my LTR is convinced that I cheated TWICE,but...

[yogy]

well as the title says my LTR is convinced that I cheated TWICE,but I didn't and it's driving my crazy.What do you think guys about this situation??? Testing or just crazy ?

I am in this LTR for about 2 years now and it's very up/down.One day everything is perfect the next one is hell.And I just can't make up my mind to continue or just end it.
I have VERY good reasons to stay in this LTR,but at the same time a LOT of crazy days.The thing is that I do want to have a family, kinds ( the main reason I am in a LTR ) so as she,but ...

What do you think? Any advices to help me decide?

PS: this is one of the crazy days:cuss:

 

[Zarky]

Women like to think that other women are interested in you. If a woman accuses you of cheating, but doesn't leave you because of it, then that's a tip-off. It's a good idea not to "admit" to it (because you didn't do it), but it's a bad idea to completely convince her that you didn't. Let her wonder.

Here's a summary: deep down, she wants to think you did screw other women, or were at least capable of it. She will be more disappointed if you completely prove to her that you didn't, than if you really did. Especially if those women you allegedly "cheated" with are attractive.

 

[amoka]

Just tell her you did.....with her sister.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

What do you think? Any advices to help me decide?

PS: this is one of the crazy days:cuss:

I suggest the Amityville Horror Strategy:


GET!!!

OUT!!!

 

[Desdinova]

A woman should add happiness to your life, not take it away. If she's taking it away, you shouldn't be with her.

 

[Rescue Mission]

you're a moron. A total pvssy.

Like other pvssies such as yourself, you are doing EVERYTHING backwards.

The WRONG way of doing things is wanting a family and relationship, and then finding a girl to do that with - this is exactly how people end up with the wrong kind of girl.

The RIGHT way of doing things is to meet women with a clear mind, to get to know them for a long time, get to like them, get to love them, MAKE SURE that you are with a wonderful woman FIRST, and only THEN start thinking about being in a relationship with that woman, and THEN after several years, after you have had a GREAT relationship, THEN you start thinking about having a family with her........and not because you are a selfish pvssy and you WANT a family all to yourself, but because you love HER and want a family with HER

 

[WhitePimp]

Yeah, she sounds like a fvcking nut. Stay at your own risk.

Although, what's that thing that people do where they project their own guilt on someone else? Since she's been cheating she also assumes YOU have been cheating as well because she feels guilty. Maybe she's the one messing around.

 

[boynamedsue]

Ive heard pretty frequently around here when a girl is "hot then cold" with you, it typically means there is or might be another guy involved.. And to top it off, she is accusing you of cheating, which also might be a way of deferring her guilt onto you..
Either way the fact you are already thinking about ending things makes this decision a little bit easier.
You already know you need to bail on her. Its not going to work out in the long run if you are looking to settle down so why waste each others time.

 

[SoldMySoul]

you're a moron. A total pvssy.

Like other pvssies such as yourself, you are doing EVERYTHING backwards.

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Damn Rescue!!!! Could you be more of an a$$hole to this guy???? That crap you said about him was off base man!!! You do not like it when Bluntmaster dog's you and you are turning around dogging a guy on here for no reason!!!!

How are you adding to the good of the site by bashing this guy??? Think about it! True, the OP may be misguided and led by emotions. No need to add insult to his injury.

 

[amoka]

Damn Rescue!!!! Could you be more of an a$$hole to this guy???? That crap you said about him was off base man!!! You do not like it when Bluntmaster dog's you and you are turning around dogging a guy on here for no reason!!!!

How are you adding to the good of the site by bashing this guy??? Think about it! True, the OP may be misguided and led by emotions. No need to add insult to his injury.

The Ignore list works perfectly. Put those keyboard DJs on your ignore list and have peace of mind.

 

[Rescue Mission]

Damn Rescue!!!! Could you be more of an a$$hole to this guy???? That crap you said about him was off base man!!! You do not like it when Bluntmaster dog's you and you are turning around dogging a guy on here for no reason!!!!

How are you adding to the good of the site by bashing this guy??? Think about it! True, the OP may be misguided and led by emotions. No need to add insult to his injury.

It takes a really ignorant person to post what you just posted.

You quoted my first 2 lines, but you forgot to read my next TWO PARAGRAPHS where I go into details of how he is being a pvssy, and how he can stop being a pvssy.

Learn to read.

 

[Rescue Mission]

The Ignore list works perfectly. Put those keyboard DJs on your ignore list and have peace of mind.

you sound like a woman.

Making a blanket statement with no logic to it whatsoever.....you don't even know me, you have no idea how many women I have fvcked in my short lifetime so far, so how bout you be a man and take another man's word.

 

[Rescue Mission]

by the way, look at these 2 gems that the original poster posted in the last year:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=163359
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=171276

Staying in a "hot/cold, love/fight" relationship is EXACTLY the kind of thing a pvssified guy would do. I call a spade a spade, and some of you other pvssies need to stop backing these guys up.........this relationship, is DISASTEROUS, and something I am way too smart and experienced to ever want to be a part of.

Again, my explanation as to why the original poster is a pvssy, and how he can fix this:

The WRONG way of doing things is wanting a family and relationship, and then finding a girl to do that with - this is exactly how people end up with the wrong kind of girl.

The RIGHT way of doing things is to meet women with a clear mind, to get to know them for a long time, get to like them, get to love them, MAKE SURE that you are with a wonderful woman FIRST, and only THEN start thinking about being in a relationship with that woman, and THEN after several years, after you have had a GREAT relationship, THEN you start thinking about having a family with her........and not because you are a selfish pvssy and you WANT a family all to yourself, but because you love HER and want a family with HER

 

[SoldMySoul]

It takes a really ignorant person to post what you just posted.

