My girls on holiday...

[Tomatoes]

Hey fellow DJs.

Long Post alert

Im getting in a slight prediciment with my current girl at the moment. Basically....heres some background.

We have only been together for 3 weeks. I know that is not very long at all but for me....thats a girl doing well. I spent all of this 3 weeks with her. She slept ate and showered at my house....she practically lived there. I am normally very gaurded of my emotions and dont let anyone in. For some reason i found myself getting very emotionally atracted very easy this time. (Some of the regular members here will know Im not the most emotionate guy on earth and most the time cant see more than a shag in a girl )

Anyways. She has now gone off to Africa with a mate for 2 months. We agreed to be exclusive before she went because it seemed like the right move. After a week of her away she found out she is there for an extra 2 weeks. I was missing her sooo much. I suggested going out there halfway threw to see her. She agreed. (This shows my dedication. I was deadly serious about flying over half the world at great personal expense to see her for a week.) Anyways I sorted out everything to go then got a text from her saying she was thinking it wasnt a good idea now. As she would be working and not have alot of time to see me. I must admit i didnt take this the best way and this is where problems started...

My plan to go out was cancelled. Leaving me feeling a little rejected from soneone i did accutallly care about. I spoke to her and all i said was i was disapointed with her decision not to see me. (even thow it was valid we would have found time to see each other and i knew the risks of me going.)

I had a day long mardy where she sent me nice texts and i sent replies proclaiming how she must not like me. (WHAT WAS I THINKING!)

My game went right out the window on this one boys. I lost all composure.

Next i spoke to her on the phone saying i was ok now about her not wanting me out there and that i understood. (Going off someone elses advice) I then said to her that I was not sure we should be exclusive if im not going to see her all summer as she is only around for 2 months out of 6. She agreed to go back to "seeing each other" status. Next i felt like i had done the wrong thing and sent a heavy late night text saying how much i liked her and wanted her and how i didnt want to be without her. I didnt say i wanted to go exclusive again even thow it was my decision to put our relationship "on hold". That would just confuse her and make me look like i dont know what i want.

Basically i would be happy to go back to this time last week where we are all good. I ring her each night and ask her how her holiday is. Tell her i miss her. Go down the pub then go soundly to bed. Then I want to be back to normal when she gets back.


Basically i am wondering what peoples take on this one is.

2 things.....

1. I am not going to next her. Thats not an option in my head atm. Plus i tried to go out and pull but i cant get my game working while she is on my mind. Plus i dont want to right now as all my friends who have met her say shes perfect for me.

2. I seriously fvcked up my game on this one. Normally its very good but it seems my emotions are seriouslly clouding it. So im turning to advice i trust (Well some of ya )

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

I didnt read it but Im going to say next just to show everybody what a hardcore individual I am.

next

 

[Tomatoes]

I didnt read it but Im going to say next just to show everybody what a hardcore individual I am.

next

Whats the Point?

If you aint got anything relevent to post dont post at all. Unless you are a troll of corse.

Sometimes these boards are very usefull with advice and help but sometimes you are just dealing with wankers who dont have a clue how to even spell don juan. Let alot know how to be one. Can i have post replies from DJ's only and not newbies and trolls.

Thanks.

 

[Tomatoes]

Now thats a reply! Thanks Shez. As always your influnecal knowledge has been very useful. I think your right with just laying off the heat abit. Your spot on in keeping with her too. Glad you didnt see "next her" like these guys with no clue. I can go threw women like there is no tomorrow. However when you find one that is worth holding onto.....thats what i intend to do. In my mind. Shes worth it.

Resisting the urge to contact will be hard but I agree....its necessary. Relax and regain self control.

Feel free to post any further opinions guys but I have got a good answer from a Natural DJ.

Thanks Shez matey.:woo:

You shud write your own book dude

 

[Jariel]

The worst thing happened, i finally got a girlfriend soon after, i did the chasing, charmed her, made her laugh, kissed her, turned the entire situation around to the extent where she was chasing me...weird, suddenly i didnt want her, that made her upset, i'd shown her the great guy that i was and realised that i could do better...i hate that feeling, that societised notion of knowing that you are capable of getting what you want...but its entirely dependant on that other persons mindset...whos chasing who? Oh, he likes me now...i have his validation...job done.

I totally agree with Shezz's post complete, but the above quote really stood out. I've experienced this too, both as the chaser who lost the girl and the chased who lost interest, and it has been one of the most valuable learning experiences I've ever had when it comes to women.

It's is a fact of psychology that we should all be aware of and expresses the importance of being a challenge, not being taken for granted and keeping your cards close to your chest so to speak.

 

[spanker]

Yeah man chill out
You are cramping this girls style and you WILL lose her if you carry on being a lech,
txt infrequently and save your phonebill say only nice funny things or your insecurities will show through:crackup: in the meantime enjoy yourself have a joint and take it in your stride while checking the hb`s on offer :crazy:
if it is meant to be then you will wait 4 each other, if it isnt then it will die but at least be about it