"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder and won't talk to me at all

Steve-O

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We've been together for just under a year. Everything is great. She even moved in with me a while ago and still no problems.

This Sunday, we went to visit her family. I was in the living room watching some TV. A few minutes later, she joined me and sat next to me. Her aunt came in, saw us and started teasing us about looking like a married couple. Then she asked me "So when are you popping the big question?". I was a little taken aback so I smiled and said "When I feel like it". Her aunt kept teasing me about not letting a good one run away and then left.

On the drive home, my girlfriend was a little more quiet than usual. When we got home, she went into the second bedroom. Around 11pm, I asked her when she was coming to our own bedroom. She said "When I feel like it" and slammed her door. Then everything clicked for me.

She's barely spoken to me the past few days and hasn't slept in our bedroom the past three days now. I'm really confused as to why my statement was offensive. I was really taken by surprise with her aunt's question and didn't know what else to say. That and marriage with her has never even crossed my mind. I really dislike having this kind of atmosphere in the house because it feels like emotional torture.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheCWord

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Steve-O said:
She said "When I feel like it" and slammed her door.
BURRRRNNNNNN!!!!!

Just kidding. Ignore it. Don't respond. She needs your attention more than you need hers (obviously, hence the tantrum). It'll be back to normal soon enough.
 

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Pick a better choice of words next time in front of family. Maybe 'when the time is right'.

Other than that, ignore the temper tantrum. Things will be back to normal soon.
 

lili19771

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TheCWord said:
BURRRRNNNNNN!!!!!

Just kidding. Ignore it. Don't respond. She needs your attention more than you need hers (obviously, hence the tantrum). It'll be back to normal soon enough.
What does this have to do with attention? Op embarrassed his gf infront of her famaily by derping. Theres probably more derpage that we don't know about.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Peaks&Valleys

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Why do you guys respond to trolls?
 
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