"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My girlfriend is in Iraq!!!

fieldman12

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I have been going out with this girl since Christmas and I must say she is by far the best girl I have ever dated.
She takes me to nice places to eat, always calls me on time,offers to fly me out to meet her when she is gone on business, and a excellent girl in the bedroom.
The problem is recently she was aksed to go to Iraq. She decided to go because she felt it was her duty and plus she was going through a divorce.

Everything was excellent between us, but she said that she did not want me to hold my life on stand still until she gets back.

I asked her what she wanted from our relationship. She said she would at least hope to pickup where we left of when she gets back.

I told her, that I care allot about her and will wait for her and dont plan on dating any other girls.

She then started asking me if I would commit to just dating her. I said that when I see her that weekend we would talk about it.

Well she brought it up when we where in bed and she said that she was greatly attracted to me and only wants to date me.

I told her that I care allot about her and that I just want to date her also.
Things went excellent until the week she had to leave. She had never failed to see me and this week she was super busy where she could not see me which possibly was true.

She did call me everynight though and we talked. Problem is this. Now that she is in Iraq she seems like the opposite person.

She went from being the best girl I ever known to one that I am not sure where I stand.

She will not tell me how she feels, other than they get basically no sleep, she is sore from the armor, they have been attacked a few times and stuff like that.

It is just like she is very short, which she appoligized for not writing hardly any. Said she hope things will be better in a month where she can write.

She dont answer some e-mails also. I know she got them because she would answer one thing in the e-mail, but blow of the main questions like (Do you need me to send you anything?) or (Is their anything I can do for you???).

She cannot drink over their also which could be an issue for her because she was I would say on the verge of an alocoholic.

Am I worring to much about her??? Should I not send e-mails until she sends me one? What should I do?

I care allot about her and feel that she needs support, but I don't want to drive her away or make her feel like I have abondend her.

She use to say that she was attracted to me for one reason because I seemed sincer and checked on her, but she has never acted like this.

I know she must be going through allot over their. It sounds like pure hell from what little she has told me.:(
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Trance

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Obviously she's having enough to think about over there. Just keep it cool.
 

LostbutFound

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Yeah man, keep it cool and just do whatever you can for her...Right now shes got all the problems in the world....God Bless her, I hope she makes it home quick...this aint no joke
 

thejuice

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So...

...im guessing that shes either a soldier or a journalist. You didnt mention anything

Dont be over protective because she doesnt need that. She needs to ask you for things. Stop begging her to allow you to kiss her as_s. Just do what you do and do not rely on her. Its only been 3 months anyway so you couldnt have that much emotion towards her
 
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