My girl is over-reacting?

[guitaronfire411]

OK, so in the past I have told my girl straight up if I'm not happy with her behaviour and she almost always apologizes straight away or within an hour or two.

The other day we were moving into her new place. I had a massive headache so I'm relaxing on her bed while she's making the place clean, etc. Everything is cool until Tuesday morning. We wake up and check out the freezer and the cheap-o $10 wine I had placed there -- when I was suffering from a massive, borderline migraine-headache -- had blown up from the rear and the champagne had frozen.

Yes, what I did was bad. Yes, there was mess. My girl goes ape**** and shouts that I'm going to clean it up the next time I come over. She's already in a rush to get to work and missed the original bus because she's disorganized and never plans things in advance.

She pushes the Scope I bought the night earlier into my hands and gruffly tells me to take it. She has never been this *****y before, although she has zero ability to handle stress. So sometimes she loses her cool and praises my level-headedness.

We walk out her new place, she locks the door and ...get this... goes ahead without me to the bus stop. Ok, so she's pissed. Her knees are buckling and I said something like, 'Hey, you're cold...' and move close to her. She shouts, "I'm pissed!" and I walk away from her and don't say another word.

The bus comes and I sit down beside her. She puts on her ear-plugs.

Short trip to Billings Bridge. I get up and off the bus and get this... she, probably seeing the 111 bus she needs, RUNS AHEAD, looks back (presumably for me) and KEEPS ****ING GOING AND RUNS UP THE STAIRS AND OUT OF VIEW. I'm wearing steel-toed boots, so obviously I'm going to be walking after her and NOT RUNNING.

I make my way up the stairs and she's NOWHERE TO BE SEEN. A bus I could take comes seconds later and I get on.

NO CONTACT FROM HER OR MYSELF. She's changed her profile picture from HER AND I to a picture of her new apartment from the outside.

She updated her subject line text talking about how she loves fixing up her new apartment...and how it's so satisfying.

We're technically together on Facebook still but I'm wondering if I should just dump her over it?

My close work-buddy in his late 60's agreed that she's over-reacting by 500%. My PUA-like buddy from class says she's acting like she's five and I should just **** everything and blame my actions on her behaviour.

Thoughts?

My intuition says to make a decision and dump her soon.

 

[horaholic]

From this incident alone, I wouldnt dump her. Yes, she was overreacting, but on the chick scale of bullshyt, its not terrible. Chicks are gonna freak out sometimes. They all do it. As long as she didnt go running to some other guy after that, I would call it forgiveable. Total bullshyt, but forgiveable.

Jeez, a bottle of cheapish wine froze, BFD. If its frozen, it shouldnt be too hard to clean up.

If she does this shyt on a regular basis, you might need to talk, but if its just once in a wild blue moon, you should probably let it go, after giving her some sort of punishment. I've never met a girl that didnt freak out over nothing every once in a while. Is she PMS'ing?

 

[drak_ool]

My intuition says to make a decision and dump her soon.

Just based on that, I would say dump her. Then see how she reacts. If your intution is right, she'll accept the break up and move on. If you are wrong, she will come back crawling to you and it only adds to more power in the relationship.

IF you are gonna dump her you could either keep up the no contact for a week or two. You'll judge by her reaction how affected (or not) she is. Then you can simply tell her you had been thinking about things, you are not sure if this is headed in the right direction, etc...

Or, if you don't wanna be this cold with her, you can just tell her up front you need a break to assess things, and then go no contact on her for a while.

Either way, don't relate your decision to dump her to her getting mad, that would be playing into her game and she would judge you immature for that.

If you have a feeling things are going south, chances are you are right... there's no smoke w/out fire!