You quoted my first 2 lines, but you forgot to read my next TWO PARAGRAPHS where I go into details of how he is being a pvssy, and how he can stop being a pvssy.

Learn to read.

And it takes an even bigger a$$ to post what you just did!!! You called the guy a pVssy and a moron... so that excuses you because you try and give advice after calling the guy names? It does not work like that! Simply give him advice without trashing the man is all I am suggesting. You have thin skin my friend and I called you on your error!

If the OP is acting like what you call then fine.... no need to tell him he is one!

Then you are bashing Amoka, calling him a woman. It makes no difference how many women you have banged. How about be a man and act like one instead of a child with the names.

IGNORANT is not knowing any better or having been trained or educated. I read what you said and there is no justification to call names without provocation.

If you do not like what the OP was asking then leave your garbage out. A true DJ would give advice without the name calling. Sometimes you add immensely to this site, but at others not so much!

 

[3countriesPlan]

A relationship with huge peaks and valleys, you need to think about how damn low those valleys go and think about how the relationship would be if the valleys were just a bit shallower. She won't change so if you want a good relationship with shallower valleys you need to find someone else. It will be hard! Those peaks are like crack for you cause when you get rid of her you will be withdrawing and it is during those vulnerable times you will think about all those great memories! Upgrade your love life by picking a new girl to spend time with.

 

[Still_Skippin]

by the way, look at these 2 gems that the original poster posted in the last year:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=163359
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=171276

Staying in a "hot/cold, love/fight" relationship is EXACTLY the kind of thing a pvssified guy would do. I call a spade a spade, and some of you other pvssies need to stop backing these guys up.........this relationship, is DISASTEROUS, and something I am way too smart and experienced to ever want to be a part of.

Again, my explanation as to why the original poster is a pvssy, and how he can fix this:

The WRONG way of doing things is wanting a family and relationship, and then finding a girl to do that with - this is exactly how people end up with the wrong kind of girl.

The RIGHT way of doing things is to meet women with a clear mind, to get to know them for a long time, get to like them, get to love them, MAKE SURE that you are with a wonderful woman FIRST, and only THEN start thinking about being in a relationship with that woman, and THEN after several years, after you have had a GREAT relationship, THEN you start thinking about having a family with her........and not because you are a selfish pvssy and you WANT a family all to yourself, but because you love HER and want a family with HER

IS YOUR CAPS LOCK BUTTON BROKEN YET????

 

[drak_ool]

it's a bad idea to completely convince her that you didn't. Let her wonder.

I don't see how that would work in a committed relationship. The above is fine advice for a situation where you're casually seeing the girl/spinning plates/playing the field/etc. but not when you have a LTR.

It's a good idea to let your girl think that other girls want you, it's not a good idea to let your girlfriend think that you are fvcking other girls. Any quality woman would walk away.

To the OP: if your girl is so convinced you cheated, might as well do it now! She'll be bi.tching at you either way, right? Just keep denying it, but at least you got something out of it.

 

[runner83]

by the way, look at these 2 gems that the original poster posted in the last year:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=163359
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=171276

Staying in a "hot/cold, love/fight" relationship is EXACTLY the kind of thing a pvssified guy would do. I call a spade a spade, and some of you other pvssies need to stop backing these guys up.........this relationship, is DISASTEROUS, and something I am way too smart and experienced to ever want to be a part of.

Again, my explanation as to why the original poster is a pvssy, and how he can fix this:

The WRONG way of doing things is wanting a family and relationship, and then finding a girl to do that with - this is exactly how people end up with the wrong kind of girl.

The RIGHT way of doing things is to meet women with a clear mind, to get to know them for a long time, get to like them, get to love them, MAKE SURE that you are with a wonderful woman FIRST, and only THEN start thinking about being in a relationship with that woman, and THEN after several years, after you have had a GREAT relationship, THEN you start thinking about having a family with her........and not because you are a selfish pvssy and you WANT a family all to yourself, but because you love HER and want a family with HER

I completely agree, RM.

There might some people on here who do not agree with your writing style. But I always find it a refreshing change, since you tell it like it is.

Judging from your number of rep points already, I think a lot of other people do as well.

Keep it up.

 

[squirrels]

well as the title says my LTR is convinced that I cheated TWICE,but I didn't and it's driving my crazy.What do you think guys about this situation??? Testing or just crazy ?

I am in this LTR for about 2 years now and it's very up/down.One day everything is perfect the next one is hell...

...aaaaand that's where I stop reading.

I just don't understand why people who call themselves "men" persist in "relationships" that make them miserable...even "only" every other day.

 

[eaglez1177]

And it takes an even bigger a$$ to post what you just did!!! You called the guy a pVssy and a moron... so that excuses you because you try and give advice after calling the guy names? It does not work like that! Simply give him advice without trashing the man is all I am suggesting. You have thin skin my friend and I called you on your error!

If the OP is acting like what you call then fine.... no need to tell him he is one!

Then you are bashing Amoka, calling him a woman. It makes no difference how many women you have banged. How about be a man and act like one instead of a child with the names.

IGNORANT is not knowing any better or having been trained or educated. I read what you said and there is no justification to call names without provocation.

If you do not like what the OP was asking then leave your garbage out. A true DJ would give advice without the name calling. Sometimes you add immensely to this site, but at others not so much!

Actually, Rescue Mission is right on target. YOU are the one who is off. A true DJ would give advice without leaving anything out, and would go straight and to the point, even if it means calling the OP out on what he TRULY is.

Often times the only way to get pieces of advice through a persons head is to be as harsh as possible; only then will they actually listen.

Rescue Mission is doing the OP a favor by not "toning down" the intensity of his advice.