"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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guambombO

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Hello,

Well im 17 and ive posted a lot about this girl. We recently got back together 2 weeks ago after being on and off for 6+ months. This saturday, she went clubbing with her best friend. In the past ive been hesitent about this but for the first time I felt like I could trust her and things were looking up. She calls me at 4 in the morning and starts telling me how we should be exclusive and how she feels like we're only together. Then, she says that she made out with another guy. I dont respond and I hang up the phone. We start talking a bit and she accidentally slips that it was her ex. Now, this guy is always around, hes 19 and hes a loser. He cheats on his GF's and is unemployed. He was known as a player in HS and my GF uses him for attention. Well I guess she saw him up there and they were hanging out, they were both drunk and somehow they got to kissing.

Her story:

They were driving and dancing together, somehow they got kissing but she stopped him and asked if he loved his GF. He said no and asked if she loved me. She said yes and said she didnt want to go any further.

I dont know what to do, I love her to death but I cant get this out of my head. Shes crying and telling me that shes wrong and so sorry. She also said that she doesnt know how to be a faithful GF. I want to keep her as a FB if possible because she easily a HB 8.5. Funny, she also doesnt wanna have sex anymore. This was before this happened but I still dont believe her reasons. Is it possible shes cheating on me further then kissing????And, what do I do, I want to work things out with her but trust is a big issue
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would never be able to trust her again so I'd ditch the *****. A girl gets one shot, If she ****s up it's her loss.

I would never get that out of my head. It WILL happen again. Alcohol doesn't make people do things they don't want to do.It only makes them think less about the consequences.
 

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woah man, you got to let this one go.
if you want to keep her as a FB, ok.
if she's not up for that, drop her man.
if you can pull one HB 8.5 or whatever, you can do it again, stop wasting time with her.
she told you "i can't be a faithful GF."
that is what's known as a red-flag - especially if you want a faithful Gf, which it sounds like you do.
She also told you she didn't want sex anymore - she could be getting it from somewhere else. true.
she's crying bc she doesn't want to upset you, not bc of what she did. if she cared, she wouldn't have gone there.
 

DJDamage

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Originally posted by guambombO
Her story:

They were driving and dancing together, somehow they got kissing but she stopped him and asked if he loved his GF. He said no and asked if she loved me. She said yes and said she didnt want to go any further.
If you believed that story I got some magic beans I would like to sell to you. I never believe a story that comes out of a girl's mouth especially when I feel her story has more holes then a swiss cheese. Your girl put herself in that situation because she wanted something to happen between her and the guy. He could have fvcked that night for all you know.

Originally posted by guambombO
I dont know what to do, I love her to death but I cant get this out of my head. Shes crying and telling me that shes wrong and so sorry. She also said that she doesnt know how to be a faithful GF. I want to keep her as a FB if possible because she easily a HB 8.5. Funny, she also doesnt wanna have sex anymore. This was before this happened but I still dont believe her reasons. Is it possible shes cheating on me further then kissing????And, what do I do, I want to work things out with her but trust is a big issue
1. You don't love her to death. I doubt you even know what the word love is. In order to survive in this world you need Oxygen, Food, water, shelter and cloths. You will live.

2. She is crying and telling you she sorry yet tells you that she doesn't know how to be faithful. Translation: "I will do this again"

3. You want to keep her as a FB yet she doesn't want to have sex anymore??! Nah she doesn't want to have SEX WITH YOU but that 19 year old dude she probably already fvcked.

4. Do not work things out. There is nothing to work things out she made up her mind and its time to move on. You need to pay attention to what they do and not what they say.

DjDamage
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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say

"you're very disappointed in her"

and that it upsets you that

"she wasn't as decent and caring as you thought she was"

and that you forgive her but

"she has a long way to go to make it up to you"




You now have a girl that owes you big time, and when girls go on a guilt trip, they go hard, prepare to have your own female slave.
 

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yea man these guys are right

my gurl cheated on me but i had it find out later.

a girl gets one chance and if she blew it.. she will do it again in the future NO dooubt in that.

trust me dude.. move on

go find other girls, and i know its gonna hurt ALOT but use ur balls now..
use them more than ever

go to the mall and find some new girls.. its gonna take a while for you.. took me one month to finally relize that i didnt need her.

if u need help or support, keep posting up here, thats what i did and these guys helped me boost my confidence up

tell her straght up that u dont wanna speak to her and IF u have too.. cut off all contact.

wish u luck bro
 

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i'd cut her loose and prevent myself from being hurt.

start talking to other girls asap.
 

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Keep her for a shag until you find something else. Go out with a single attitude. As soon as you got some other ass get rid of her.

She gets no respect as she has lied and therefore the relationship is instantly over in my opinion. She turned down her ex for you....thats the only good point....which im guessing SHE told you so could easyly be a lie. CUT LOOSE.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by \O/
I would never be able to trust her again so I'd ditch the *****. A girl gets one shot, If she ****s up it's her loss.

I would never get that out of my head. It WILL happen again. Alcohol doesn't make people do things they don't want to do.It only makes them think less about the consequences.
Well said and so true.

Sorry dude, I'm with those who think you should drop her!

However, if she's still cut up about it in a month or so, reconsider taking her back on your terms.
 

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Im still un sure of what im going to do. Im being an ass rightnow because I dont care anymore. Im in the middle I guess...
 

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Originally posted by guambombO

I dont know what to do, I love her to death but I cant get this out of my head. Shes crying and telling me that shes wrong and so sorry. She also said that she doesnt know how to be a faithful GF. I want to keep her as a FB if possible because she easily a HB 8.5. Funny, she also doesnt wanna have sex anymore. This was before this happened but I still dont believe her reasons. Is it possible shes cheating on me further then kissing????And, what do I do, I want to work things out with her but trust is a big issue

:rolleyes:

Re-read this. Leave first. Whatever trust was there is gone, your just a pup.......move the fuck on and get yourself a new one.

[Cue Rhymefest/Kanye: 'Brand New']
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think that you should just keep her around as an FB for those odd nights when you are sitting at home and you have a sudden urge. Otherwise, get over her asap before she hurts you even MORE. You are still young and have many experiences with women to go through, so just take her for what she was, a learning experience.


Laterz...
 

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hey guys, I"ll try to translate what the original poster said in AFC language to Dong Juan's language so we can understand it better.

guambonbo said.....................................
Now, this guy is always around, hes 19 and hes a loser. He cheats on his GF's and is unemployed. He was known as a player in HS and my GF uses him for attention.

"this guy is always around" = he ****s my GF whenever he wants.

"he is 19 and hes a loser" = he is 19 and Im jelous of him.

"he cheats on his GF's and is unemployed"= I dont know how this guy can get so many girls without money. I dont understand why all the chicks love this guy so much.

"he was known as a player in HS and my GF uses him for attention" = he used to fu.. all the girls in HS while I was a big time AFC (and still am) and my GF still uses him as a Fu.. buddy.

in a few words, his GF's ex is what we call a NATURAL seducer who she uses as a fu.. buddy and and Mr. gaumbombo is still an AFC.

I thank god I found this website.
any questions?
 

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librito -- What you dont understand is I havent been and used AFC tactics this whole time. Like people are saying, the rules change in LTR's. How do you think i got her in the first place? I admit I became a nice guy because I mistakeingly became to emotionally attatched to this girl. I let my guard down and this is what happens. I have no problem getting chicks, im just used to and I guess alittle addicted to this one. Im keeping her around but im talking to others as well.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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