She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Warrior74 said:At what point do you lay this honesty on them? Because for me, it never comes up until after sex. I can't recall a FB or girlfriend asking until after we have been having sex for a while and the sex was good. Then I get the "where is this going", and "what do you want out of this" questions.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This guy is right.Tesl said:No, you are doing the right thing here. Leading a girl on when you want nothing serious is a stupid thing to do, it always backfires and just isn't worth the hurt (on both sides usually).
If you are meeting enough women, being honest is absolutely the best way. Plenty of girls are interested in non committed relationships, and being with 3/4 girls like that is far better and much easier for everyone.
you got to get it in your head, that you are the ****ing man, and you run this ****. you aren't aduditioning for ****, these women are ****ing for your time.Lately, though, I've been through a stretch of women who are qualifying me for an LTR very early on.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dude. i can't rep you anymore. You nailed it. I'm learning about dealing with my clients like this right now. Good stuff.backbreaker said:I'm about the bluntest, most honest guy you will find when it comes to women, and while it turns some off, I sleep at night, and the ones who stick around, know what the deal is.
Stop trying to get a woman to like you and get her to respect you.
the difference between a player, and spinning plates, is lying or being honest. women used to call my dad a player.. my dad doesn't play women. my dad tells a woman up front, look, i'm married, and i'm probably ****ing 2-3 other women too. if you want to jump on board we are leaving the station, either get down or lay down. just like that. and the ones that stayed around made his life easier. they didnt' call the house, they had no problem springing for hotel rooms, they didn't' bother him about seeing other women, they just enjoyed their time with him. alot of women are like this. heck, his current wife, my step mom, started out like that lol. and she just worked her way up the pole. you aren't playing a woman, if you are being honest with her. and some, alot of some, don't like it, but you would be supervised the ones that stick around. and the ones that do, resepct you, and look at you differently / you are sexier to them becuase you aren't afraid to lose them, you have demonstrated to them that you aren't all talk and you have some substance.
plus, women are so scandalous you would be surprised how many of them really at the end of the day, don't' give a damn. I've ****ed women, just becuase i was ****ing someone else they thought was hot and they wanted to prove to themselves they "had it".
you should not feel bad, or be shamed, for playing the field. you aren't dating anyone, you aren't married. what are you supposed to just sit home and play xbox until miss right comes along? I think not.
you got to get it in your head, that you are the ****ing man, and you run this ****. you aren't aduditioning for ****, these women are ****ing for your time.
think of it like sales. customer calls me on the phone, like he's called 10 ohter web design firms, he plans to ask his list of questions and get answers and 'call me back next week' with a decision. **** that. no, i have some questions i want to ask YOU. you see the work we do here, it's top notch, how available are you going to be during this project, becuase we don't work with clients who can't be contacted at least once every 2 days. you know, you get what you pay for, and while we aren't going to charge you 5 figures or antyhing, please understand that if you are looking for dirt cheap labor, you might need to go overseas. have you done any research on what programming language you want this done and and why (usually, what i would do there, and most jobs can be done in multiple languages), i'd state that it needed to be done in another language and give some tech jargon on why as to show that i'm smarter than him.
then at the end of the converstaion i tell him well we are looking at some other jobs too (and we usually were), but i do like this one a lot and you seem like someone that is serious about what they are trying to do and we only work with serious people, i'll let you know if we can work with you by tomorrow.
works every ****ing time. lol, more than once i'd have clients email me "have yo made a decision yet? really would like to work with you"
it's a mental state of mind man. i don't give a **** if you are smoking hot,you are a lawyer, if you can speak 5 languages, or can suck a **** through a tire gauge, you are auditioning for my attention.
the fact that you are seeing other women, should be second in her mind to "i hope i'm good enough for him". doesn't mean be an *******, not at all, but you run this **** man.