My Journey to (become the most popular kid in college)

[Crissco]

Its never to late. Im Crissco. 22 years old.

Looking back to high school I have one regret, that's not ruling that school with a passion. I had complications through high school that wasn't of the norm.

This is where you guys come in. Ive worked my self up to come to realize my potential for women/jobs/ and life in general.

Im going back to college, even though its a community college and a bit bigger then a HS, I want to rule that school with a passion(You also have to think, people have rules various countries and territories over the years, whats one school).

I want my cell phone to blow up with calls every minute of the day(and yes I know it gets annoying but at least ill have something to always look back on).

This is what im going to achieve:

.Maintain a 3.0 or better grade average.

.Have a main social circle of friends who are a positive influence.
.Have acquaintances all around the school, every age, every race, ever size.(knowing the'll be at my dispense at a drop of a dime)
.Have a girlfriend for every class I take.
.Be a LEADER, not a follower.

Any tips, ideas, game plans that I can use to make friends(Girl and Guy) and RULE that school.

 

[kingsam]

Its never to late. Im Crissco. 22 years old.

Looking back to high school I have one regret, that's not ruling that school with a passion. I had complications through high school that wasn't of the norm.

This is where you guys come in. Ive worked my self up to come to realize my potential for women/jobs/ and life in general.

Im going back to college, even though its a community college and a bit bigger then a HS, I want to rule that school with a passion(You also have to think, people have rules various countries and territories over the years, whats one school).

I want my cell phone to blow up with calls every minute of the day(and yes I know it gets annoying but at least ill have something to always look back on).

This is what im going to achieve:

.Maintain a 3.0 or better grade average.

.Have a main social circle of friends who are a positive influence.
.Have acquaintances all around the school, every age, every race, ever size.(knowing the'll be at my dispense at a drop of a dime)
.Have a girlfriend for every class I take.
.Be a LEADER, not a follower.

Any tips, ideas, game plans that I can use to make friends(Girl and Guy) and RULE that school.

fvck sake , i wasnt gonna answer , acidently did so may as well say what i thought

leaders
3 types of ppl (yes obvious but...)
1- natural leaders
2-people who wil never be leaders
3- people who can become leaders eventually BUT only after gaining background knowledge and experiece, time to develop it - ther no easy way to Read-up-on leadership then be able to lead, you have to learn by experince (similar to being a DJ, but prob harder to get right - less straight forward)

you want to be a Leader but by asking how to do it shows you are either a no2 or 3. hopefully a no2 for you
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some thing s you can do ...
- be the person who arranges social actitities
- speak out (the perople who speack up most are by deafult seen as the biggest leaders)
- have worthwhile contributions to make (eg in class) - ie dont be the person who like the sound of their own voice, it pisses people off
- get your calss mate to go for drinks at the end of the day ...
i imaging CC is not the same as a normal undergraduate college experience as they may be older students (married/families = less social), every one may live further away (not all togethe ron campus), part timers, among other things which will make it mor edifficualt for you

id like to see other peoples opinions

 

[Crissco]

fvck sake , i wasnt gonna answer , acidently did so may as well say what i thought

leaders
3 types of ppl (yes obvious but...)
1- natural leaders
2-people who wil never be leaders
3- people who can become leaders eventually BUT only after gaining background knowledge and experiece, time to develop it - ther no easy way to Read-up-on leadership then be able to lead, you have to learn by experince (similar to being a DJ, but prob harder to get right - less straight forward)

you want to be a Leader but by asking how to do it shows you are either a no2 or 3. hopefully a no2 for you
----
some thing s you can do ...
- be the person who arranges social actitities
- speak out (the perople who speack up most are by deafult seen as the biggest leaders)
- have worthwhile contributions to make (eg in class) - ie dont be the person who like the sound of their own voice, it pisses people off
- get your calss mate to go for drinks at the end of the day ...
i imaging CC is not the same as a normal undergraduate college experience as they may be older students (married/families = less social), every one may live further away (not all togethe ron campus), part timers, among other things which will make it mor edifficualt for you

id like to see other peoples opinions

Actually bro im a natural born leader. I have my spurts of confidence where I show my leader characteristics. I just never stepped up or really stood up for my self in the past.

I like the getting your classmates to go for drinks at the end of the day, at least its getting your self out there and socializing.

Your right about it not being the same as an undergraduate college, there aren't any dorms or the people aren't as close.

Thanks for the advice/opinions bro

 

[Crissco]

Are there any books I can read on power and an area that would take my to the top? I already have the 48 laws of power.

 

[AtomicDog]

More self-deception going on, I see.

Leadership isn't some innate, genetic quality. Leadership doesn't exist in a vacuum, as a generic capability to be applied to any scenario.

The real leaders are the inventors and innovators. Those who think independently and come up with new ideas that didn't exist previously.

All other "leaders" are simply glorified imitators of that original spark of genius.

 

[kingsam]

AD care to elaborate , that was a litlle vauge and im sure im not the only one who is not sure what you mean?

