"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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my gf is travelling with her not so good friends

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this is the first time since we been together that she tell me she wants to travel with her not so innocent girlfriends.

The couple of girls she"ll travel with are wild.

We had a fight last night because I ditched her at dinner and she cancelled sleeping over in my home.

I ditched her because wanted to see my friend at a club.

I didnt offer to drop her at the airport

i just told her to have some fun and unwined

she'll be gone for 4 days from today,

How should I act, text, response.. etc to her when she's there ?

I'm a little concerned because these ladies, they hate me so much

and i dont know if they'll try to hook her up with anyone.

thoughts ?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You can't control her behaviour while she's away and you may not find out about what went on during her trip away. That being the case you can either investigate, carry on, leave (drastic) or maybe just ask her and gauge her reaction.

I myself wouldn't want to make a big deal out of it, but I am pretty good at reading body language and my bs gauge is pretty well developed. I could probably tell of something wasn't quite right.

Why not just be friendly, act interested and see what she has to say. Go in softly, you can always up the Q and A if needed later.
 

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If you want to find out put a voice activated recorder in the car up by the footwell out of sight. It will get around 100 hrs of recording. Cheaters start talking about it 5-10 minutes after they get the car moving. This is one of their favorite places to have those conversations.
 

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Yawn.....go find another chick to bang while she is gone. If she is with her wild friends don't expect them to turn in to nuns, they will encourage her to be a *****
 

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If you are really worried, that speaks volumes of your relationship. Interpret that how you will.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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this is the first time since we been together that she tell me she wants to travel with her not so innocent girlfriends.

The couple of girls she"ll travel with are wild.
A woman's friends can be quite telling of the kind of woman she is. If her friends are party-crazy wh0res, then your GF likely is as well.

That being said, you have every right to suspect she'll be up to no good. However, if you want to have a nice loyal domesticated woman, then this is NOT the woman for you.

We had a fight last night because I ditched her at dinner and she cancelled sleeping over in my home.

I ditched her because wanted to see my friend at a club.
So you can see your friends but she can't see hers? If she calls you a controlling a55hole, she'll actually be correct.

I didnt offer to drop her at the airport
Why are you even in a LTR with her?

I think you need to get some perspective of what kind of women you should be qualifying for LTRs, but you also need to analyse your own behaviour. Neither of you sound like LTR material.
 

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Agree with Des. If you care about someone you would need a good reason to ditch them at dinner, not just cos you wanted to hang with your buddy. If someone did that to me, I'd think they're far more concerned with their own well-being over mine (more so than what is a healthy balance in a relationship of any kind). Subjectively, I'd think they're a selfish c**t and that they can f off if they ever want anything from me again. We would never hang again. Re think your behaviour. I'm not telling you that your behaviour is 'wrong' or 'immoral' or 'unfair on her'. However, should you want to have a good relationship with her, you need to start giving more.
 

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first problem is her travelling without you, you are not in her plans, but you also ditching her to a friend means you don't care much about her either, but here is one thing I don't follow you ditch her like, you amke plan with her then last minute changed to spend time with the friend? or you already had plans with the friend and she wanted to do something?

real question you need to ask is why you are with her? if nothing good came out of it....
 

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this is the first time since we been together that she tell me she wants to travel with her not so innocent girlfriends.
How long have you been together?

The couple of girls she"ll travel with are wild.
Define "wild." Are they attention fiends? The type of chicks that would jump on the bar and start dancing. Do they flash their titties? Are liable to have one night stands? Or they freak nasty b*tches that are down for a gang bang, triple penetration capped off with a *******?

We had a fight last night because I ditched her at dinner and she cancelled sleeping over in my home.

I ditched her because wanted to see my friend at a club.
So you were trying to score some knew hoes at the club? Nice.

I didnt offer to drop her at the airport.

This incumbent on how long you've together. Also, if four chicks are going on a trip, why didn't she go to airport with one of her friends?

i just told her to have some fun and unwined
Okay.

she'll be gone for 4 days from today,
Oh boy. Four days of your chick, her friends, and some new dudes recreating bacchanal festivals from the days of ancient Rome.

How should I act?
Like you have a life.

How should I text?
You don't.

response.. etc to her when she's there ?
Tell her that you'll holla at her when she gets back.

I'm a little concerned because these ladies,
Why?

they hate me so much
Why do they hate you so much?

and i dont know if they'll try to hook her up with anyone.
Even if they did, why don't you trust your game?

thoughts ?
Stop being an insecure beta male faggot.
 
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