My gf of 8 months

[inzone50]

She has become less affectionate. She still initiates it more than i do. But, she doesn't do the sweet things she used to do before. Like say romantic things or send me hot texts. I miss that...

I haven't been acting AFC to her... I do a lil bit of romantic things... so its not that i'm not putting effort into the relationship.

I use push-pull...

What's happening?

It a great relationship otherwise...

 

[KontrollerX]

She been complaining that you don't love her enough?

 

[inzone50]

She been complaining that you don't love her enough?

No, she tells me she loves me soo much! She tells me she loves me everyday she see's me. I say it back.

 

[EFFORT]

This is a normal thing that happens in relationships (most marriages too), things get routine, the fire slowly goes out.

 

[inzone50]

How do i get it back to the way it was before?

 

[JDA70]

She has become less affectionate. She still initiates it more than i do.

Your the man in this relationship.
You need to initiate more.

What's happening?

Difficult to say because you've only given a couple lines of info.

 

[Christopher Philip]

You don't get it back, the relationship evolves. You find comfort and security in each other. Relationships aren't just about hot steamy love.

 

[ducaro]

I wouldn't be worried. On the other hand, I'd be worried if suddenly she started telling me she loves me very much all the time (something she never did before) and buys me gifts. :trouble:

 

[KontrollerX]

Ducaro is right.

You have cause to be concerned when its an extreme behaviour change from the norm be it very bad or very good change.

In your situation it seems like the chick is still into you its just that she's becoming comfortable with the relationship so she seems to be relaxing now.

Heh heh its kind of funny though if you think about it and what I mean is when we men relax in a relationship and stop being ontop of things the chick starts to get bored and looks into trading us up but when a chick does this to most men they get worried and try to change themselves or fix the situation rather than trading the girl up for someone that acts as loving to them as their girl used to.

Not saying you have to trade her up or you should trade her up for getting comfortable its just an interesting observation that I had about how guys tend to put up with the same things tons of women would next us over.

 

[comic_relief]

I wouldn't be worried. On the other hand, I'd be worried if suddenly she started telling me she loves me very much all the time (something she never did before) and buys me gifts. :trouble:

be careful about this though ducaro. There is certain instances when this could change.

If she has seen you everyday for a certain period of time (say a year) then you disappear for almost a two or three weeks, then you show back up.

She could change her entire patterns by interrupting the entire pattern that has evolved over the time that you have been together.

It is all about patterns and how well you understand patterns that can make the difference.

I know my current girlfriend was getting used to me and then I disappeared for almost a week and the fire was almost put back immeadiately. Hour long sex sessions were back in our lives.

comic_relief

 

[ready123]

is 8 months your longest relationship?

 

[AFC Savior]

I know my current girlfriend was getting used to me and then I disappeared for almost a week and the fire was almost put back immeadiately. Hour long sex sessions were back in our lives.

comic_relief

i cringed reading that considering how beastly your gf looks, you can do 100 times better

 

[My Name is Nobody]

i cringed reading that considering how beastly your gf looks, you can do 100 times better

What does his girlfriend look like?

 

[comic_relief]

What does his girlfriend look like?

search my picture thread in the AE forum. It will be entitled something like "Comic_Relief Pictures." If you would like to talk about what I look like, bump up that thread instead of taking over this thread. That would be much appreciative.

EDIT: Actually I will bump it and add some new pictures into it.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133763

AND AFC Savior,

HAHA good one, but I don't care what anyone thinks about my girlfriend other than what I think. I believe that she looks good and that is all I need.

comic_relief

 

[Rhoto]

Tell her that HOTT new co-worker, friend of a friend, customer, whatever came on strong today. Say she was really good looking and asked for your number and to get drinks later tonight.

You declined to give it to her due to your current "relationship"

Nothing works like jealousy.

And if that doesn't work, either QQ or move on.

 

[Last Man Standing]

i cringed reading that considering how beastly your gf looks, you can do 100 times better

This is cruel and funny, at the same time!! It deserves a smiley face for it being funny , and a sad face for its cruelty.

 

[comic_relief]

i cringed reading that considering how beastly your gf looks, you can do 100 times better

fixed it for you LMS

comic_relief