My latest text for setting a date

[tryst type]

Been using this with much success:

"let's get together this week! I'm pretty sure I can fit you into my schedule because I just found the cutest pencil I'm dying to use! You can thank it later"

 

[rocket87]

I don't know if you're looking for critique but here it is:

- text vs. call: when you ask a girl out for a first get together, it's generally a good idea to call to 1. Show you have the balls to call her 2. Heighten your status since the phone is more real than words on a screen

- validation seeking: you're seeking her approval by saying let's get together this week, essentially looking for a validation (positive reply).

- specific place: You should always offer a specific place or event to do, you're giving her control by the venue being up for debate

- gayness: the cutest pencil thing just sounds ridiculous. I could only see this being accepted as funny / relevant On certain types of girls... (no offense.. But you should be subtly finding out their schedule through personable interactions)

 

[tryst type]

Great points. I should have clarified that I use that on girls I've already hung out with/been physical which I haven't seen in a while. Just gets them to respond so more details can be established.

 

[rocket87]

Well that definitely makes more sense then. Really it all depends on each girl and how they reply to different cues. If that works for you, keep at it - for others, I wouldn't use it word for word.

 

[rocket87]

How exactly do you convey that you want to meet a girl without the "we should do something on....at...". Sounds a bit like trying to speak in sign language without hands. How else are you going to invite a girl out...

Well, when you are asking them out for the first time, I strongly believe it should always be in person or over the phone. Either works and neither is better than the other. So this advice applies to both. Just don't ask girls out over text.. It's ridiculous. If she doesn't have time, she sure as sh!t won't have time for you to bend her over backwards, so get used to calling. :trouble:

By the time you're asking them out, you SHOULD have a good idea of what their schedule is like.. If they're a model and travel 5 days a week, what could possibly be easier than: calling, saying hey, joking about one or two things you talked about previously, then saying "so what's your model schedule like hot shot?" Easy 5 minute phone call.

Another example.. Last week, I met a girl on Mon. I quickly found out, just by conversing with her, that she has a full time job and works 9-5. To initiate a hang out, I said exactly, "We should grab coffee sometime - do you like coffee?" to which she responded, "Yes, of course! I like tea too.." Notice how easy it is for her to say yes.. Of course she likes coffee. If she hates coffee, have a backup plan. Offer something else. "Well you must love tea? If not you're missing out!"

(personally I hate coffee dates, and would rather do an outside activity, but this was the only option. You can use this for any fun/interactive date idea.)

Before the initial interaction was over, and shortly after asking the coffee question, I attempted to get her to agree to a specific day and time (not EXACT time, but "general" time). Notice I bolded attempted because girls have a hard time agreeing to specific dates and times, which is OK; that's how girls are.

So I said: "I'm busy tomorrow, but I can hang on Weds. Does Wednesday after work work for you?" and she said yes. I then called her the next day, Tues, she picked up, and I said "Hey HB! This is your snowboarder/runner/skydiving friend - What's up? Chatted for a few mins, brought up some lame sh!t about what kind of dogs we have. Then I asked if she was still free on Weds. Which she was. Once you solidify it, get off the phone. You have better things to do than dilly dally with some girl who you have yet to fu#k.

This is fairly easy stuff. The hard part is opening/creating attraction and of course not fu*king up the date.

Again: You gotta remember, people with real jobs, real lives, and real priorities make schedules. A lot of girls, I've found (probably due to my age range? or maybe just women in general) are absolutely, ridiculously, unbelievably horrendous when it comes to making an actual "plan." They are usually self-admitting about their horrible lack of ability to this as well. However, if they are interested in you. Just reinforce how busy you are that week and that she needs to let you know so that you can plan your day.

 

[GoodButNotGreat]

Again: You gotta remember, people with real jobs, real lives, and real priorities make schedules. A lot of girls, I've found (probably due to my age range? or maybe just women in general) are absolutely, ridiculously, unbelievably horrendous when it comes to making an actual "plan." They are usually self-admitting about their horrible lack of ability to this as well. However, if they are interested in you. Just reinforce how busy you are that week and that she needs to let you know so that you can plan your day.

I really like this. I feel like it will re-iterate the fact to them that I'm a busy guy. I have really used the whole "busy" aspect with girls and it really makes them respect me/my time and take me much more seriously.

 

[GoodButNotGreat]

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