The real leaders are the inventors and innovators.

this fits in a corporate(or transferable) context where businesses that are innovative end up Leading the market/sector...etc

this fits in the OP's context? not so much... theres nothing as such to innovate/invent... more just being the proactive organiser and personable/very like-able to others...

 

[kingsam]

Are there any books I can read on power and an area that would take my to the top? I already have the 48 laws of power.

the 48 laws is almost too amoral for this situation
possibly laws 11,13,46 - but you just need to be nice appraochable and get peole to like you...

my suggestions are based from my postgraduate classes (similar to a CC class - range of ages, married , single, people live all over london, some part time...etc), and my observations of the more leader-type people in the classes, and how they behave...

this is quite interesting to me as in am currently writing an essay of Leadership! I remember from the classes in Leadership many of my class were *****ing that we didnt get given an 'A-B-C' of how to be a leader...and as i said before you cant just read up "how to be a leader" - it takes experience and a form of genuinity...
but another good book worth getting is "How to win freinds and influence people" by dale carnegie - an international best seller -

 

[Crissco]

More self-deception going on, I see.

Leadership isn't some innate, genetic quality. Leadership doesn't exist in a vacuum, as a generic capability to be applied to any scenario.

The real leaders are the inventors and innovators. Those who think independently and come up with new ideas that didn't exist previously.

All other "leaders" are simply glorified imitators of that original spark of genius.

I understand what you mean here. Makes complete sense.

 

[comic_relief]

fvck popularity, its overrated BS and psychological trap.

Most people fall into the popularity trap. It causes them to analyze sh!t to see if it would be cool instead of just doing it. Most people that are "popular" are ones that have a lot of life experiences.

I just go for my own goals (charity ride and Americorps), my small group of about five people, my girlfriend, and awesome clubs like Amnesty International and Conestoga Club.

Don't become a leader, just become a fun guy. The fun guys are generally the leaders by default because people follow them. Usually fun guys get some strong people to follow them as well.

- comic_relief

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I go to community college too, and I want to become a leader. It's a wonderful thing, to have power and know what to do with it. Power is constantly up for grabs, you just have to know when to take it and what to do with it.

Crissco, you can definitely do this. But you have to have what you want straight.

If you want your cell phone constantly blown, just fill out every survey, every bullshyt job application and advertisement you can find. Hopefully your cell won't stop ringing.

No - what's sensible is to know what you want, and find out how to get it.

You want friends who want to talk to you. Sometimes, in order to reach that point, you have to lead them there. That may be by calling them a few nights a week for a month, and asking them to return your calls so that they get used to calling you. Then you can stop calling them for awhile because they will call you if they want to talk.

Having your phone ring doesn't make you popular. It's an illusion to an extent.

This is what im going to achieve:

.Maintain a 3.0 or better grade average.

.Have a main social circle of friends who are a positive influence.
.Have acquaintances all around the school, every age, every race, ever size.(knowing the'll be at my dispense at a drop of a dime)
.Have a girlfriend for every class I take.
.Be a LEADER, not a follower.

You can DEFINITELY achieve all of this, except for the one I put in bold.

If you change that to something more realistic, like to date girls in SOME of your classes or to be fvcking girls in SOME of your classes, then you can definitely achieve this as well.

A leader does NOT have the "all-or-none" mindset, unless he has everything to lose.

That mindset will end up fvcking you from behind because you'll be over analyzing and over prioritizing.

Instead, focus on getting to that point step-by-step. You can't take everything all at once and expect to keep it; you need to secure each piece of your social status in a small amount at a time.

fvck popularity, its overrated BS and psychological trap.

Most people fall into the popularity trap. It causes them to analyze sh!t to see if it would be cool instead of just doing it. Most people that are "popular" are ones that have a lot of life experiences.

Listen to this guy.
Popularity is something that a guy who isn't popular can't fully understand until he experiences it. It acts as a drug and you will notice things about it that you don't like in the long run.

Your goal should not be a "label" but instead, something you can grasp, like the life experiences that comic relief mentioned.

I am on the same journey as you Crissco, and I feel like changing my social life once I get back to school tomorrow. Let spring break be a turning point this year.

One last word of advice I want to give you is to SPEAK OUT whenever you possibly can. You will say things that you wish you hadn't said, but you will LEARN what creates good results, and what creates bad results.

Good luck dude.

 

[Crissco]

Alright guys, after taking in what everyone said here are some new goals I came up with.

1. Get a 3.5 - 4.0 Grade Point average. Even if it takes away from friends/girl friends.

2. Have a set of friends that I can call / hangout with most of the time and also know how to get me out of a slump if im in one. Vice Verca

3. Be known around the school for being a genuine, fun loving person who's open a lot different possibilities and in return I will have genuine, fun loving positive influences in my life.

4. Have 3 girls that I can hang out with/FB whenever. Spinning plates(Look it up if you dont know what it is).
Pick one activity out side of school to do(Martial Arts, gymnastics, football...)

 

[Crissco]

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