my girlfriend wants me to be a sensitive guy

[fellix]

I trying to be a good guy especially for my girlfriend.
Everyday I go to Google and search for amazing topic,funny topic also
Question to ask and talk with my girlfriend.
Actually she good and know how to make our conversation
Keep going.
But sometimes I fell she seems doesn't interest to talk
With me.
It's hard to explain,I'm stuck when she became speechless.
But last night,she told me that she want me became
More sensitive to her,she also said I always ignore about her.
She said that she confused with me,but I think I feel more
Confused right now..
What mean of sensitive to girl?
What the hell is that..
Thanks..

 

[thatfeel]

One key to connecting with people is listening to them and asking yourself "why is this person telling me this?" A lot of people get caught up too often in thinking about what they're already going to say as someone is talking which means you aren't really listening. Hearing and listening(and understanding what you're listening to)are very different. Once you understand and can tell yourself why this person is asking you the questions they're asking you or saying the things they say to you(in any conversation), will you be able to connect with them and have what your girlfriend and other people consider to be a sensitive characteristic.

 

[Tictac]

When you try to change into someone else for anyone else, you are making the most basic mistake you can make.

 

[thatfeel]

I don't think anyone is asking him to change. It is foolish to believe that one will never have to alter some small behavior(s) in a relationship. "Changing for someone else" would fall under more distinct and powerful characteristic's of a person's being, for example how vindictive someone is about their personal beliefs and standing up for themselves and those beliefs. If you had to change yourself away from that, then yes, you don't want to do that as you're giving away a sense of self. But adjusting behaviors is not that bad especially if it can benefit your being.

 

[Ronaldo7]

What Tictac said.

^

Greatest truth.

 

[Renegade357]

Haha, one rule I learned with women. Give them what they want and they'll hate you for it.

 

[Stort_Brød]

I don't think anyone is asking him to change. It is foolish to believe that one will never have to alter some small behavior(s) in a relationship. "Changing for someone else" would fall under more distinct and powerful characteristic's of a person's being, for example how vindictive someone is about their personal beliefs and standing up for themselves and those beliefs. If you had to change yourself away from that, then yes, you don't want to do that as you're giving away a sense of self. But adjusting behaviors is not that bad especially if it can benefit your being.

it is easy to say "don't change for any woman" or some other b.s like that but what this bloke said is pretty much how it works.
She want's a more sensitive bloke and that's fine for him to cater to that need as long as he doesn't become a lil b!tch about it. a lot of you are too quick to spit out the canned lines that you think are the one and only "truth" I can see why some of the originals are no longer coming back.

OP - talking especially with your partner isn't about having the best, funniest or most interesting topic that you found on google. It is about letting them talk and when they do you listen but don't just listen for the words coming out of her mouth listen to what she is trying to say or more imply. She comes home stressed from a days work? you tell her to go put on either a nice or casual outfit depending on where you are going to take her for a quiet fuss free dinner. she comes home happy after a good day then you pick her up swing her around and give her a kiss. act on her mood to bring her on to your playing field then let the conversation flow, never think about talking just let the words pour out of your mouth. As I said you don't need the best topic to talk about as long as you are genuine about what you are saying instead of talking about something you have been looking up to say.

 

[user name]

This sounds like a f*****g Sh!t test, no?

She wants you to be more sensitive? You are on your way out, son, more like and she's looking for an excuse to ditch you.

Dump her. And dump her now before she dumps you. Then we'll see how sensitive she'll want you to be!

 

[Skyline]

It seems like you are not being yourself and dont know how to hold conversation.

She probably feels as if you're not listening to her because you're forcing conversation rather than letting it flow naturally. Charisma is not forced its practiced naturally. If it gets quiet, embrace it until something shows up. This is why some people here advocate striking up conversations with EVERYONE.

Confidence is one thing but Charisma is another.

 

[fellix]

yeah I can't be my self when with her.
She very easy to offended,I don't know what should I do.
My cheerful is gone,seems like she take away my happiness

 

[fellix]

over emotional girl

Long distance relationship never win trophy of love.
Last night I'm having problem again with my girl,she
Told me that I was ignore her.
Everyday I always send message to her,I never forget to do
That.
But seems like she doesn't give attention to my message.
I think she tired or busy,just trying to understand.
But last night,she blame me.
what the ****..
Yes I didn't reply her message when she go hangout with
Friends..
Because I don't want bother her happy time with her friends.
Went out until midnight,but I'm still waiting her message.
Maybe I should smash my head on the wall..

 

[VladPatton]

Dude, dump her, and save yourself some peace of mind!

 

[DonGorgon]

yeah cause she already have other guys on her team who are the mean bad guy,.... boyfriends are usually expected to provide emotional support and stimulation while other guys are for sex and money etc etc.