Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My GF is too honest!

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We've been together for about 6 months now and the relationship is great. Good conversation, good sex, good times. Hands down, the best girl I ever dated.

She tells me everything, which is awesome because I can trust her. But the other day she said something that did not sit well with me...

We were talking about our fantasies and she asked what mine was. I told her that I had already fulfilled it by sleeping with 2 women at one time. She laughed and said that she had the same fantasy...so my first thought is "yay! another 3some!" but then she dropped the bomb on me.

She said her ultimate fantasy is to sleep with 2 GUYS!! :eek: She went on to say that she had never done it and probably never will because some things are better left to the imagination, but the idea turns her on immensely.

Now, while I appreciate her candor, I can't help but feel uncomfortable with her when she meets one of my attractive guy friends. In the back of my mind I imagine her fantasizing about the both of us DPing her or sum crazy sh!t. Also, the fact that she has not tried it makes me wonder if her curiosity will one day get the best of her.

Am I being stupid or is my discomfort normal?

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I don't understand why this shocked you, I've heard numerous chicks say they wanted to be double teamed.

Really nothing you can do here. I wouldn't sweat over it.
 

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You're not stupid. It's a quite common fantasy, and the fact that she told you is a good sign.

I wouldn't sweat it. If it's not your thing, let her know that, but don't make a big deal out of it if everything else about her is great.
 

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If your fantasy is to sleep with two women (and what guy dosent have that fantasy, right?), why wouldnt one of hers be to sleep with two guys? DOnt you guys ever think about stuff like that?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dude this is no worse than what you just told her.

In fact, its exactly the same.

Don't let this stupid comment throw up your relationship. Screw the thought up in your mind and throw it away.

You sound like your in heaven, keep it that way. Later boss :).
 

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you said yourself that you engaged in your fantasy which is basically the same as hers, but swapping around the genders. If she thinks about it, what's the big worry? She isn't actually doing it. Don't worry, things should be ok
 

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Originally posted by danrizzy
you said yourself that you engaged in your fantasy which is basically the same as hers, but swapping around the genders. If she thinks about it, what's the big worry? She isn't actually doing it. Don't worry, things should be ok
he must feel good now getting the approval of a 15 year old ... not to be rude though


maybe you should hang out in the high school forum
 

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Originally posted by Scoiland
he must feel good now getting the approval of a 15 year old ... not to be rude though


maybe you should hang out in the high school forum
:crackup:

Just when you think age doesn't matter on this site. ;-) Oh well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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naoi deag se deag

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Don't let it get you down, man. I have a twin brother and I know every girl that meets us instinctively wonders what it would be like to be DPed by us. Doesn't bother me, but I wouldn't do it with him ever. But hey! - if you didn't share an egg with the dude, what would it matter? There are worse fantasies for a girlfriend to have.
 
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