maverick72
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My girlfriend chose Facebook over me.
- Thread starter PrettyBoyAJ
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Damn, Hurts to see this thread but it was a very hard lesson I had to learn first-hand.
maverick72
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DonGorgon
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walter1995 said:
You are addicted to her like crack and you need help..
STOP!!!!
you will end up in trouble from this..
take a break from women and heal yourself
Then understand the realities of life and dont try to change human nature.. just try to have fun .. if it is more stress than good feeling let it go.. there will always be ups and downs focus on the ups and avoid the
a womans love will not save you from you own pain.. and a womans love is fleeting so dont ever count on it just enjoy it while you have it and always be ready fro it to be gone..
The reality is that we all get together with at least one and sometimes more women of low quality. Some hide it better than others, but the key is always ask yourself if this was happening to some guy I didn't know what would I tell him from a non-invested viewpoint.
Anytime you answer a question by saying like ... "but this is different or you don't know our relationship" or anything like that, it means you're in denial about the reality of what's going on ...
Nobody is saying it's easy what we are saying is that when 20 people say the exact thing that don't know you or your chick and gain absolutely nothing from telling you to dump her then you would be wise to listen.
Living for the .1% chance that your the exception is a complete waste of time. It's like putting your life on hold in the hopes you'll win the lottery.
Use this as a learning experience to build a tougher exterior and now you havea better idea the girls to avoid.
Anytime you answer a question by saying like ... "but this is different or you don't know our relationship" or anything like that, it means you're in denial about the reality of what's going on ...
Nobody is saying it's easy what we are saying is that when 20 people say the exact thing that don't know you or your chick and gain absolutely nothing from telling you to dump her then you would be wise to listen.
Living for the .1% chance that your the exception is a complete waste of time. It's like putting your life on hold in the hopes you'll win the lottery.
Use this as a learning experience to build a tougher exterior and now you havea better idea the girls to avoid.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I still have a lot of hate for this girl, I went no contact the day she told me she wanted a break. The thing is I just want some of the money that I gave her and her family. I don't want to break no contact but at the same damn time I need that $.
Well, hindsight is 20/20 but, next time, DON'T GIVE MONEY to a plate you're spinning. If you don't get that money back, at least you'll always have that little sting to remind you not to do that ever again.PrettyBoyAJ said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Yea, ever since the breakup 5 months ago I have been anti-tricking. I won't buy a girl sh!t. Money is super-tight right now too because I have to pay a fine for a speeding ticket. I know her parent's definately owed me 50$. Everyday I think about just sending them an email telling them to just put it in my bank account but at the same damn time I don't want sh!t to do with them bums. Overall I probably won't break no contact but just charge it to the game and I know this will never happen.
wtf
This is just like me!!
Me and my gf have been dating for 4 months and i tell her I don't like her being on facebook! Why? Because of **** she posts and guy sshe talk to!
I was scared of going on facebook and finding something she posts and have it be a picture of some guy she thought was hot. Her mom doesn't even know we're together so we can't be "In a relationship" so pretty much none of my or her fb friends know one day she posted a picture of some guy and said this is what my dreamguy looks like and i told her she can't go on anymore and she was fine with that for a while til i figure out she was on another freaking website called myyearbook ok long story short.. i hacked into her facebook myyearbook and email and on her facebook she was talking to some guy and he said he really liked her and no point at all in the conversation did she say she had a boyfriend. a few days ago i read her text from some guy calling her baby and saying i love you i got sooo pissed idk why she does **** like this and still she gets mad at me saying i control her life and she can't have a social life with me..? If flirrting with other guys is her social life then what the ****
This is just like me!!
Me and my gf have been dating for 4 months and i tell her I don't like her being on facebook! Why? Because of **** she posts and guy sshe talk to!
