"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My Girlfriend is probably starting to cheat on me..

spax

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So,

I "happen" to know MY gf's myspace password...and occassionally, I might log in to it just to see whats goin on. Yeh it might be creepy but I dont give a ****.

She doesnt use it much.

Then I see she has this comment from this guy who was interested in her around the same time as she started going out with me, about 3 months ago, She cut off communication when she started talkn to me.

He refers to her as "hun" and just some general stuff about what they are doin today. So curious, I thought why would he be talking to her if they havent talked in ages?

I go onto his page and find a comment from her! Shes asking how he is etc but the conversation isnt like "What you been up to this time" but more like "what are you doing today?" as if implying that they talk regularly and she concludes her comment with a "xo"

Annoying. Shes prob getting bored of me and wants some more ****. haha Any advice guys?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SinJester

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Wow dude you are overeacting massively. That's just normal behaviour for girls. They talk to other guys, it doesn't mean she is cheating. Most girls I know conclude with 'xo' for almost everything unless they strongly dislike the person.

So chill unless you actually find proof or you are going to drive her away yourself. I think the problem is with your confidence in yourself not her.
 

ProDJ26

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Don't judge too quickly, and stay out of her damn email. Trust me I did the same thing before and all it does was cause problems and drive me and my girl apart. If you can't trust her then leave her.

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Let me tell you a similar story about this, then you figure out how you deal with it.

I work with a girl who has one of those accounts, and I would occasionally say hi to her and tell her how life was cause she would ask. GENERAL CONVERSATION.

One day I sent her something back and used the word "hun" IT WAS A WORD. She is like 17 and that's the word I used.

Later that night I get this message from her boyfriend who just said every curse word to me under the sun. NEVER met me, has no idea about JACK SHIAT, and he started running his mouth like he was a gangster and a bad ass and all of that.

I got pissed because for one, I wasn't hitting on his women. Cute and all, but she's too dumb for me, she has a kid, smokes and is NOT my type. Would never date the girl.

Anyway I told her next time I saw her. She was in tears cause her boyfriend got into her e-mail, Myspace, Facebook, and pretty much went through all of her stuff.

Talk about TRUST issues. Anyway she apologized to me and said she'd take care of it. I told her... You better put your boyfriend in check or we are going to have problems.

She told him, yelled at him, and about 2 weeks later he calmed down, and I never heard from him again. She knew this would be bad if he was to keep it up.

Months went by, I only talked to her at work, and then one day she goes... So my boyfriend cheated with me with like 6 girls.

And that ends the story and she is with a guy from work now.

If I were you, I would respect your womans privacy, and if she cheats, she'll do it regardless. You then let her go.

In my case, the girl I talked too, was just normal talk and her man blew it out of proportion. Its like girls cant talk to another guy or have guy friends.

All I am saying be careful and dont end up like the guy above, or you'll be history if it is nothing. If it is, not much you can do. Girls cheat, and guys cheat and that is life.

Not every guy is after your woman. I wasnt after this one at all. She is just a friendly girl, and likes to know how life is going. Same here. I ask about her kid and life and its called TALKING.

But I told her, it was lame for him to break in to her crap, and why would you want to date a guy you cant trust? Then look what happened...HE CHEATED, and she never did with anyone.
 

KontrollerX

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A chick that keeps a Myspace page isn't done with her shopping spree for strange d!ck.

Yes chicks can have "guy friends" but chicks that do this do not get a real relationship with a DJ.

They get relegated to fvck buddy status and thats it.

Don't try and get serious relationships going with young girls still in their party years guys.

It won't work out.

Just fvck em and chuck em and go for more mature women if you want a serious relationship that are older or who don't have Myspace or Facebook pages and whose idea of fun isn't having regular girl's night outs clubbing it up with their friends.

These are not the things you will find in a girl that will give you a decent trust based relationship.

They are the identifier of a girl who wants to have her cake and eat it too.

A girl still once again in her party years who is unfit for a serious relationship until she gets all the fvcking and slvtting, drinking and drugging out of her system.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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KontrollerX said:
A chick that keeps a Myspace page isn't done with her shopping spree for strange d!ck.

Yes chicks can have "guy friends" but chicks that do this do not get a real relationship with a DJ.

They get relegated to fvck buddy status and thats it.

Don't try and get serious relationships going with young girls still in their party years guys.

It won't work out.

Just fvck em and chuck em and go for more mature women if you want a serious relationship that are older or who don't have Myspace or Facebook pages and whose idea of fun isn't having regular girl's night outs clubbing it up with their friends.

These are not the things you will find in a girl that will give you a decent trust based relationship.

They are the identifier of a girl who wants to have her cake and eat it too.

A girl still once again in her party years who is unfit for a serious relationship until she gets all the fvcking and slvtting, drinking and drugging out of her system.
obviously you only know *****s...
i know a BUNCH of girls who would never cheat on their boyfriend even though they are in their european party years ( whats the difference? partying starts here with 16 ;) ) from age 16-25 none of my guyfriends had any problems about cheating and from my femalefriends i never heard of that too.

Oh and dont forget my serious RS...

to the TS: stop going around in her email/myspace/facebook damnit.
I hate that kind of guys who do that. I once wrote a good friend of my(female) something bout a party i invited her to and what happens the next day? this wannabe thought it was okay to insult me. The next day i confronted him and the wannabe he was he thought he could fight me.
Well it didnt end well for him though ;) my female friend was pretty mad after that with me but i didnt care :D
 

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Enryu said:
obviously you only know *****s...
i know a BUNCH of girls who would never cheat on their boyfriend even though they are in their european party years ( whats the difference? partying starts here with 16 ;) ) from age 16-25 none of my guyfriends had any problems about cheating and from my femalefriends i never heard of that too.

Oh and dont forget my serious RS...

to the TS: stop going around in her email/myspace/facebook damnit.
I hate that kind of guys who do that. I once wrote a good friend of my(female) something bout a party i invited her to and what happens the next day? this wannabe thought it was okay to insult me. The next day i confronted him and the wannabe he was he thought he could fight me.
Well it didnt end well for him though ;) my female friend was pretty mad after that with me but i didnt care :D
I wouldn't be so quick to belittle KontrollerX. He has one of the highest reputation ratings on this site for a reason.

I don't care if you say you know girls that would never cheat on their boyfriend. Every woman on the face of the earth can tell you that "they would never cheat on their man". You've obviously never had this happen to you, have you? I had a girl cheat on me about 2 years ago. She told me at the beginning of the relationship that she would never cheat on me. Then it happened, and after I found out about it (FROM HER BEST FRIEND AND THE GUY THAT DID IT) she denied it, and continued to tell me "I would never cheat on you". Open up your eyes, "tough" guy.
 

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heh so you think that every women in her 16-25 (party years right?) are going to cheat on you if you get serious with them? well i dont think so.
All i am saying is that you cant rationalize.
Of course there are people who cheat on their partners but that doesnt mean that all do.

Not all men are pigs... the others are AFCs ;)

ps i dont care how well known anyone is... a well known user still can be a Keyboard-Juan
 
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