"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My high school rep...solution?

jetboy

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Hey guys, I got a problem. It may be long but I'll keep it short.

I'm a sophmore. Our school is really big. Only one or two previous classmates are in any of my classes, and no previous friends either. But the rest of the classmates know each other very well. It was like attending a brand new high school. Due to this fact, I was obviously quieter than the rest. All this over my already kind-of-quiet personality. Also the seating arrangements the teachers gave me basically sucked. I have tried to familarize my self to the classes I have, and succeeded, all except one.

I don't know what's up with me and that particular class...teacher, seat arrangement, people around me? But I think it's because 99% of the class know each other very well, while I don't know any of them. It's been 9 weeks already :(

Some days ago I overheard some pretty girls bunched in a table next to my group. (By the way, why do girls think you can't hear them talking about you? I've had that happen twice already.)
Anyway as I was working. Here's what I heard.

"...David told me he(me) doesn't talk."
"...quiet..."
"...cute..."
"I still think he's cute." (wonder which one of the three girls said that)

But I'm really not a quiet person!!! I'm known as a being hilarious and funny from my friends. If just one of my friends were next to me, I could have easily said some funny things naturally and open up...But I'm still trying.

I hate when people(David) do that. They just make a judgement on you the first time you meet that person. And they think they know all about you. AND they TELL others what they THINK as being the TRUTH as the TRUTH. Boy is he gonna feel stupid when my personality is opened up, which does around this time, but doesn't....

So my question is how do I fix my rep!! I was thinking about letting them see how I am to my friends.(I take a long time to make friends because I only make quality friends)
But they all have different lunch periods!! Can You believe that!?! I seriously am trying hard to open up.

-: About me :-
I attract more rather than chasing
(I somehow manage to pull this off)
Good looking, athletic, smart, dress nice
I can tell girls are interested in me whenever they see me. (nervous gestures, eye contact, etc..) I know that girls are interested in me, but I guess I better up the chasing a little..(intimidation could've happened, bacause I took better care of myself than last year)

Thanks for reading, so how can I fix my rep? Any tips on how to be more comfortable with your surroundings?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AustinG

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you could pull off the strong silent type around them becuase thats what i do and it works for me.
 

i am me

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/\Just curious...how "silent" are you around them? And why do they think you're strong? (wondering cus some people say I'm the same way)
 
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