tincanman99
Don Juan
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I have never been good at reading women's body language when they are interested. I either mistake it or ignore it totally. So I always error on the side of assuming they are just being friendly.
In the last year I made changes in my life, I joined a new gym, hired a trainer (who is a smoking hot BTW) who corrected my diet and helped me loose 40lbs. I have made new friends but have been careful not to fool around with the women in my gym because I am there to exercise not date.
That being said since I lost the weight I have gotten quite a bit of female attention but keep to myself. And than of course I have the validation of my trainer, I am aware of the sickness women have - a guy with a good looking women attracts other women.
There is an incredibly cute woman in my weight training class whom I see all the time who is in amazing shape. I have always ignored her, totally. I barely say hi to her most of the time.
In the last few months she has decided to start saying hi to me with a big smile and bright eyes. I found it odd considering considering I dont really talk to her. If she says hi, I will return the hi but dont go out of my way to say hi and sometimes I avoid her totally.
About a week before New Years my new found gym bunny decided that she should start touching me. My back was to her and I was ignoring her. She made sure to walk by and touch my shoulder to let me know she was there. Kind of took me off guard as attractive women normally dont touch especially men they dont really know. Sure she has seen me many times but at most I might have said hi and just stayed away from her.
I am very leary as my trainer told me she was married when I first joined the gym.
A week later, it went from that to asking me how I was doing to full blown conversations about New Years prior to the holiday and asking/wishing me a Hapy New Years.
I figured ok, just roll with it because frankly I was/am skittish and dont really want any entanglements at my gym. The last girl I was interested in it turned out to be dating and sleeping with like 5 guys simultaniously including a good friend of mine. Thanks but no thanks. So I am leary about involvment.
After New Years this past week she became even more friendly asking me how was my New Years, how was my week going, blah, blah. It culminated with her walking out of the gym with me on Friday, her introducing herself to me and wishing me a great weekend. So I figure 100% this woman is interested.
Well I just came from a session with my trainer and I told her what is going on. She told me 110% for sure this woman is married. She knows her husband and told me a story about him. She said he seemed like a nice guy.
I was like ok, than why is she doing this. My trainer said maybe she is being friendly or has a crush on you. I said yeah could be but in my experience attractive women dont do this including yourself which she laughed at - they generally are not friendly with men they barely know. She doesnt talk to any of the other men and they ignore her just like I do. I know this because I watch.
BTW, she never wears a ring of any kind. It could be cause of the exercise but most women I encounter never take the things off no matter what. Even at the gym.
This is kind of irritating me now. So why is she doing this?
1. Its all ego. Get her rocks off that she still has it and can get the men if she so chooses? Like most men I have difficulty ignoring attractive women (but which I was doing) and this was a challenge to her?
2. Her marriage is on the rocks and she is shopping around for a new playmate?
3. She is seriously insane.
4. She is looking for an extra marrital affair (I am not saying I condone this nor want too).
5. All of the above.
It kind of feels like a trap. Lure me in, wear me down, get me enthused and than what? I ask her out so she can turn me down and tell me she is married?
I dont get it, why not just leave me alone. Frankly I think now I am going to go to the other gym just so I can stay away from her for a while.
I dont want any problems because this has the making of an epic trainwreck.
Hit me with opinons as women I have mentioned it to women and they have said she is just being friendly.
Yeah, sure - my question is why all of a sudden.
In the last year I made changes in my life, I joined a new gym, hired a trainer (who is a smoking hot BTW) who corrected my diet and helped me loose 40lbs. I have made new friends but have been careful not to fool around with the women in my gym because I am there to exercise not date.
That being said since I lost the weight I have gotten quite a bit of female attention but keep to myself. And than of course I have the validation of my trainer, I am aware of the sickness women have - a guy with a good looking women attracts other women.
There is an incredibly cute woman in my weight training class whom I see all the time who is in amazing shape. I have always ignored her, totally. I barely say hi to her most of the time.
In the last few months she has decided to start saying hi to me with a big smile and bright eyes. I found it odd considering considering I dont really talk to her. If she says hi, I will return the hi but dont go out of my way to say hi and sometimes I avoid her totally.
About a week before New Years my new found gym bunny decided that she should start touching me. My back was to her and I was ignoring her. She made sure to walk by and touch my shoulder to let me know she was there. Kind of took me off guard as attractive women normally dont touch especially men they dont really know. Sure she has seen me many times but at most I might have said hi and just stayed away from her.
I am very leary as my trainer told me she was married when I first joined the gym.
A week later, it went from that to asking me how I was doing to full blown conversations about New Years prior to the holiday and asking/wishing me a Hapy New Years.
I figured ok, just roll with it because frankly I was/am skittish and dont really want any entanglements at my gym. The last girl I was interested in it turned out to be dating and sleeping with like 5 guys simultaniously including a good friend of mine. Thanks but no thanks. So I am leary about involvment.
After New Years this past week she became even more friendly asking me how was my New Years, how was my week going, blah, blah. It culminated with her walking out of the gym with me on Friday, her introducing herself to me and wishing me a great weekend. So I figure 100% this woman is interested.
Well I just came from a session with my trainer and I told her what is going on. She told me 110% for sure this woman is married. She knows her husband and told me a story about him. She said he seemed like a nice guy.
I was like ok, than why is she doing this. My trainer said maybe she is being friendly or has a crush on you. I said yeah could be but in my experience attractive women dont do this including yourself which she laughed at - they generally are not friendly with men they barely know. She doesnt talk to any of the other men and they ignore her just like I do. I know this because I watch.
BTW, she never wears a ring of any kind. It could be cause of the exercise but most women I encounter never take the things off no matter what. Even at the gym.
This is kind of irritating me now. So why is she doing this?
1. Its all ego. Get her rocks off that she still has it and can get the men if she so chooses? Like most men I have difficulty ignoring attractive women (but which I was doing) and this was a challenge to her?
2. Her marriage is on the rocks and she is shopping around for a new playmate?
3. She is seriously insane.
4. She is looking for an extra marrital affair (I am not saying I condone this nor want too).
5. All of the above.
It kind of feels like a trap. Lure me in, wear me down, get me enthused and than what? I ask her out so she can turn me down and tell me she is married?
I dont get it, why not just leave me alone. Frankly I think now I am going to go to the other gym just so I can stay away from her for a while.
I dont want any problems because this has the making of an epic trainwreck.
Hit me with opinons as women I have mentioned it to women and they have said she is just being friendly.
Yeah, sure - my question is why all of a sudden.
. She is that solid.