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my girlfriend found some dirty pictures of an old fling

dannowillbookem

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my girl sends me dirty pictures alot...its nice. and then a girl i had hooked up with some at the begginning of summer started talking to me about a month ago. we were talking about old times (she moved) and and somehow we got to talking about dirty pictures. shes sent me some on my phone, i liked them (she has a bigger rack than my girl) and i havent talked to her much since then.

this evening i left my girlfriends house and realized i didnt have my phone. no biggy, i'll get it tommorow. i call her and tell her and she starts looking through it on the phone... who's emelie beach?

now shes pissed and thinks i dont love her and i do. shes beautiful. i called a few times after she hung up and they were short conversations... she was crying in the last one and hungup and thats where we are.

ah christ. dont tell me next you morons, i really do love her. dont tell me to back off my feelings and all that ****.

tell me how to get her back to normal.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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you don't HAVE to kiss her ass now...

NEXT!



just kidding

i don't know much about this... but my bro's GF is a crazy emotional chick... and i notice that he deals with it by being his normal self and not think much of it... (This is what he did once and it worked like a charm >>>) assure her that SHE is your girlfriend... no one else. ...that's all he did once.

I don't really know though... try it out.
 

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First, tell her just because you've got pictures doesn't mean you don't love her. Don't beg and plead, just tell her that you're not going to bail on her over some stupid pictures.


If you're willing to lie to her, tell her you were f*cking around with one of your friends, trying to show him what a sl*t this girl is, and she made it too easy.
 

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DON'T TALK ON THE FREAKIN PHONE.It's just a bad idea.Short Convo.Just long enough to tell her to meet you somewhere, or that your coming over.Bring a flower.It's not Don Juan, I know.But there's a difference between really screwing up and kissing her butt.I do believe your more on the screw up side of that fine line.When you meet her.Tell her the truth, be sincere.Maybe give her a day to calm down.That's all I got man.
 

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you have to phsyically show her that you care.. phone her and if she refuse to meet up. show up at her house with flowers for her mom...

then talk down and explain that you have NO reason to cheat on her, and u know what.. u can even check the date on the pics.. the date on which they were sent and show her that... and if she is still mad the best way is to give heer space. let ther think it through. she needs to relize On her OWN that shes overreacting.

these are all part of the relationships bro, there are up and downs...

dont be suprise if shes fuking ur brains out next week, this is the part where the emotions are jumping like krazy.

keep us posted bro
 

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bballkilla said:
post the pics up here :whistle:
I second that. Althought the board mods might not approve. Just make a picturetrail and PM me ;) ahah
 

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these are some really good responses, ecspecially the first one. and i like the flowers idea... she is gaga over that ****. all she would say last night is she'll have to think about it. okay. she's on her period (christ) and gets emotional as murderer widow on the witness stand. i'll wait a little bit after school and give her a ring.
 

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marko26885 said:
TURN the **** over her, tell her you are mad because she has not to look into your stuff.
i would have to disagree...

that will make her not trust him then...

Imagine a girl saying that to you... wouldn't you be wondering if anything else happened then?

you're pretty much telling him to drag it on even longer... when he could actually just end it faster. and no, i'm not saying for him to just kiss her ass and end it faster... you don't have to buy her stuff... end it with showing you care with words and actions... just don't kiss her ass.

anyways, your advice is nice... but not in this situation.
 

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Michele said:
you're pretty much telling him to drag it on even longer... when he could actually just end it faster. and no, i'm not saying for him to just kiss her ass and end it faster... you don't have to buy her stuff... end it with showing you care with words and actions... just don't kiss her ass.

anyways, your advice is nice... but not in this situation.
i agree. i talked to her tonight and tried slipping past a little of the well you shouldnt be angry and looking through my stuff and she shot it as soon as it hit the wires.

we're gonna hang out one more time, probably on wednesday, and i'll get my phone back and try to get my girl back too. she equates it to cheating and i think thats a little drastic, but shes really hurt and i dont want to hurt her more. but she is pretty set that this may be the end

what do you mean by shoing i care with words and actions? like what actions?
 

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How do you always express that you care about her?

Do it that way.

I'm not going to tell you what to do... just give you ideas.

But if you're still clueless... hug, kiss, go out of your way to do something for them if they need it... those are some basic things that show her you care... ya know.

As I have said each reply: Do not kiss her ass. That will show that you are guilty of doing something bad... and you didn't necessarily do anything bad... a girl sent you pictures... what could you do to stop her?

Are you going to go into your cyberspace and and point at the picture like your scolding it and say... "No... no... bad... bad picture... dirty."

Besides, kissing her ass isn't going out of your way to do her a favor... it's not like she asked you to buy her flowers or a $0.50 ring.
 

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well. i sent her pictures too.

yeah im starting to think theres a low chance of me saving this. oh well. i love her but not if she doesnt love me enough to say first strike now watch it. it was a rough time back then and it comes back to bite me in the ass. life.
 

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make her realize that this is not any worse than say watching porn, and that shes way outta line here.

and if she wants to break up, let her. dont make a deal out of it and shell come back later.
 

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fvck me. shes going to go. she said so. her myspace says single. shes gonna date other guys and go places with them and said them dirty pictures and theyre going to do things with her that only i had ever done.

i hate me.
 

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**** happens, now you've learned a lesson: Cover your tracks better.
 

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Just don't let it bother you.

Of course it will... so pretend it doesn't bother you.

Make her think you are fine and that you WILL get other girls.
 

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After reading this I was kind of disgusted about the love stuff because there no such thing as love, she is just pumping your state and your feel as if this is the best thing ever. If you were good with women in general you wouldn't have that fear of loss feeling.

But anyway I realized your only 16 and you're young still are you really willing to spend the rest of your life with this girl and marry her (If that is something you want to do in life) and have kids, etc with this girl. I can't really give any advice about this because my mind is so different from yours and I would never get into a situation where I'm thinking I'm in love because its all delusional.
 

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Distant Light said:
After reading this I was kind of disgusted about the love stuff because there no such thing as love, she is just pumping your state and your feel as if this is the best thing ever. If you were good with women in general you wouldn't have that fear of loss feeling.

But anyway I realized your only 16 and you're young still are you really willing to spend the rest of your life with this girl and marry her (If that is something you want to do in life) and have kids, etc with this girl. I can't really give any advice about this because my mind is so different from yours and I would never get into a situation where I'm thinking I'm in love because its all delusional.
Then why is it that you're posting, if you can't relate in any way to him?

Danno, man, you've just got to try to give her some time, and give yourself some cool off time too. She could have changed her Myspace stuff just to get back at you. Just wait a bit, take it easy, and try again. If it works out, great, if not, life goes on. Don't let this ruin you for any length of time. It just isn't worth it.
 

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By the way, Myspace is a mental trap.
 

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well, the ripping hearts apart shiit has passed (mostly). i went to work today and a girl i dated (well she gave me blows behind a movie theater a few times) works there (its my first day). she said she misses me and was happy to see me, and it got me back in the swinger mindset a little. the relationship mindset can satisfy you with restrictions and crap until youre not willing to break out of it.

i like jane but if she doesnt like me enough to overlook some little bullshiit "affair" (hell for the same emotional price i couldve slept with the girl). im not gonna let her have the satisfaction of draining my happiness. i made a mistake, yeah, but keep my satisfied it wont happen.

and the myspace status is so going back to swinger. hahahaha.
 
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