"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My job is f'in my health up

Skel

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So lest start with my job. I work in an office working on a computer 9 hours a day. Ive done it for about 9 years now and im starting to have problems with my shoulder, neck and hands.

ONe morning I woke up and my neck was stiff as hell. I couldnt turn it side to side. I went to a chriopractor/massage therapist. I found out when I was there that I have tendonitis of shoulder and of the elbow and probably am getting carpul tunel(spelling?) in my right hand. She says my muscles are overworked or strained or something and my muscles are pulling down on my right shoulder. When I stand in the mirror I can literally see my right shoulder is lower than my left one.

She gave me a couple of excersises to do and told me to ice and heat it twice a day and to get massage therapy. I have been doing this for 2 weeksd and so far no improvement. I actually thing it sworse. It hurts like **** right now at work. IM wondering if there is anything else I can do/see. IM really scared for my health. I cant quit this job because I have put so much into it and tto do that now would screw my career.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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reyalp

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Get a good chair. Put your arms up onto the table more.
Take your wallet out of your back pocket.
If your chair has arms on it, take them off. You might lean too much

Just a couple of things.
I work 14hrs a day, 3 of it running around on roofs, 2 of it driving, and the rest being on the computer/phone, I feel where you're coming from. Just get comfortable.
 

RedPill

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Do some searches for "ergonomics." Get anal about making sure your entire work setup is ergonomically correct. This should eliminate most of your problems.
 

Griffith

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Get a good mouse too, and some mousepads have a little wrist rest that is supposed to help with carpal tunnel.
 
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