My GF is making me crazy jealous - help.

[Desdinova]

Wtf? Your gf is saying that she has a crush on another guy? I don't know how it works on the states, but here that would be way more than needed to dump her.

I agree. I've been there, and this "crush" means she's looking at and thinking about other guys. Many women will get a new man secured before they dump their old one. Guess where you stand.

- While she's fvcking you, she's thinking about fvcking her crush
- If she's talking about her crush a lot, it means she has a high IL in her crush.

However, if she actually is doing this to make you jealous, she is being disrespectful and should not be rewarded for her behavior. Either way, you should dump her ass. And if you don't dump her ass, you'll probably eventually end up in the "friend zone" with her.

 

[Bevo]

nother thing thats probably her big dream (Im talking from own case) is you saying: "if you mention that guys name one more time, I am going to rape you hard"
if there is basic trust, women love to get taken aggressivly, especially as a punishment, thats why they treat their biggest love nasty somtimes

... errm dont hurt her!

 

[speed dawg]

Put it this way dirtysouth, if you allow this disrespect to keep going, she's going to lose respect for you anyway. Her puzzy has a hold over you. If she wasn't hot, you'd have already gotten rid of her. Quit treating her like your girlfriend. She's NOT your girlfriend after one month. You've got her so far up on a pedestal it's not even funny. And you do NOT have the power, pal. Hate to be harsh, but it's the truth. She KNOWS you aren't gonna do anything when she tells you about her crush. It's human nature to push the limits, and she's pushing yours, or you wouldn't be in here posting about it.

"if you mention that guys name one more time, I am going to rape you hard"

You're a fukking idiot.

 

[Latinoman]

One month only? She is more than disposable, IMO.

 

[Bevo]

You're a fukking idiot.

well it worked for me and she told me it was what she wanted to achieve, i mean to do it, not to say it. the issue was done after that and that guy was just faked. maybe stupid to do what she wished for, but from then on she liked me much more. After all I felt fooled and didnt like it too much, thats true.

of course you have to keep it all ironic and playfull, dont really mean it

 

[djbr]

You have to remember, we have a fairly good relationship and I have most of the power.

Your ego is not your friend. You know you have no power. If you did this thread would not even exist.

However, she has stepped up the jealousy a bit by telling me she has a crush on a guy.

Done. Deal.

Bring in da competition!

 

[dirtysouth]

Okay things I've learned from you guys that I will apply.

1. Calling her my girl after a month is rookie. Scratch that and change it to a girl I'm dating.

2. I hit her back with a girl that's into me. Now the conversation is purely focused on her jealousy for this girl.

3. If it continues (her 'crush' talk) I'm going to go with Latinoman's speech because it's a powerful way to let her know I'm in control.

4. To the dudes who posted by saying she's gonna move on with another dude. I can walk away from this without a problem.

5. To those who say I have no power, you just don't know. I have it in most areas except this one. But I see your point, if I'm weak here, I'm probably going to get weaker. Point taken. Now it's time to man up.

 

[Snow Plowman]

It's a sh!t test, TD gave an example about this, saying his girl would do the same thing.

An like any sh!t test you can ignore it, change subject, play along. (Yea I'd fuvk him)

Don't let it affect you, and don't show that you're affected by what she is saying.

 

[Redux]

4. To the dudes who posted by saying she's gonna move on with another dude. I can walk away from this without a problem.

Could you 'break up' with he right now?

 

[dirtysouth]

Could you 'break up' with he right now?

50-50. But I see your point.

 

[Last Man Standing]

http://www.slapahoetribe.com/

Okay things I've learned from you guys that I will apply.

1. Calling her my girl after a month is rookie. Scratch that and change it to a girl I'm dating.

2. I hit her back with a girl that's into me. Now the conversation is purely focused on her jealousy for this girl.

3. If it continues (her 'crush' talk) I'm going to go with Latinoman's speech because it's a powerful way to let her know I'm in control.

4. To the dudes who posted by saying she's gonna move on with another dude. I can walk away from this without a problem.

5. To those who say I have no power, you just don't know. I have it in most areas except this one. But I see your point, if I'm weak here, I'm probably going to get weaker. Point taken. Now it's time to man up.

