and unfortunately my girlfriend seems to like him too...i went to her class (study hall) yesterday and the guy was there too...the guy was behind her...i looked at him and my girlfriend wanted to know what i was looking at so she looked back...she saw who it was and within split second she turned back to me and she was smiling and i can see her eyes shining and from far away i could feel her heart beat fast...and she was like "what"?...i said "nothing"...we have a good thing going on but i'm going to california this july to stay there with my sister till i can finish my nursing career...i can't stay cuz i don't have any money to pay rent cuz my parents are going too...anyways...what do you guys think of my situation?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
My girlfriend likes another guy
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Better then that, ask her what's about that guy. Ask her what she likes about him. PROD. You might be missing something she wants, and he has it.
Don't just dump her. Morons. If she goes with another guy, it's either fault of her for lack of judgement, or you for lack of what she needs.
Don't just dump her. Morons. If she goes with another guy, it's either fault of her for lack of judgement, or you for lack of what she needs.
i don't know...i really don't know...i'm trying hard not to be insecure with this guy but i just can't...this guy definitely likes my girl and my girl is starting to like him...they both go in the same bus cuz they both live in the same apartment...well a different building but close enough...she tells me too that she thinks that he really likes her...i don't wanna just dump her cuz maybe i'm wrong...and about me not having what he has?...i don't know about that...i don't think i'm changing myself to be like that dude just to make her happy...how the heck would that long distance LTR work...ugh!~
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LD (long distance) LTR doesn't work.
unless you're an adult who is able to visit frequently... girls couldnt do that.
unless you're an adult who is able to visit frequently... girls couldnt do that.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Dump her
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Learn from it.It's either fault of her for lack of judgement, or you for lack of what she needs.
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fosho.superchill89 said:yeah. find out why she likes the other guy. right after you find out, dump her.
but dont act like youre heart broken she likes him... just be like "well thats cool... i think we should break up... b!tch" (then pull out a broadsword and slice her chest open, then log out... then log on your necromancer then resurrect her to be your undead minion!)
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Michele said:fosho.
but dont act like youre heart broken she likes him... just be like "well thats cool... i think we should break up... b!tch" (then pull out a broadsword and slice her chest open, then log out... then log on your necromancer then resurrect her to be your undead minion!)
i'd go with. "TONIGHT YOU DINE IN HELL!" and kick her outa your door
The Shocker
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Kev07 said:i'd go with. "TONIGHT YOU DINE IN HELL!" and kick her outa your door
AHAHAHAHAHA YES
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Dalton
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Just don't be afraid to be a man. Don't act jealous but show that you are not going to tolerate it. Something along the lines of "I don't like that guy, I know he likes you and I don't want him talking to you. I know you wouldn't cheat on me but I don't like some guy trying to make moves on my girlfriend. If you want to loose me over him then go for it but make up your mind now." There was this guy calling my girl and messaging her on myspace. I said those exact words to her and she offered to delete him from myspace, block him from myspace and block his number. Next time he called she let me answer and tell him to **** off pretty much. Worked for me.
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Well the only options are to dump her (learn the lesson of what happen first), draw the line, or hope she will remain loyal (a naive option at best, if she already interested in him, she is already moving in the wrong direction).
What to chose depends on the circumstances (cept for the third option, that is only availiable when that situation doesn't happen). In this circumstance, best to probably learn then dump, any other path looks dim.
What to chose depends on the circumstances (cept for the third option, that is only availiable when that situation doesn't happen). In this circumstance, best to probably learn then dump, any other path looks dim.
Short Answer: Dump her/NEXT/Move onvagrant said:and unfortunately my girlfriend seems to like him too...i went to her class (study hall) yesterday and the guy was there too...the guy was behind her...i looked at him and my girlfriend wanted to know what i was looking at so she looked back...she saw who it was and within split second she turned back to me and she was smiling and i can see her eyes shining and from far away i could feel her heart beat fast...and she was like "what"?...i said "nothing"...we have a good thing going on but i'm going to california this july to stay there with my sister till i can finish my nursing career...i can't stay cuz i don't have any money to pay rent cuz my parents are going too...anyways...what do you guys think of my situation?
Long Answer: Dump her because it means her attraction for you is lower than 50% and you can't really do much to raise it. The best thing you can do is dump her and get a BETTER girlfriend and LIVE BETTER so she'll get jealous and come back to you. Also if you "know" she's cheating on you why don't you call her out on it? I would have kicked her out of the house if she was my wife. Oh yea read the DJ bible again.
The Dalton
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You have to stand up for yourself some time. She has a choice, stop talking to a guy that is obviously flirting with her which shouldn't be a hard choice at all. If she decides to get pissed about that then forget her she isn't worth your time if she can't do one little thing for you. If some girl was bothering my girlfriend I would never talk to her again if my gf asked. If i'm in love with her I'm not going to care, i'm not even going to want to talk to that girl and if your gf is in love with you then she shouldn't either. It's not controlling. I told her it bothered me a lot and i said that I didn't want her talking to him but it was her choice(left the her choice part out in the original post I forgot i said that but anyways)DamHE said:Wow The Dalton thats kind of over controllive.. "I don't want him talking to you"??
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I wouldnt be able to stand it, I would dump her. theres more chicks dude. the reason i say dump her is because any chance she gets most likely shell end up wth this dumbasss so I would probably move on.
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Go with the gut,i can tell your gut tells you something fishy is going on.Hey your gut is fvcking right!
Next her,you could always drop all contact if you don't want to do any "official" crap.
edit:If you decide on somekind of vengeful "last fvck" get some pics/video.Cheers,gi out.
Next her,you could always drop all contact if you don't want to do any "official" crap.
edit:If you decide on somekind of vengeful "last fvck" get some pics/video.Cheers,gi out.
I gotta see that movie...everyone quotes itKev07 said:i'd go with. "TONIGHT YOU DINE IN HELL!" and kick her outa your door
Remulak
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Gotta control your hoe. I wouldn't say it like that but you can't put up with that bullshytDamHE said:Wow The Dalton thats kind of over controllive.. "I don't want him talking to you"??
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i double posted sorrryyy
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.