I was scared of going on facebook and finding something she posts and have it be a picture of some guy she thought was hot. Her mom doesn't even know we're together so we can't be "In a relationship" so pretty much none of my or her fb friends know one day she posted a picture of some guy and said this is what my dreamguy looks like and i told her she can't go on anymore and she was fine with that for a while til i figure out she was on another freaking website called myyearbook ok long story short.. i hacked into her facebook myyearbook and email and on her facebook she was talking to some guy and he said he really liked her and no point at all in the conversation did she say she had a boyfriend. a few days ago i read her text from some guy calling her baby and saying i love you i got sooo pissed idk why she does **** like this and still she gets mad at me saying i control her life and she can't have a social life with me..? If flirrting with other guys is her social life then what the ****
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
This girl is a jumpoff. Charge her a$$ to the game vk.
*shrugs* lookin back at this thread. So many mistakes.
*shrugs* lookin back at this thread. So many mistakes.
loveshogun
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Nope - that money's gone. Consider it the expense of becoming a better person... or at least the expense of general idiocy.ArcBound said:
Now... are you going to do the smart thing and leave it all alone? Or are you finding excuses to get involved with this girl again because "it's totally about the money?"
I smell a sh*tty sequel coming on... please don't do it, OP.
Interesting to read this on the thread's one year anniversary.
For sure, I went way so far in Facebook b1tchery that even PrettyBoyAJ would vomit his guts out.
My experience tells me that a man should never have a Facebook (Google+, Myspace, whatever) page, should never do any other form of social media (blogging, newsfeed, etc.), should never read personal ads (Craigslist, Plenty Of Fish, and so on) . . .
. . . in other words, never be available to be disrespected by passive-aggressive manipulation. Women do that to other women all the time. If you want to cut off your own testicles, enter the world of women and do as they do.
That little video camera on every laptop and phone reaches into every woman's bedroom. It's just plain dishonorable for any man to try to enter the bedroom of any woman save that of his wife or prepubescent daughter. It's dishonorable for any woman to be alone in any private or enclosed place -- even her own living room -- with a man other than her husband, father, brother, or son. This time-honored wisdom doesn't magically cease to be truthful and meaningful just because someone invents some clever optics.
For sure, I went way so far in Facebook b1tchery that even PrettyBoyAJ would vomit his guts out.
My experience tells me that a man should never have a Facebook (Google+, Myspace, whatever) page, should never do any other form of social media (blogging, newsfeed, etc.), should never read personal ads (Craigslist, Plenty Of Fish, and so on) . . .
. . . in other words, never be available to be disrespected by passive-aggressive manipulation. Women do that to other women all the time. If you want to cut off your own testicles, enter the world of women and do as they do.
That little video camera on every laptop and phone reaches into every woman's bedroom. It's just plain dishonorable for any man to try to enter the bedroom of any woman save that of his wife or prepubescent daughter. It's dishonorable for any woman to be alone in any private or enclosed place -- even her own living room -- with a man other than her husband, father, brother, or son. This time-honored wisdom doesn't magically cease to be truthful and meaningful just because someone invents some clever optics.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I never claim to be the best DJ on this board but I know I am probably the most improved players and this should be motivation to everyone on the board that with patience and time your "luck" with the females should change. I don't even consider myself a DJ because I don't pattern my game after anyone. Even a mythological person.
Four years ago I was in high school and was still a virgin. I found this board and learned a little something about the dynamics between males and females. 3 years ago I started to have good success with woman. Losing my virginity and hooking up with a few woman. 2 years ago I got into a relationship with a girl. The relationship lasted 1.6 years and drained everything I learned about the game. I still was getting girls outside the relationship but inside it I was just an AFC. This happened one year ago.
After the breakup I had to learn things all over and I stuck with them to this day. My game has progressed so much over this past year. It will only get better within time as I'm always getting more knowledge. I’m not an AFC. Because I am not frustrated at anything. If I want to talk to a girl I’m going to go up to her and chop it up with her and catch her vibe. If she is down then that’s cool. If she isn’t down then that’s cool because I will always have problems. But getting new girls Is not one of them.
Here is my advice to anyone that is going through what I went: Don't put up with no girls bullsh*t. There is always a better chick and the game only gets better with time. The older you are the better.
It's been a year since all this sheeet happened so I'm about to celebrate and get some more females. Who is with me?
