CapedCrusader08
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I'm sorry to hear.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My mom just passed away this afternoon.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Senior Don Juan
My sincere condolences, if you need to speak about anything just PM me. I wish you the best of luck through this difficult time.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Thank you fellows so much for your support. You know when people say hang in there and be strong.I wonder if what they are really talking about is for you to save up your energy for all the running around the funeral arrangement requires.It's like my stress has come from all the running around, mutiples calls coming in and people whose calls have to be returned,and then there's the actual funeral expenses. I just caught a break so, I'm here (exhales). It's funny in a sad way. Well, the funeral is tomorrow. To the guy who put up that pic of a cartoony looking bouquet very cute and funny, lol. I appreciate it, lol. See you guys later.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
jafyk, thank you for sharing this with us, and my condolenses to you and your family.
I am feeling so much pain just hearing about your loss. I know I would have a very hard time if I lost my mom, and will the day I do. That would be most painful thing to me, so I feel your pain.
Wish you all the best.
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive
If you can"
I am feeling so much pain just hearing about your loss. I know I would have a very hard time if I lost my mom, and will the day I do. That would be most painful thing to me, so I feel your pain.
Wish you all the best.
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive
If you can"
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
very sorry to hear that bro... since I don't know what condelence means I thought i would tell you something i do know. When my grandfather lost his companion he told me " Son, I have been with this women whom I loved for 54 years.. it is very hard and tough on me, but when one of your loved one passes away, it is also a time for one of your pad habits to pass..." And from that day on he didn't smoke a single cig till the day he died.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Wow, that's a remarkable story. We had the funeral today and it went well. For the short notice we had we had such a huge turn out the funeral home seating we had wasnt enough and we had to get more chairs. While in a way I'm relieved the funeral is out of the way, still I just feel like I'm in a bad dream and I don't know what to do. I was going through my phone and came across my mom's # and it's just weird knowing she won't be calling me any more for whatever reason. I don't know how my brother feels he doesn't talk about anything. It must feel strange knowing he has to relocate and also losing a mother at the same time. I just want to reiterate again that I appreciate the support you guys have offered. Here's a problem maybe someone can offer advice. It's winter in Indiana where I reside and people tend to do garage sales in the summer. So, I'm wondering what to do with all her stuff. I know it's not all my decision because my aunt (her sister) is involved too. She was renting an apartment. Any ideas anyone. Anyone been in a similar situation?eatgel said:very sorry to hear that bro... since I don't know what condelence means I thought i would tell you something i do know. When my grandfather lost his companion he told me " Son, I have been with this women whom I loved for 54 years.. it is very hard and tough on me, but when one of your loved one passes away, it is also a time for one of your pad habits to pass..." And from that day on he didn't smoke a single cig till the day he died.
KontrollerX
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Well for my dad my mom and I tried giving away some of his clothes to relatives but then we found out that most of them weren't his size.
He was a guy that I'd say was about 5'10 195lbs on average and most of his brothers were either shorter and skinnier than him or way taller and bigger than him.
I'm about his same size but the problem is we had vastly different styles of dress so they couldn't go to me either. I think we ended up giving away some to the salvation army and selling a few more pieces in a garage sale in the summer but yeah my mom was left with a lot of his clothes still that she'll probably end up ultimately getting rid of at the salvation army when they need more.
Before we started this up though we went through about a year of the grieving process and then decided on what if anything of his clothes to keep.
He had a black leather jacket that was in my style so I kept that to remember him by and wear eventually.
So unless you absolutely have to get rid of your mom's stuff now for some reason be if financial or whatever if I were you I'd consider thinking about if she had a shirt or coat or something that you'd like to keep to remember her by.
Obviously you are a guy and can't wear her stuff so don't think I'm suggesting that but yeah what I am suggesting is again just consider if you want anything of her's to remember her by before chucking everything out.
This awful situation just occurred for you so you may need a good amount of time before you are thinking clearly about things to make proper decisions.
You may be in a kind of shock right now which is common after a great loss.
He was a guy that I'd say was about 5'10 195lbs on average and most of his brothers were either shorter and skinnier than him or way taller and bigger than him.
I'm about his same size but the problem is we had vastly different styles of dress so they couldn't go to me either. I think we ended up giving away some to the salvation army and selling a few more pieces in a garage sale in the summer but yeah my mom was left with a lot of his clothes still that she'll probably end up ultimately getting rid of at the salvation army when they need more.
Before we started this up though we went through about a year of the grieving process and then decided on what if anything of his clothes to keep.
He had a black leather jacket that was in my style so I kept that to remember him by and wear eventually.
