Well, let's be honest. Your mom's not going to tell you how crappy your personality is and what a bore you are. Or how whiny you are, and how you spread misery like the flu.

A mom would never say that. Good thing I'm not a mom.
 

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Iceberg said:
Well, let's be honest. Your mom's not going to tell you how crappy your personality is and what a bore you are. Or how whiny you are, and how you spread misery like the flu.

A mom would never say that. Good thing I'm not a mom.
No she never mentions anything like personality, social circle, social skills, or anything like that.

She is very one dimensitional.

My mom honestly believes that if I work harder at my job, or that if my A grades in college were A pluses instead that I would get HBs.

She said to me, people can tell you are "not working hard enough".

This is some sort of crazy Asian way of thinking, we should work ourselves to death and somehow this is an admirable trait.

Well I've worked harder and I was nice to my boss today, but no HBs came up to me. Surprise, Surprise.
 

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gspshields2 said:
My mom honestly believes that if I work harder at my job, or that if my A grades in college were A pluses instead that I would get HBs.

She said to me, people can tell you are "not working hard enough".

This is some sort of crazy Asian way of thinking, we should work ourselves to death and somehow this is an admirable trait.

Well I've worked harder and I was nice to my boss today, but no HBs came up to me. Surprise, Surprise.

Yeah. Cool. So what's your point? That moms don't know how to bang HBs? Well, I'd certainly hope not.
 

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Yeah. Cool. So what's your point? That moms don't know how to bang HBs? Well, I'd certainly hope not.

It's impossible to live up to her crazy standards, I have a good job and bust my azz 50-60 hours a week, and its "not good enough".

My A grades in college were "not good enough".

She keeps mentioning some nerdy Asian guy who won this national math contest and how all the HBs want to get with him.

News Flash: Pamela Anderson wants Tommy Lee, not Yo Yo Ma.

I am trying to understand why my mom thinks like this and figure how disconnected from reality she is.
 

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troll post?

first if you are seeing all you do is not working then stop doing it, first50-60 hours week? how many hours the week youa re doing things you like? any hobby? first if you are getting a good pay and have your home stop talking with your mom, and do things you like, alos any friends? go out with then.

I also should consider your a asian, korean maybe? don't matter, I say if possible owrk a little less and go out more
 

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what do women know about pulling girls?

My family always told me to be a nice guy.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TYpical asian family
Don't listen to your mom when it comes to "HB"s
learn the game and apply
 

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Mike32ct said:
I was valedictiorian in high school and summa c@m laude in university.

Result: 28 year old virgin

No lie.

How exactly is me being nice to my boss and saying "Good Morning"
to him going to get me HBs?

Are the HBs going to notice that I am nice to my boss, and for some reason this builds attraction?

What kind of twisted logic is my mom spewing out.

Absolutely no sense, can someone explain this to me.
 

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I just want to know why my mom doesn't think of me as a sexual being.

Why do I have to be good to my boss to get HBs?

It is so frustrating. Mom why don't you understand what a grown man must do?

Can anyone explain?
 

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gspshields2 said:
How exactly is me being nice to my boss and saying "Good Morning"
to him going to get me HBs?

Are the HBs going to notice that I am nice to my boss, and for some reason this builds attraction?

What kind of twisted logic is my mom spewing out.

Absolutely no sense, can someone explain this to me.
I'm just confirming your point that good grades do not necessarily equal female attention.

The work stuff is another topic.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Will you shutup already. How old are you?

It's not about what your mom says its about your attitude. Right now, i can see why nobody wants your whiney ass. You're crying so hard for no reason.

Your mom's point was to do well in life, and everything will follow suit. Don't take it literal.

Do us all a favor and get off the forums and stop feeling sorry for yourself - its really pathetic.

I really wish I could punch you in the face right now. lol
 

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Eternal_water said:
Alvafe is right, Troll post. My mum just confirmed it.
Wow thanks for all the help.

Just put down people who actually need help rather than help them. Terrific!
 

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Are you really that hopeless of a man that you whine THIS much? No wonder you don't attract any women.

Look at your attitude.
 

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BigSmooth said:
Are you really that hopeless of a man that you whine THIS much? No wonder you don't attract any women.

Look at your attitude.
It's not whining. My mom always says that a closed mouth never gets fed.

So if I dont TELL you about my problems how can you FIX them for me?!
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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