My Image attracting the wrong women?

[Evil_Muska]

Ok, I was thinking lately about how women saw me, and decided to do a little social experiment, so here's what i did.

I went on this one forum with men and women and posted a new thread called "First Impression Experiment (WOMEN ONLY PLZ)".

In this thread I told women to look at the picture I posted of me, and without looking at my profile, tell me if they like walked by me in the mall or something, what their first impression of me would be. I said I didn't care what it was, good or bad. Well turns out a majority of the girls perceived me as a dumb frat boy. I was kinda shocked.

You see, when i first started coming out of my shell, my buddy insisted i start wearing brand-named clothes (Aeropostale, Hollister, American Eagle), which wasn't me, but i decided to do it anyways because i was desperate for more female attention. Now that I've changed and my confidence is higher, I'm thinking the way I've been dressing is attracting the wrong type of women for me. it seems like the girls that I want to be with don't wunna go for me. Could this be because I've moved to a more "frat boy" look, i guess?

I'm thinking of going back to my old look (darker clothes, a good amount of black, not goth/emo... but more like a rocker/skater dude look), only a more refined and stylish version of it. My current clothes are way too bright and aren't me.

Do you guys think It would be a good idea to change back to my old look?
Is it more likely to attract the right kind of girls for me you think?

 

[n00bPimp]

I dont see how making a thread like that would benefit you at all. I just can't see it.
It doesn't matter what other people think about you, what matters is what you think about yourself. People will always have a different opinion about you, and you cant go changing yourself everytime someone has a bad opinion.

 

[Warrior74]

Binary thinking. So there are only two looks for you? What about a third look? How old are you btw? If you are older, maybe a true player look? Blazers, button downs, expensive jeans, nice shoes and boots, interesting rings. Nice solid shirts. Google colin farrell and brad pitt. Or find someone famous you sort of look like and swagger jack his style. One of my neighbors looks like the rapper Common and he plays it up to the max. I always see him pulling girls with his Common look. My best friend looks like Colin Farrell and goes full Colin when we go out.

Check out sites like askmen.com they have fashion tips that might give you some ideas. Also...spend money on shoes. Shoes are the game changer.

What do guys in your area (school, club scene, social groups) who get girls wear?

 

[Evil_Muska]

Well what i am saying is this...

I started wearing that preppie **** because someone TOLD me to, not because it was what I wanted to wear. I just wore it because I thought it would give me a better chance with women, when turns out, all i needed to do was work on my inner game. I had become unhappy with wearing all of this recently because it's just not me, and I was probably coming off looking like someone I'm not.

What I'm saying is I don't want to keep up the charade anymore....
Like when I would be around the house and stuff, i'd wear the clothes i like to wear, but when i went out where i thought girls might be, I'd ditch my Linkin Park tee, my black ballcap, and all of that other stuff... then instead put on some bright Aero shirt, put on a backwards flatbill cap, and slap on some brand-named jeans and some expensive cologne. I'd walk out of the house looking like a TOTALLY different person.

 

[Evil_Muska]

How old are you btw?

22.

 

[Warrior74]

Well what i am saying is this...

I started wearing that preppie **** because someone TOLD me to, not because it was what I wanted to wear. I just wore it because I thought it would give me a better chance with women, when turns out, all i needed to do was work on my inner game. I had become unhappy with wearing all of this recently because it's just not me, and I was probably coming off looking like someone I'm not.

What I'm saying is I don't want to keep up the charade anymore....
Like when I would be around the house and stuff, i'd wear the clothes i like to wear, but when i went out where i thought girls might be, I'd ditch my Linkin Park tee, my black ballcap, and all of that other stuff... then instead put on some bright Aero shirt, put on a backwards flatbill cap, and slap on some brand-named jeans and some expensive cologne. I'd walk out of the house looking like a TOTALLY different person.

Sounds like you really don't need our permission. Go for it and see if it works! The best thing you can do in life is to try and fail. That way you know what doesn't work so you can find what does. Good luck.