So unless you absolutely have to get rid of your mom's stuff now for some reason be if financial or whatever if I were you I'd consider thinking about if she had a shirt or coat or something that you'd like to keep to remember her by.
Obviously you are a guy and can't wear her stuff so don't think I'm suggesting that but yeah what I am suggesting is again just consider if you want anything of her's to remember her by before chucking everything out.
This awful situation just occurred for you so you may need a good amount of time before you are thinking clearly about things to make proper decisions.
You may be in a kind of shock right now which is common after a great loss.
We just had a winter garage sale. Sold a bit of the stuff, rest we gave away.
I did keep a shirt or two that smelt like my dad, but threw it out a couple years later.
Still have a deoderant stick he used, which always reminds me of him (odd thing to keep I know!).
Anyways, all the best with it, life moves on, but you have to first grieve. Everyone ends up in the same place in the end anyways (wherever that is).
I did keep a shirt or two that smelt like my dad, but threw it out a couple years later.
Still have a deoderant stick he used, which always reminds me of him (odd thing to keep I know!).
Anyways, all the best with it, life moves on, but you have to first grieve. Everyone ends up in the same place in the end anyways (wherever that is).
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
I get what you're saying. My situation is slightly complicated in the sense that my mom was renting a place. Today is already the 2nd of the month. Most places want the rent by the 5th and if you still haven't paid by the end of the month. You get evicted. Considering money is tight now, doesn't make sense to keep a place that no one is living in. Also my parents having been separated for a while now (neither of them is/was seeing any other person). Of course I will look to see what I can use it's just things like furniture etc. The clothes can always go to salvation army. She also had tons of books...KontrollerX said:Well for my dad my mom and I tried giving away some of his clothes to relatives but then we found out that most of them weren't his size.
He was a guy that I'd say was about 5'10 195lbs on average and most of his brothers were either shorter and skinnier than him or way taller and bigger than him.
I'm about his same size but the problem is we had vastly different styles of dress so they couldn't go to me either. I think we ended up giving away some to the salvation army and selling a few more pieces in a garage sale in the summer but yeah my mom was left with a lot of his clothes still that she'll probably end up ultimately getting rid of at the salvation army when they need more.
Before we started this up though we went through about a year of the grieving process and then decided on what if anything of his clothes to keep.
He had a black leather jacket that was in my style so I kept that to remember him by and wear eventually.
So unless you absolutely have to get rid of your mom's stuff now for some reason be if financial or whatever if I were you I'd consider thinking about if she had a shirt or coat or something that you'd like to keep to remember her by.
Obviously you are a guy and can't wear her stuff so don't think I'm suggesting that but yeah what I am suggesting is again just consider if you want anything of her's to remember her by before chucking everything out.
This awful situation just occurred for you so you may need a good amount of time before you are thinking clearly about things to make proper decisions.
You may be in a kind of shock right now which is common after a great loss.
alphamailman
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I'm sorry brother. This will be tough.
My mother came down with leukemia back in February and is in remission now as of a few months ago. My aunt just came down with lymphoma last month. Around the time my mother became cancer-free I almost died by a bad mix of prescription medicines with OTC medicines and supplements. Suicide or not, I'll let people draw their own conclusions, but I've got some goals I'm working towards. I do wish for a better 2009 for you and me.
My mother came down with leukemia back in February and is in remission now as of a few months ago. My aunt just came down with lymphoma last month. Around the time my mother became cancer-free I almost died by a bad mix of prescription medicines with OTC medicines and supplements. Suicide or not, I'll let people draw their own conclusions, but I've got some goals I'm working towards. I do wish for a better 2009 for you and me.
Sorry for your loss. The only words I have for you is something from Steve Jobs. He said that death is inevitable but also necessary for us to live our lives to the fullest. Without death, we may live for eternity without purpose. The short time we have on this earth is what makes life difficult and valueable.
So, with the moments you had with your mother, live the rest of your life. Exemplify the character that she brought you up to become. And live every moment as if she were still here watching.
So, with the moments you had with your mother, live the rest of your life. Exemplify the character that she brought you up to become. And live every moment as if she were still here watching.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
bob2007 said:Sorry for your loss. The only words I have for you is something from Steve Jobs. He said that death is inevitable but also necessary for us to live our lives to the fullest. Without death, we may live for eternity without purpose. The short time we have on this earth is what makes life difficult and valueable.
So, with the moments you had with your mother, live the rest of your life. Exemplify the character that she brought you up to become. And live every moment as if she were still here watching.[/QUOTE
Such wise words, thank you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.