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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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my gf is taller than me

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kindly someone give me some advice.My problem is that
my girlfriend is taller than me and she thinks i have a car but i dont have
and im 5'3'' and shes 5'8''.Shes a model 9/10 rating
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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i had a taller gf once. didn't really bother me that much .. i guess it was weird sometimes but we had fun together. if she brings up the car thing one day just say you don't have one. i don't.. but i never say anything about it unless i need to like if i can't get some place, i just say, i don't drive sorry. at least you know she isn't with you for the car ;)
 

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:) good point , and is it okey like shes dating also with some other guy
i look at her facebook . the guy is inviting her for a movie
what is the best that i could do?

should i break up with her?
 

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You guys just met. She's keeping her options open and so should you.

The size thing is not something to worry about for the simple reason that you can't change jackshyt about it.

Why did you have to lie about the car thing? The kind of white lie that comes back to bite you in the ass at some point.
 

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wait, she's your real official girlfriend or you're just dating? if she's really your girlfriend and she's seeing another guy that's a bit... hmm, strange. but if you're only "seeing" each other then she's allowed to and so are you :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i told her i don't have a car.yes, definitely shes my girlfriend but this guy in her
facebook is inviting her to a movie.what should i do?
 

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you should do nothing. if you start trying to do something she'll see you as a jealous person who is needy and actually go see the other guy. if she DOES see the other guy then she's obviously not that into you. i don't know about most guys but if my girlfriend goes out with other men, i'd probably start lookin somewhere else. that's always trouble when your girlfriend goes out with other men. especially to see a movie. the guy wants to fuk her.

think about it this way: if a girl asked you to see a movie and you already had a gf, would you go? if you did, that probably means you don't care about your gf that much.
 

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goodlistener said:
i told her i don't have a car.yes, definitely shes my girlfriend but this guy in her
facebook is inviting her to a movie.what should i do?
Send a hitman obviously.

Look, there's not much you can do.

Well actually you can. You can proactively deal with the situation by 'forbidding her' to go.

That way you will build up the prospect of going to the movies with a guy and make her resent you.

But most of all, you will lose forever the forever to have a female friend you can hang out with. You know just to be consistent, what you expect from her you do yourself. Lead by example right?

So you're basically shutting the door to half of mankind (i.e the other gender) based on an insecurity. I'm not saying she won't cheat, I'm just saying I'd much rather live in a relationship based on trust (even if that means getting burnt) than live a relationship based on suspicion, because then my freedom would take a hit, her too and we'd become each other's prison guards.
 
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HappyHarryHardon said:
you should do nothing. if you start trying to do something she'll see you as a jealous person who is needy and actually go see the other guy. if she DOES see the other guy then she's obviously not that into you. i don't know about most guys but if my girlfriend goes out with other men, i'd probably start lookin somewhere else. that's always trouble when your girlfriend goes out with other men. especially to see a movie. the guy wants to fuk her.

think about it this way: if a girl asked you to see a movie and you already had a gf, would you go? if you did, that probably means you don't care about your gf that much.
Why on Earth couldnt you go watch a movie with a female friend?

I'm a make-up artist and a dating coach. In both professions I meet tons of girls, whether it's a model on a shoot or a girl met in a bar during a bootcamp, I do stay in touch with them. Some become friends of mine. We hang out together, party, go to the movies, play the wii or just shoot the crap on a sunny terrace.

Most of them have met my girlfriend, they became friends too.

In short, when my LTR was at her parents in Germany, a female friend calls me up to go and watch Sex and The city 2 (imagine a theater full of chicks. I felt like a chocolate bar at Fat Camp) I gladly went with her and topped it with a couple of drinks and we went to a club.

So? Does that mean I don't care much about my girlfriend?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dont break up with her just yet lol. dont even do anything just leave it alone. if you see that she is seeing other guys often then you can talk to her about it. nothing wrong with girls seeing a guy friend once a while. i wouldnt really like it but ill try to trust her. but if i find out shes with him more than me... theres gonna be problems.
 

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Blusher said:
Why on Earth couldnt you go watch a movie with a female friend?

I'm a make-up artist and a dating coach. In both professions I meet tons of girls, whether it's a model on a shoot or a girl met in a bar during a bootcamp, I do stay in touch with them. Some become friends of mine. We hang out together, party, go to the movies, play the wii or just shoot the crap on a sunny terrace.

Most of them have met my girlfriend, they became friends too.

In short, when my LTR was at her parents in Germany, a female friend calls me up to go and watch Sex and The city 2 (imagine a theater full of chicks. I felt like a chocolate bar at Fat Camp) I gladly went with her and topped it with a couple of drinks and we went to a club.

So? Does that mean I don't care much about my girlfriend?
no offence or anything but i cant stand having girl FRIENDS. being a make up artist i guess ur gonna be hangin out with a lot of girls but that's not really for me lol. i never really did good being friends with girls cause i just wanna fuk them all the time so i never bother anymore lol. either its gf, fuk buddy, or nothing with me. being friends with girls is a waste of time i reckon. but thats just me.
 

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HappyHarryHardon said:
no offence or anything but i cant stand having girl FRIENDS. being a make up artist i guess ur gonna be hangin out with a lot of girls but that's not really for me lol. i never really did good being friends with girls cause i just wanna fuk them all the time so i never bother anymore lol. either its gf, fuk buddy, or nothing with me. being friends with girls is a waste of time i reckon. but thats just me.
Fair enough. We have different opinions on this. I often see being friends with guys a waste of time.. :rolleyes:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Here's an Idea go the movies with her with her guy friend haha
 

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Blame the genetic lottery.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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