Four years ago I was in high school and was still a virgin. I found this board and learned a little something about the dynamics between males and females. 3 years ago I started to have good success with woman. Losing my virginity and hooking up with a few woman. 2 years ago I got into a relationship with a girl. The relationship lasted 1.6 years and drained everything I learned about the game. I still was getting girls outside the relationship but inside it I was just an AFC. This happened one year ago.
After the breakup I had to learn things all over and I stuck with them to this day. My game has progressed so much over this past year. It will only get better within time as I'm always getting more knowledge. I’m not an AFC. Because I am not frustrated at anything. If I want to talk to a girl I’m going to go up to her and chop it up with her and catch her vibe. If she is down then that’s cool. If she isn’t down then that’s cool because I will always have problems. But getting new girls Is not one of them.
Here is my advice to anyone that is going through what I went: Don't put up with no girls bullsh*t. There is always a better chick and the game only gets better with time. The older you are the better.
It's been a year since all this sheeet happened so I'm about to celebrate and get some more females. Who is with me?
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
A year ago I was the biggest simp in the world. A big trick and aloud disrespect. I definitely had to change that up. Better I learn this younger and not later though.
What helped me a lot was reading some of Tariq Nasheed's book and listening to his podcasts. Everybody that knew me knows I did a 360 from what I was over a year ago.
What helped me a lot was reading some of Tariq Nasheed's book and listening to his podcasts. Everybody that knew me knows I did a 360 from what I was over a year ago.
Hopefully this will help.Im no pro but its working for me!!!
You can have your girl back and fix this but you need to stop with the insecure actions dude. Do you want to spend your life worrying all day long what she is doing on facebook? or who she is talking to and so on? There is no point. Clearly if she has stopped what she has been doing she really does love you. She is showing you in a different way, you need to respect it and change your ways because shes looking for your trust. The more you bug her the more she wants to go back to her old ways .Just be chilled. I upload pics of me and other females hanging on me and all sorts. My gf acts like shes not jealouse but it eats her up inside.. she lives on facebook all day long and bbm but I said to her she better put that ****ing phone down when she is with me,Im not waisting my time hanging out with someone who cant be scocial with me But when walking away be calm bout it, Tell her youll come back when she is done then wait for her to contact you, when you do see her njoy her company and she will enjoy yours, Keep your anger in and jealousy as hard as it is, Dont let it out and dont jump to conclusions and assumptions. just be normal. If she doesnt listen I get up and walk away and go hang out with my friends who want to spend tine with me. become the person she once fell in love with. She fell in love with who you were back then so stay like that, She wanted your **** so bad because of who you were back then.you want her to change? then man up and start going out and be scocial. upload pics of u having an awesome time, soon she will put that facebook away and start to spend more time with you. Also another thing thats awesome is join her on facebook, thats her way of being scocial so make her laugh and smile. upload funny sayings and stuff and tag her. That way u will be more fun than the other **** heads spading her. Then just dissapear and go online later again like you been busy. make her miss you on facebook and in person. Make her want you. Post things on her wall that sound innocent to people but makes naughty scense to her. exampel I was shagging my chick and she had an ice cream tub in her hand and I hit it with my knee and it went flying, Ice cream all over the place dude lol, I took a pic of the tub and posted it on facebook like a month later with texts saying good times and I added a wink
lol...That turned her on like you wont believe, bringing back a crazy sexy but naughty memory but what ever you do doooont post on her wall all the time, she should post more than you do, and when she does just click like or comment with something like adding heart or summin, or say a few nice words back. it ok to post on hers but do it very seldom so when you do put a awesome post up then she will appreciate it more cause you dont do that very often, My gf never ever told me on fb she loves me so I would never say it to her. I would mirror her witch works well when net working, even when just talking to eachother dont tell her you love her all the time. make her say it first and when she does say it dont say anything back. just look at her with a naughty grin and she will be begging you to say ot back but mix it up a bit tell her you love her to, then say to her another time Hmmmm so what do you want now? then the grin gain.have fun with her rather than being against her.my chick has pics of her exes on her facebook but I tease her bout it saying stuff awww you guys look so cute and all those cute cuddles. to bad for them cause im tapping the **** out of that ass baby haha have fun with her then go away and have fun with your mates. if she changed for you