Paid Laid & Made
Senior Don Juan
Thanks for all your input on my temper/anger problem.
Here is the deal,
Talked with the EX. Her parents were gone for a week and on Tuesday after work she decided to go over to her friend Josh's house with a co-worker of her's (female), who I happen to be friends with. The guy had a friend over and the coworker started talking with the dude, while my EX and Josh went upstairs, one thing led to another and her pants came off. She told him, that she could not though, zipped up and left, but he grabbed her a$$ and told her to start hanging out more. The coworker witnessed none of this apparently, one of my EX's friends, told me the story again with a different ending the guy going the next day to her work and doing the a$$ grabbing thing. I seriously think it might be a fake story, due to you guys knowing about her laundry list of things she does not do, but it might be true. He never called her after that for the last 3 days.
During our convo, I remained calm and did not flip out and did offer her my .02 on the situation. He wanted her a$$ and sex. He got denied. She thinks it could turn into a relationship but is confused. I told her not to count on it.
My problem lies here. I invited her over to my place on Monday for some catchup time, we did not see each other after the breakup and well I think its about time we do it. I arranged for the day-time. I hope she does not cancel on me. I have a GF sort of and she is a very forgiving girl and knows the pain and seperation anxiety I experienced from our split, but tells me that she is happy I did not cut her (The EX) out of my life. She also enlightened me that if something like a kiss were to happen on Monday she would forgive me, no questions asked.
If she does accept my offer to attend on Monday, I will probably take her to my room to watch a movie on my 30" HDTV Television. After that I will lead her to my door / walk her out to her car and well that is where I am very lost.
- What movie should I rent for the occassion. Don't want something which is to romantic and might freak her out. Televison is not an option, cable is not connected yet, but will be on Monday from 2 till 6.
- Afterwards, how should I act, give her a hug or go for a kiss? I know you all know that I craved her in a more then friend way and considered making out with her a important step in our EX Relationship friendship, but I will be at crossroads. I am torn on the issue, I know after the guy with pants situation, I can walk away with it. I might damage our relationship, but many of you already suggested leaving her and cutting her off.
My feelings were extremely hurt, first time her story got told. Her friend shared it with me, christmas eve and I had problems sleeping. I know it might not be true, but if it is ... then 2 months of my life were taken for nothing, as this will prove that I was only her charity pity case boyfriend, which I seriously did not want to be. Plus, the biggest slap is knowing that another guy could get her pants off in less then an hour whereby I could not in 2 months cause I was shy and respected her. I feel like a failure.
I still do care for this girl and we did split on good terms, I was just not aggressive enough (bad boy type) and dropped the ball with my AFC'ness. She did not see me in our 2 months apart and I did change my look and have developed a different attitude. She is single and maybe I am just mis-interperting this but sends me signals, like keeping me around which she never did with any other guy. I am contemplating if I should give it one hardcore shot on Monday give it everything I learned on this site and my take no prisoners attitude and maybe show her that I am better then her other choice(s). My sort of GF, is really just a good friend, who I could see as maybe a possiblity but due to my emotional baggage and her not being that attractive, it could only lead to disaster.
- So take a chance and go for it? Show her everything that has changed or step back and accept my role in the graveyard of dead BF's and become her friend or even just leave her completely (which I would rather not)?
Thanks in Advance.
Here is the deal,
Talked with the EX. Her parents were gone for a week and on Tuesday after work she decided to go over to her friend Josh's house with a co-worker of her's (female), who I happen to be friends with. The guy had a friend over and the coworker started talking with the dude, while my EX and Josh went upstairs, one thing led to another and her pants came off. She told him, that she could not though, zipped up and left, but he grabbed her a$$ and told her to start hanging out more. The coworker witnessed none of this apparently, one of my EX's friends, told me the story again with a different ending the guy going the next day to her work and doing the a$$ grabbing thing. I seriously think it might be a fake story, due to you guys knowing about her laundry list of things she does not do, but it might be true. He never called her after that for the last 3 days.
During our convo, I remained calm and did not flip out and did offer her my .02 on the situation. He wanted her a$$ and sex. He got denied. She thinks it could turn into a relationship but is confused. I told her not to count on it.
My problem lies here. I invited her over to my place on Monday for some catchup time, we did not see each other after the breakup and well I think its about time we do it. I arranged for the day-time. I hope she does not cancel on me. I have a GF sort of and she is a very forgiving girl and knows the pain and seperation anxiety I experienced from our split, but tells me that she is happy I did not cut her (The EX) out of my life. She also enlightened me that if something like a kiss were to happen on Monday she would forgive me, no questions asked.
If she does accept my offer to attend on Monday, I will probably take her to my room to watch a movie on my 30" HDTV Television. After that I will lead her to my door / walk her out to her car and well that is where I am very lost.
- What movie should I rent for the occassion. Don't want something which is to romantic and might freak her out. Televison is not an option, cable is not connected yet, but will be on Monday from 2 till 6.
- Afterwards, how should I act, give her a hug or go for a kiss? I know you all know that I craved her in a more then friend way and considered making out with her a important step in our EX Relationship friendship, but I will be at crossroads. I am torn on the issue, I know after the guy with pants situation, I can walk away with it. I might damage our relationship, but many of you already suggested leaving her and cutting her off.
My feelings were extremely hurt, first time her story got told. Her friend shared it with me, christmas eve and I had problems sleeping. I know it might not be true, but if it is ... then 2 months of my life were taken for nothing, as this will prove that I was only her charity pity case boyfriend, which I seriously did not want to be. Plus, the biggest slap is knowing that another guy could get her pants off in less then an hour whereby I could not in 2 months cause I was shy and respected her. I feel like a failure.
I still do care for this girl and we did split on good terms, I was just not aggressive enough (bad boy type) and dropped the ball with my AFC'ness. She did not see me in our 2 months apart and I did change my look and have developed a different attitude. She is single and maybe I am just mis-interperting this but sends me signals, like keeping me around which she never did with any other guy. I am contemplating if I should give it one hardcore shot on Monday give it everything I learned on this site and my take no prisoners attitude and maybe show her that I am better then her other choice(s). My sort of GF, is really just a good friend, who I could see as maybe a possiblity but due to my emotional baggage and her not being that attractive, it could only lead to disaster.
- So take a chance and go for it? Show her everything that has changed or step back and accept my role in the graveyard of dead BF's and become her friend or even just leave her completely (which I would rather not)?
Thanks in Advance.
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