"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My gurl was jealous

kk2004

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Well, this is a wierd thing I noticed about my girl. She realli gets inscure and fast.

Last thursday I went clubbin and then a bar. End of night.
Then Friday I went to the Frat house and then to a Bar then a club then to a Hooka Bar. It was 5:30 am by the time i was done.

The next morning my girl calls me and sounds upset. I ask her what it is. She says she will explain it to me when we meet up later that day Saturday.

She tells me that she gets jealous that im dancing with all these gurls at the club and that she doesnt like that and that she feels bad cuz im dancing with the girls like the way i dance with her.

So I tell her she has nothing to worry about and I tell her a few nice things to make her secure. Cuz i hate that feeling of insecurity , i dont want her to feel that way.

THAT day she is SO Nice to me. She makes a compliment every five sentences, she tells me she loves me a million times. We have oral sex in her car, not out of the usual. BUt she is like quiet and i could tell she felt like my value in her eyes had gone up. She was making sure i felt good, she kept saying nice things, she assured me and told me how great i was all the time. She went and helped me get medicine, hangover. Her whole energy was diffrent, diffrent from the rest of the times.

I know that this is one of the Dj principles. Classic example. textbook. BUt i feel BAD. I shouldnt have to do this for my gurl to feel this way. I mean, i thought she was real and that fact that i have to STILL prove my value in her eyes sucks and hurts. I mean I go to clubs regardless to have fun, but that shouldnt be making her feel more special toward me, bcuz im out with other women or scheming on how to pick them up even if i dont dance with them.

Funny thing today, she is back to her normal self. She didnt make one compliment, but then when I told her i might go with my friend to a club later this week AGAIN she gave me one compliment when i was on the phone with her.

I guess my value in her eyes must be realli low. for her to change so much so fast.

I KNOW why she feels this way, but I guess i need some guys on this board to give me feedback and just discuss there point of view

this is buggin me. I want to discuss and tell her whats been on my mind
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Swede54

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Either its value or she says those things so you feel bad about being with other girls. OR she says those things because shes insecure you might find someone better.



Originally posted by kk2004
Well, this is a wierd thing I noticed about my girl. She realli gets inscure and fast.

Last thursday I went clubbin and then a bar. End of night.
Then Friday I went to the Frat house and then to a Bar then a club then to a Hooka Bar. It was 5:30 am by the time i was done.

The next morning my girl calls me and sounds upset. I ask her what it is. She says she will explain it to me when we meet up later that day Saturday.

She tells me that she gets jealous that im dancing with all these gurls at the club and that she doesnt like that and that she feels bad cuz im dancing with the girls like the way i dance with her.

So I tell her she has nothing to worry about and I tell her a few nice things to make her secure. Cuz i hate that feeling of insecurity , i dont want her to feel that way.

THAT day she is SO Nice to me. She makes a compliment every five sentences, she tells me she loves me a million times. We have oral sex in her car, not out of the usual. BUt she is like quiet and i could tell she felt like my value in her eyes had gone up. She was making sure i felt good, she kept saying nice things, she assured me and told me how great i was all the time. She went and helped me get medicine, hangover. Her whole energy was diffrent, diffrent from the rest of the times.

I know that this is one of the Dj principles. Classic example. textbook. BUt i feel BAD. I shouldnt have to do this for my gurl to feel this way. I mean, i thought she was real and that fact that i have to STILL prove my value in her eyes sucks and hurts. I mean I go to clubs regardless to have fun, but that shouldnt be making her feel more special toward me, bcuz im out with other women or scheming on how to pick them up even if i dont dance with them.

Funny thing today, she is back to her normal self. She didnt make one compliment, but then when I told her i might go with my friend to a club later this week AGAIN she gave me one compliment when i was on the phone with her.

I guess my value in her eyes must be realli low. for her to change so much so fast.

I KNOW why she feels this way, but I guess i need some guys on this board to give me feedback and just discuss there point of view

this is buggin me. I want to discuss and tell her whats been on my mind
 

kk2004

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okay

so what do I need to do. bcuz I want to keep her IL high up. What should I do?

Ur right she could be trying to make me feel bad, or she is afriad that I might some one better, so she acts REALLI nice to me. When she gets comfortable with me she begins to get complacent I guess cuz she knows she has me. Thats why the saying, never reveal your feelings, is so important. bcuz then u get stepped on.

So give me some advice on what to do.
 
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