My Life

[adpreston1988]

I just joined this message board today and have enjoyed reading everyone’s comments. The problem I need help with obviously involves girls. Basically, I know a lot of the girls at my high school but I’m not very close with any of them. Really, the only way I meet girls during the weekends is by hanging out with my friends who arranged for the girls to come. Girls just don’t seem interested in me, and the ones that are I’m not interested in them. But it hasn’t been like this all my life. I’m not bragging or anything, but I used to be really popular in middle school and had a bunch of girlfriends. I used to hang out with like all the hot and popular chicks at my current high school, but now I seem to barely know them.

I don’t know the exact cause of why I’ve fallen from being a chick magnet, but I really want to fix it. The only thing that comes to mind is my Dad. In 8th grade (while I was away from home) he ended up getting in an argument with some really close friends of mine and called the police on them for playing hockey on the tennis court (My Dad was definitely 100% in the wrong). He got into it with one of my friend’s moms and ever since then my friend and I haven’t spoken. It didn’t matter that I was just his son and disagreed with him 100% because all my friends took it out on me anyways. I’ve just started to become closer with the other friends of mine that were involved in the incident. In addition to this, in 10th grade my Dad student taught at my high school for students that I knew. I expressed my feeling that I didn’t want him student teaching at my school but he ignored me. I was made fun of and had a horrible sophomore year. While both of these stories seem insignificant they really affected me and I still become sad to this day looking back on them. They completely destroyed my confidence and I’ve never been the same since. I don’t know how to become outgoing and a chick magnet again. I know my looks are fine; it’s my personality that I need to work on for girls to like me. While I have a lot of different groups of friends and they usually get girls to come hang out with us, I still feel lonely a lot of the time. It was like my world was turned upside down over 4-5 years. I used to be the kid that every girl had a crush on and now I’m the kid that girls don’t seem to notice at all. This has been on my mind for a long time and I’m just dying for any kind of advice/help to get my life back on track.

 

[adpreston1988]

no replies??!!

 

[The Master Disaster]

NO OFFENSE but you sound whiny, not in control and girls don't like that. You need to get this whiny sense of yourself out of you. You need to brush your shoulders off. I mean seriously "My dad student taught." OH NO! get that **** out of your mind man. I mean seriously would you want to go out with a girl who was whiny and not sure of herself. If you can't get past this, than i don't think you really had this in the first place.

 

[08aisaac]

Ahh man, don't worry about it.
The same thing happened to me, except I was never really popular.
Simple solution. Kill your father.
Ok, not really.
But it must be a rep thing, that's causing you so much grief.
So, get a new rep. Slowly start getting it out of your head that you are some loser. Respecting yourself is the biggest thing to a successful reputation.
How can you expect people to respect you if you don't respect yourself?

 

[adpreston1988]

Any other advice on how to get girls to notice me again?

 

[Mr. Unique]

Read the bible b!tch!

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

 

[adpreston1988]

My problem is that I only seem to hang out with girls during the weekend as a result of hanging out with my friends. My best friend is definitely a chick magnet and because of this whenever we hang out with girls they always seem to chat and hang out with him instead of me. How can I get girls to be interested in me as well??

 

[Mycroft]

Man, I think you should forge ahead, take chance, and forget the past. Don't compensate for it, don't care what others think, just out, make the best of your life. Here is a tip talk to at least one new person(especially a girl) a day, so you get to know people it will expand your social network.

 

[08aisaac]

Well, improve yourself.
But also, if he's your best friend and a chick magnet, maybe you should bring yourself up to his level, by learning what he does that makes him so good with girls.