"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rex Man

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Was good with everybody?

First off, if you're a lame (afc) and don't know where I'm coming from don't respond.

NEwayz, I was on my way back to school today and cell phone was blowin' up approximately 20 or so missed calls between two chicks. I hit them during my vacation CLEARLY STATING that i would be leaving in a week and was only looking for a good time.

I never picked up but one is all crying and what not and I gotta admit, I feel like $H!T. My guys all say, which I'm sure some you guys will say, don't worry about it. Still, do any of you guys know how to deal with this? similiar situation?

Maybe I care too much, it's just I don't being an @sshole without reason.

Aight yall, let me know what's up!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In life we all learn hard lessons. In some cases you are part of that teaching process. Don't be upset because life is tough, that girl is going to have to learn that one way or the other.
 

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I got a similar situation.

I banged this wh*re a few times and shes fallen for me.

She saw me at a club the other night while i was in a 2-set of girls a much higher standard then her.

She freaked and tried to **** block me.

2 days later she sms's me saying she over reacted because she was jealous. and that she wants to go out with me (as in boyfriend/girlfriend)

I didn't want to hurt her and make her cry, but i didn't want to go out with her....

the solution?

I didn't reply to her text message, and won't answer her calls :)
 

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Maybe you should ask yourself if you are an ******* if the girl takes things the wrong way.
 

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Originally posted by FRëSHURE
I banged this wh*re a few times and shes fallen for me.
Only desperate guys get hookers. Should check in case you've got aids.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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FRëSHURE

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Only desperate guys get hookers. Should check in case you've got aids.
thanks for the tip..

wh*re as in i'd spent 5 hours with her over 2 weeks and I was filming porn with her on my mobile phone as well as ****ing her in the ass... throw in another 2 hours and i had my wingman and myself in the shower with her whilst she was on her period. again, i was ****ing her in the ass..
 

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look, stand by what you say and dont feel guilt. specially if you told her flat out how it was and was going to be, shes just dumb for not comprehending it, and they usually try to make more out of it then what it really is because after the fact they feel, "used". your doing the mirror effect, were your making her guilt/problems become your guilt/problems, if you do this with every female your gonna loose the situation. and believe it or not, this could be a "test" to see if you really stick by what you say. personally, i have no feelings towards a chick until relationship time.
 

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Originally posted by Rex Man
Was good with everybody?

First off, if you're a lame (afc) and don't know where I'm coming from don't respond.

NEwayz, I was on my way back to school today and cell phone was blowin' up approximately 20 or so missed calls between two chicks. I hit them during my vacation CLEARLY STATING that i would be leaving in a week and was only looking for a good time.

I never picked up but one is all crying and what not and I gotta admit, I feel like $H!T. My guys all say, which I'm sure some you guys will say, don't worry about it. Still, do any of you guys know how to deal with this? similiar situation?

Maybe I care too much, it's just I don't being an @sshole without reason.

Aight yall, let me know what's up!
girls cry all the time. don't worry about it. I made a girl cry yesterday. She was upset because I went out with a thin skinny girl.
She asked me how my date was and I said, "it was good. she is thin and has a nice butt." That set her off crying. apparently, that made her feel fat.


Then she started to blame me for making her cry. I told her that she was making herself cry.

She called me an assho!e and I said, "well don't use me as an emotional tampon. "
 

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Originally posted by FRëSHURE
thanks for the tip..

wh*re as in i'd spent 5 hours with her over 2 weeks and I was filming porn with her on my mobile phone as well as ****ing her in the ass... throw in another 2 hours and i had my wingman and myself in the shower with her whilst she was on her period. again, i was ****ing her in the ass..
So why aren't you going with her? Not every woman does these things. She does exactly what you want, and then you decide you don't like her because of it. That's messed up.
 

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PRMoon= Good point, she gotta grow up and learn to state her intent early on.

JonJack= EXACTLY! This isn't the first time something similiar has happened, just to this extent. But if i am an @$$hole, then that's just me, it's not like im cruel or some $h!T.

Yeah, good looking on the responses, if either calls today Im just gonna pick up and say im really busy with school or something evasive like that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by FRëSHURE
thanks for the tip..

wh*re as in i'd spent 5 hours with her over 2 weeks and I was filming porn with her on my mobile phone as well as ****ing her in the ass... throw in another 2 hours and i had my wingman and myself in the shower with her whilst she was on her period. again, i was ****ing her in the ass..
wtf :eek:
 

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Dude, you should get this checked out immediately. Andre the Giant died of it.
 

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Originally posted by MackJr
So why aren't you going with her? Not every woman does these things. She does exactly what you want, and then you decide you don't like her because of it. That's messed up.
No. She doesn't do exactly what I want.

She has no drive in life.

She works < 10 hours per week. No schooling or nothing.

She has little education.

She smokes weed.

Drinks.

Has a terrible personality, basing her entire existance on her looks.

All the while, I'm not looking for a commited relationship.
 

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The brother of my grandfather had two hearts.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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