She just makes me feel drained period. We have so much fun together otherwise and good sex. But she pulls very emotional drunks sometimes when she comes over on the weekdays and I work A LOT. When she drinks...she starts saying crazy things like there is a big gap between us and stuff. Then the next morning, she is like an opposite person. I'm ****ing sick of the drama. She is Korean and I am American so that is another thing. She speaks mediocre english so calls her up friends when she is drunk. **** this ****, i really like her and she is always telling me how much she loves me and I don't want to go back to banging random chicks. **** it though. I am thinking I need to save myself some future trouble and cut her loose. My job over here is already driving me insane. I am the only westerner in my entire city over here and I teach 10 classes a day of kids that demand me to poor my energy out to them to make them happy because i work at a private school where my job as a foreign teacher is pretty much to make the kids happy so the parents will be happy. The parents all crowd around a TV screen that shows what is going on in class. I am beyond my wits end after day...seriously i am barely hanging on with my job then I come home and put up with her BS. She only goes to three classes a day and *****es about how hard her life is and how I can never understand. **** this ****. She's over here right now drunk sleeping. I feel like dragging her out of bed and telling her to get a taxi home. She's made me exhausted this entire week. Some posters on here warned me that she might have issues. I think they were right. They were wrong about her being a ho, because she's not, but regardless, I have to cut her loose and get someone more stable.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My GF might be an energy vampire
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Well like most humans she has issues and she is using alchahol to escape those issues.... My guess is you drink also right?? Anyway, alchahol will make her express other true feeling that she is afraid to express when sober... either way, her actions are the most important indicator of the health of your relationship... Does she treat you well, does she care etc...
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Yeah she does. I drink more than her. But that is the thing. Usually, she decides to get drunk on nights when I am not drinking which makes me feel not as close to her. Thne hwen I want to get drunk on the wekends...she is always saying how tired she is. She lives a ****ing life of paradise compared to me. She treats me well for the most out and cares....but still...there is something there. She makes subtle insults...like the gap between us...she says i am more like a little kid...when I have my **** together much more than her. I just don't trust her at times. I cussed her out tonight and told her that her schedule is a complete joke compared to mine. Her attitude really pisses me off. Everytime she calls me while I'm working and says she is shopping or drinking coffee at a cafe...it's a ****ing joke.
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First of all make paragraphs please, or take writing lessons.
Second of all, your a man you dont need garbage dragging you down, call her up set up a meet and tell her its over, go out get another girl that isn't so demanding.
Thirdly you asked and answered your own question, you don't need us to validate that your answer is right or wrong, follow your gut.
Second of all, your a man you dont need garbage dragging you down, call her up set up a meet and tell her its over, go out get another girl that isn't so demanding.
Thirdly you asked and answered your own question, you don't need us to validate that your answer is right or wrong, follow your gut.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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There you go then, Don't I repeat Don't go online and post when your smashed bro.
Getting smashed is ok but if your gonna be like the rest of the world of afc's and sit there sulking about a problem you have when your drunk then you have some issues to deal with.
So back to the point now, get rid of the girl (remember your young and she's just a girl you met out of the blue) and cut down the drinking it'll help
Getting smashed is ok but if your gonna be like the rest of the world of afc's and sit there sulking about a problem you have when your drunk then you have some issues to deal with.
So back to the point now, get rid of the girl (remember your young and she's just a girl you met out of the blue) and cut down the drinking it'll help
Yeah, I do have two issues. How to get less classes at work and getting rid of this up and down physco that I'm dating.typical said:There you go then, Don't I repeat Don't go online and post when your smashed bro.
Getting smashed is ok but if your gonna be like the rest of the world of afc's and sit there sulking about a problem you have when your drunk then you have some issues to deal with.
So back to the point now, get rid of the girl (remember your young and she's just a girl you met out of the blue) and cut down the drinking it'll help
typical
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Hmm about work, I'm not sure about that.
About the girl, there are many ways but 2 ways work the best.
First way is just to cut contact (quite harsh) and she'l get the picture. Second way is (balls required to initiate) to sit down and tell it to her straight (In a quiet public place so she doesn't pull a spazz).
All good things come to an end and from the looks of this she was not that good
P.S Yep I do sound like a heartless POS, but its for the best of both you and the girl, maybe in the future when she has her sh!t sorted you can hook back up till then cya honey.
About the girl, there are many ways but 2 ways work the best.
First way is just to cut contact (quite harsh) and she'l get the picture. Second way is (balls required to initiate) to sit down and tell it to her straight (In a quiet public place so she doesn't pull a spazz).
All good things come to an end and from the looks of this she was not that good
P.S Yep I do sound like a heartless POS, but its for the best of both you and the girl, maybe in the future when she has her sh!t sorted you can hook back up till then cya honey.
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well both of you need to reduce the dependence on liquor and maybe depend on each other more!? If you two sober up together i think you have a good shot..zinc64 said:
Oh and that gap between you she keeps mentioning.. well that is filled with vodka!!!! remove the vodka and close the gap
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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zinc64 said:
^^^did you read that?DonGorgon said:
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Anybody that is an emotional vampire should be left in the dirt. I did that to my ex-girlfriend and have been much happier because of it.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.