"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My high school rep...solution?

jetboy

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Hey guys, I got a problem. It may be long but I'll keep it short.

I'm a sophmore. Our school is really big. Only one or two previous classmates are in any of my classes, and no previous friends either. But the rest of the classmates know each other very well. It was like attending a brand new high school. Due to this fact, I was obviously quieter than the rest. All this over my already kind-of-quiet personality. Also the seating arrangements the teachers gave me basically sucked. I have tried to familarize my self to the classes I have, and succeeded, all except one.

I don't know what's up with me and that particular class...teacher, seat arrangement, people around me? But I think it's because 99% of the class know each other very well, while I don't know any of them. It's been 9 weeks already :(

Some days ago I overheard some pretty girls bunched in a table next to my group. (By the way, why do girls think you can't hear them talking about you? I've had that happen twice already.)
Anyway as I was working. Here's what I heard.

"...David told me he(me) doesn't talk."
"...quiet..."
"...cute..."
"I still think he's cute." (wonder which one of the three girls said that)

But I'm really not a quiet person!!! I'm known as a being hilarious and funny from my friends. If just one of my friends were next to me, I could have easily said some funny things naturally and open up...But I'm still trying.

I hate when people(David) do that. They just make a judgement on you the first time you meet that person. And they think they know all about you. AND they TELL others what they THINK as being the TRUTH as the TRUTH. Boy is he gonna feel stupid when my personality is opened up, which does around this time, but doesn't....

So my question is how do I fix my rep!! I was thinking about letting them see how I am to my friends.(I take a long time to make friends because I only make quality friends)
But they all have different lunch periods!! Can You believe that!?! I seriously am trying hard to open up.

-: About me :-
I attract more rather than chasing
(I somehow manage to pull this off)
Good looking, athletic, smart, dress nice
I can tell girls are interested in me whenever they see me. (nervous gestures, eye contact, etc..) I know that girls are interested in me, but I guess I better up the chasing a little..(intimidation could've happened, bacause I took better care of myself than last year)

Thanks for reading, so how can I fix my rep? Any tips on how to be more comfortable with your surroundings?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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AustinG

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you could pull off the strong silent type around them becuase thats what i do and it works for me.
 

i am me

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/\Just curious...how "silent" are you around them? And why do they think you're strong? (wondering cus some people say I'm the same way)
 
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