mongoose01
Don Juan
I haven’t posted in awhile, but have been lurking for some time. I’m starting to see a very repetitive tone in a lot of the post or questions. The ‘my girlfriend left me that I’ve been dating for one month’ post is reoccurring constantly.
Some of the post are down right pitiful. Trust me, I’ve been there. My post were probably more pitiful than some of the current ones. I believe a lot of you guys are really missing the point of the advice and the purpose of this website.
If you get dumped by a girl, it’s natural to want to get her back. It’s human behavior. Desiring something you can’t have. The thing is however, you lose all power by doing undignified things that will probably make you cringe five years from now. I’ve done them, so I’m not criticizing. I’ve done things you can put in a movie.
Trust me, cutting off contact is the best option. It’s hard to do, but it’s the best thing. Whether you want her back or you decide to move on – cut off all contact. Yeah, it’ll be hard because you want to check in and see what she is doing (is she boning someone else).
That brings me to my next point. Some of you guys are rather young to be so hung up on one girl. Also, some of you guys haven’t known the girl for a long period of time. Come on!!
We all need to have a shift of perception and focus. You should not invest so much emotion and focus into finding a woman. That should not be what makes you as a man. Your setting yourself up for failure and years of an unhappy situation.
Your focus should be on life and the journey of life. Now when you finally do get the big dump and all contact will have to be ceased, then you’ll realize what I’m talking about. You’ll then be forced to pick up the pieces and put yourself back together. How do you do that. Well sitting around in your apartment drinking and doing God knows what else is not the answer. If you spend too much time alone, you’ll develop warp perceptions and theories… and start to believe them. So what should you do.
Spend that time to re-invent yourself. Improve yourself. How? Well I’ll tell what I’m doing. Because I’m doing it right now.
Cut off all contact.
Don’t brood too long trying to figure out the relationship and what went wrong. Evaluate what happened and the part you played. Make note of your mistakes or shortcomings and make steps toward improvement in those areas.
Exercise. Do pushups if equipment is not available. Do something.
Eat properly. I’m not going to elaborate too much on this one. There are many post in the Health forum to cover this.
Read. This is my list:
Art of Seduction by Robert Greene – This book opened my eyes to the crap that is what subjected to.
48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene – Good book. It’s good to recognize these principles.
The Bible. No further explanation. I’m reading bits and pieces.
How to Get Out of Debt and Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis. This is an excellent book. This book is valuble not for just getting out debt, but overall self improvement. I highly recommend this book.
The Mack Within by Tariq Nasheed. Good book. A lot better than the first one. Worth the read.
The Pimp Game by Mickey Royal. Please read this book. Has some valuable insight. Overall explains the mindsight one must have in this jungle!
The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. Excellent book.
I haven’t read the following two yet, but come highly recommended.
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Rober Cialdini.
The Psychology of Persuasion by Kevin Hogan.
Hobbies and Skills. Develop your hobbies and skills. You could possibly parlay some particular hobby into a small business. Read up on that. I write and draw a lot. Right now I’m self publishing a comic book. So I read books on fiction, read a lot of fiction, and books on drawing.
Travel is good. Go see different cities. Have some fun.
Hang out with friends. Chat with women. Don’t get hung up.
Buy a new wardrobe. This is a big one. If you don’t have much money, buy a piece at a time. Use lay away. Buy some nice stuff. You can hit outlets to get some decent articles at a good price.
Think positive. Talk to yourself positive. Write down your goals in the present and review them several times a day. Repeat positive affirmations to yourself. Don’t put yourself down anymore.
Well that’s it for now. If I think of some more things, I’ll post. My timeline is about 6 months of going underground. I got nothing but time. To be honest…what I want to be a successful writer and want my comic book to parlay into a cartoon series.
Some of the post are down right pitiful. Trust me, I’ve been there. My post were probably more pitiful than some of the current ones. I believe a lot of you guys are really missing the point of the advice and the purpose of this website.
If you get dumped by a girl, it’s natural to want to get her back. It’s human behavior. Desiring something you can’t have. The thing is however, you lose all power by doing undignified things that will probably make you cringe five years from now. I’ve done them, so I’m not criticizing. I’ve done things you can put in a movie.
Trust me, cutting off contact is the best option. It’s hard to do, but it’s the best thing. Whether you want her back or you decide to move on – cut off all contact. Yeah, it’ll be hard because you want to check in and see what she is doing (is she boning someone else).
That brings me to my next point. Some of you guys are rather young to be so hung up on one girl. Also, some of you guys haven’t known the girl for a long period of time. Come on!!
We all need to have a shift of perception and focus. You should not invest so much emotion and focus into finding a woman. That should not be what makes you as a man. Your setting yourself up for failure and years of an unhappy situation.
Your focus should be on life and the journey of life. Now when you finally do get the big dump and all contact will have to be ceased, then you’ll realize what I’m talking about. You’ll then be forced to pick up the pieces and put yourself back together. How do you do that. Well sitting around in your apartment drinking and doing God knows what else is not the answer. If you spend too much time alone, you’ll develop warp perceptions and theories… and start to believe them. So what should you do.
Spend that time to re-invent yourself. Improve yourself. How? Well I’ll tell what I’m doing. Because I’m doing it right now.
Cut off all contact.
Don’t brood too long trying to figure out the relationship and what went wrong. Evaluate what happened and the part you played. Make note of your mistakes or shortcomings and make steps toward improvement in those areas.
Exercise. Do pushups if equipment is not available. Do something.
Eat properly. I’m not going to elaborate too much on this one. There are many post in the Health forum to cover this.
Read. This is my list:
Art of Seduction by Robert Greene – This book opened my eyes to the crap that is what subjected to.
48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene – Good book. It’s good to recognize these principles.
The Bible. No further explanation. I’m reading bits and pieces.
How to Get Out of Debt and Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis. This is an excellent book. This book is valuble not for just getting out debt, but overall self improvement. I highly recommend this book.
The Mack Within by Tariq Nasheed. Good book. A lot better than the first one. Worth the read.
The Pimp Game by Mickey Royal. Please read this book. Has some valuable insight. Overall explains the mindsight one must have in this jungle!
The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. Excellent book.
I haven’t read the following two yet, but come highly recommended.
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Rober Cialdini.
The Psychology of Persuasion by Kevin Hogan.
Hobbies and Skills. Develop your hobbies and skills. You could possibly parlay some particular hobby into a small business. Read up on that. I write and draw a lot. Right now I’m self publishing a comic book. So I read books on fiction, read a lot of fiction, and books on drawing.
Travel is good. Go see different cities. Have some fun.
Hang out with friends. Chat with women. Don’t get hung up.
Buy a new wardrobe. This is a big one. If you don’t have much money, buy a piece at a time. Use lay away. Buy some nice stuff. You can hit outlets to get some decent articles at a good price.
Think positive. Talk to yourself positive. Write down your goals in the present and review them several times a day. Repeat positive affirmations to yourself. Don’t put yourself down anymore.
Well that’s it for now. If I think of some more things, I’ll post. My timeline is about 6 months of going underground. I got nothing but time. To be honest…what I want to be a successful writer and want my comic book to parlay into a cartoon series.