Let me add one more to your list.... Next time a hor disrespects you and speaks to you as a chump tell her to go to hor hell and remind her that you are the pimp and not her!!! She is your "g/f' after a month passes by??? She is not your g/f, she is your hor!!!!!!

Slap that ho!!!! http://www.slapahoetribe.com/

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Women want you to show a little jealousy once in a while. They take it as "proof" that you care about them.

One thing about women that us guys don't understand too well is that women want "proof" about you. They don't accept big talk, they only believe in actions. That is why we face so many tests from them, they are looking for verified proof you are who you say you are.

So a little jealousy is actually good because the girl accepts it as proof that you actually care about her and it draws her a little closer to you.

Its just that when women are testing for jealousy, they often go way overboard and rather than make you a little jealous, they piss you off, make you think they are just an AW, come off as a b1tch instead.

And guys can fail the jealousy test, by getting "too" jealous. You can't be too anything. Guys that get too jealous are bad news and can be dangerous so passing the jealousy test means showing only a very little jealousy.

See if showing a little jealousy regarding this guy will keep your girl an even keel for awhile. Show a "little" jealousy and maybe this guy will just dissappear.

 

[Latinoman]

See if showing a little jealousy regarding this guy will keep your girl an even keel for awhile. Show a "little" jealousy and maybe this guy will just dissappear.

If she is his girlfriend...the other guy should not be in the picture AT ALL!

 

[dirtysouth]

Updated : I rolled with Latinoman's advice and gave her two options.

I said if she just wanted a fling, she can continue doing what she's doing. I liked flings anyway.

I said if she wanted something more, and wanted to be in a relationship, she needs to know I could never be interested in a girl that was interested in other guys. So what she made out of this relationship was in her hands.

Well, she broke down and told me she didn't really like 'the crush', and that she was talking ****. I told her it didn't matter, we'll see where we stand in time.

 

[Latinoman]

Updated : I rolled with Latinoman's advice and gave her two options.

I said if she just wanted a fling, she can continue doing what she's doing. I liked flings anyway.

I said if she wanted something more, and wanted to be in a relationship, she needs to know I could never be interested in a girl that was interested in other guys. So what she made out of this relationship was in her hands.

Well, she broke down and told me she didn't really like 'the crush', and that she was talking ****. I told her it didn't matter, we'll see where we stand in time.

Do NOT give her "ultimatums". Although, in your case you didn't give one. And make sure you don't sound controlling. Which, in your case you didn't as you gave her the choice.

You simply told her what you like and dislike and let her make her own choices.

Now "she broke down" as she started to cry? You truly neutralized her test and quite possibly gained a lot of respect from her.

Good luck. She doesn't seem to be a bad person and more of a confused individual that needs a man to lead her and her help shape. All said, always be fair.

 

[dirtysouth]

'broke down' - she just admitted to things i've never heard before. I think it worked well.

I gave her options, not ultimatums. Just options.

The only point she made was she was 'being vocal' about something and now she was like "do you want me to hide if I find someone attractive or cute?"

To that I replied, "no, because I don't get jealous. Just don't expect me to have a real relationship with someone who is genuinely interested in another person along with me"

 

[Bible_Belt]

Good job. The one with the power in any relationship is the one who is willing to walk away first. This is not to say 'walk away,' but make her think that you will if your needs are not met.

 

[Latinoman]

'broke down' - she just admitted to things i've never heard before. I think it worked well.

I gave her options, not ultimatums. Just options.

The only point she made was she was 'being vocal' about something and now she was like "do you want me to hide if I find someone attractive or cute?"

To that I replied, "no, because I don't get jealous. Just don't expect me to have a real relationship with someone who is genuinely interested in another person along with me"

OUTSTANDING response! Especially when you have to reply to her remark at the exact moment. Good thinking on your toes!

 

[djbr]

To that I replied, "no, because I don't get jealous. Just don't expect me to have a real relationship with someone who is genuinely interested in another person along with me"

:rockon: :rockon:

That was SPOT ON! :woo:

 

[dirtysouth]

Another update. I was with her and actually 'met' the crush. Pretty funny, low confidence, real dork. I know it was a plant to see how I'd respond. Introduced myself and worked it AMOG. She knew and I knew that I called her bluff. She hasn't mentioned him since.

You guys are the greatest