"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
MY GIRL IS being UNSEXUAL
- Thread starter Hunterchilla
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If you like her...great! Relax..it is not your job to worry if she likes you and/or run her life or control her. In fact, by not trying to control, you will end up exerting more anyway.
The best thing you can do here is let her go, and relax. See some other girls, etc..then when you see her again..act aloof. Make her chase you to talk..
If you act relaxed about it and unconcerned..she's more likely to react favorably. Build some sexual tension...done.
Remember: NO ONE LIKES A HEAVY. I can't stand girls who get angry or try to guilt me into communicating and stuff.. Always makes me want to run the other way. Girls are the same way.
She should only call if she really wants to..that's the ultimate goal anyway, right? To make her want to?
Hunterchilla
Don Juan
By all means, NEXT her if you want to. But think of this as an experiment as well. Obviously you like this girl because you're here writing about her. Just because she doesn't call you shouldn't mean you NEXT her.
By just being a patient chess player, wait for the right time to strike. You'll get what you wanted...just not instantly..But it will better for waiting..don't you think?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Go fuvk some girls in Miami and don't even think about her. If she comes crawling back, it will be a good test for your character and for your road towards become a true PUA.
PIMP
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Hunterchilla
Don Juan
exactly she never did seem to serious about the relationship, and its not a relationship with me but any relationship in general, she is a vigrin, and she has only kissed 1 other guy besides me.
anyway in MIAMI i am gonna probably fuk alot of girls actually maybe 1-2 or luckily three if i get lucky, and in LA im gonna be fukin fuk buddy there.
So ill just "next her" and wait till she comes crawling back and if she deosnt then even better fuk her.
OK now I know that you rubbed her ass a bit... but that's it? If she'll let you do that, why didnt you take it one step further and put your hand down her pants, try to get her pants off etc?
It's entirely possible that she is posting on a 'chick relationship'
forum saying "My guy is totally unsexual, he never initiates anything. I'm waiting for him to try and feel me up and get my clothes off, but he just sits there and kisses me like he expects me to yank my pants down and mount him all on my own."
You seem to be under the impression that you need to start talking about sex with her, and then she'll suddenly initiate sexual behaviour with you. You're the MAN.. you're meant to initiate. If she doesn't like it she'll shut you down.
Maybe she doesn't want to see you anymore because she considers YOU to be unsexual and not wanting to go any further, because you never did anything to her other than kiss her.
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*note to self* read that again...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hunterchilla
Don Juan
Act like you're disgusted with her, turn around and ignore her, punish her with coldness, make her feel like she's misbehaving or becoming unattractive to you if she acts unsexual.
Then when she apologises or comes back to you, slowly start to escalate it again.
You're letting her get away with the 'no, not today' too easily.. you should be acting like a guy who can get some whenever he wants and if she resists you then she risks being dumped or frozen out of your life.
Hunterchilla
Don Juan
i dont know wether i should call her or wait for her to call me, or just know its completely off already?
Just one text message and then forget about it. If you guys are gonna be together she'll write back with a response.
Also tell her you're goin on a trip and you have friends that are girls there. This way you won't have to lie about it if you hook up with 'em and come back to FLA and see her again. This also gives her a sense of urgency.
Be ready if you don't get a resopnse tho she may come back from her trip pissed off about the txt and lie and say she never got the text.
The point of the ultimatum is also so that you know your situation while you're on vacation. You'll be more relaxed to know your position with the foreign chickens and you won't be setting yourself up for a situation where you have to lie or tell a half truth on the fly.
Happy Hunting
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.