and hasnt been cheating then change for her. be better than the first time she met you. Be the guy that she can look up to and wants to do things for to please you. Make her want to love you more. Make her crave more of you. have a great relationship. after all she did change to make things better so give her a bit of space, not meaning run away for a month but space by joining in on her fun and letting her be. she wil be honest with you all the time none stop cause she will feel you the only one she can talk to. Be her best friend and lover but dont take her **** if you doing all these things after u change. it will take a wile for her to start trusting you again. give it bout a month or 2 and youll see her change. if she dosnt then its simple, tell her to **** off another awesome way to get her going. send her a dirty vulgar text telling her what you wana do to her but when shes in a really boring ****ty place. if you know her fantasies then use it in your texts
You can have your girl back and fix this but you need to stop with the insecure actions dude. Do you want to spend your life worrying all day long what she is doing on facebook? or who she is talking to and so on? There is no point. Clearly if she has stopped what she has been doing she really does love you. She is showing you in a different way, you need to respect it and change your ways because shes looking for your trust. The more you bug her the more she wants to go back to her old ways .Just be chilled. I upload pics of me and other females hanging on me and all sorts. My gf acts like shes not jealouse but it eats her up inside.. she lives on facebook all day long and bbm but I said to her she better put that ****ing phone down when she is with me,Im not waisting my time hanging out with someone who cant be scocial with me But when walking away be calm bout it, Tell her youll come back when she is done then wait for her to contact you, when you do see her njoy her company and she will enjoy yours, Keep your anger in and jealousy as hard as it is, Dont let it out and dont jump to conclusions and assumptions. just be normal. If she doesnt listen I get up and walk away and go hang out with my friends who want to spend tine with me. become the person she once fell in love with. She fell in love with who you were back then so stay like that, She wanted your **** so bad because of who you were back then.you want her to change? then man up and start going out and be scocial. upload pics of u having an awesome time, soon she will put that facebook away and start to spend more time with you. Also another thing thats awesome is join her on facebook, thats her way of being scocial so make her laugh and smile. upload funny sayings and stuff and tag her. That way u will be more fun than the other **** heads spading her. Then just dissapear and go online later again like you been busy. make her miss you on facebook and in person. Make her want you. Post things on her wall that sound innocent to people but makes naughty scense to her. exampel I was shagging my chick and she had an ice cream tub in her hand and I hit it with my knee and it went flying, Ice cream all over the place dude lol, I took a pic of the tub and posted it on facebook like a month later with texts saying good times and I added a wink
lol...That turned her on like you wont believe, bringing back a crazy sexy but naughty memory but what ever you do doooont post on her wall all the time, she should post more than you do, and when she does just click like or comment with something like adding heart or summin, or say a few nice words back. it ok to post on hers but do it very seldom so when you do put a awesome post up then she will appreciate it more cause you dont do that very often, My gf never ever told me on fb she loves me so I would never say it to her. I would mirror her witch works well when net working, even when just talking to eachother dont tell her you love her all the time. make her say it first and when she does say it dont say anything back. just look at her with a naughty grin and she will be begging you to say ot back but mix it up a bit tell her you love her to, then say to her another time Hmmmm so what do you want now? then the grin gain.have fun with her rather than being against her.my chick has pics of her exes on her facebook but I tease her bout it saying stuff awww you guys look so cute and all those cute cuddles. to bad for them cause im tapping the **** out of that ass baby haha have fun with her then go away and have fun with your mates. if she changed for you and hasnt been cheating then change for her. be better than the first time she met you. Be the guy that she can look up to and wants to do things for to please you. Make her want to love you more. Make her crave more of you. have a great relationship. after all she did change to make things better so give her a bit of space, not meaning run away for a month but space by joining in on her fun and letting her be. she wil be honest with you all the time none stop cause she will feel you the only one she can talk to. Be her best friend and lover but dont take her **** if you doing all these things after u change. it will take a wile for her to start trusting you again. give it bout a month or 2 and youll see her change. if she dosnt then its simple, tell her to **** off another awesome way to get her going. send her a dirty vulgar text telling her what you wana do to her but when shes in a really boring ****ty place. if you know her fantasies then use it in your texts