"My girl 'friend' won't meet my new girlfriend - should I still hang out with her?"

[Harry Wilmington IDS]

Now THIS was quite an interesting question I read on another forum: a 27-year old man has a 25-year old female friend of 7 years that he wants to introduce to his brand new girlfriend... and the friend isn't interested in doing so. He wanted to know:

(a) why his friend wouldn't want to meet his GF
(b) how to explain it to his GF and not have her get suspicious/worry
(c) whether he should continue hanging with his woman best friend 1:1 if her and the GF don't meet

As an added bonus: him and this woman "friend" were FWB for a month last year, and because he friend zoned her she's been having feelings of rejection.

I had my own thoughts about this so I responded with a video (no advertising of any kind per SS rules), but I'm interested to see other people's take on this situation!

 

[bat soup]

It's just like when you're in the friend zone - would you want to meet the boyfriend of the girl you've been trying to bang? Actually you can use that as a test - if you're not happy to meet a girl's boyfriend, then you shouldn't be friends with her. Often even when you are happy to meet the boyfriend (because you don't find her attractive), the boyfriend is going to be looking at you sideways.

 

[lost_blackbird]

My (STBX) wife suggested that I meet her new guy. I told her in no uncertain terms that I NEVER want
to meet him and that it would be unwise of her to engineer a situation where he and I are both in the
same room.

 

[2Rocky]

I have a rule .... I do not introduce two women to each other who have both seen my penis.

There are exceptions though. My ex-wife and the mother of my children is going to have to endure the new woman in my life but I'm not going to try to make them friends. But they can be polite to each other for my and my children's benefit.

 

[SW15]

Keep a few useful female acquaintances that might lead to a social circle introduction but not much else. Over the last 20+ years in the mating environment, one of the best things I've done is not get into the friend zone too deeply with a woman I find sexually attractive. I have one female friend in another city where I once lived but I have never found her attractive.

I've likely lost some social circle introductions over the years as a result of what I have done but I've likely had less emotional drama as well. It's a trade off.

 

[bat soup]

I have a rule .... I do not introduce two women to each other who have both seen my penis.

There are exceptions though. My ex-wife and the mother of my children is going to have to endure the new woman in my life but I'm not going to try to make them friends. But they can be polite to each other for my and my children's benefit.

You have to make an exception for sisters.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Back when guys had problem girlfriends and not girlfriend problems

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She was probably cool with you when you didn't have a woman, she loved that attention she got. Now the actual girlfriend will blow her reality as being able to have most of you when she desires. This crap is crazy. It's the same concept how female "friends" can keep you from getting a girlfriend. As long as you remain without it sort of validates them in a way.