My GF found depressing poem of me. What to do?

[Guoy Darko]

Whenever I'm feeling really sad/depressed/angry or extremely happy I tend to write it off my chest. In stories, poems, guitar songs etcetera. Most of them are really bad however. I don't know why I write. Some people have diaries, go drinking or just keep it all inside. I like to write.

Anyway, yesterday, when I went to work my GF (for the information: we're now together for about a year) stayed at my place to work for college. At work I wrote her a funny lighthearted e-mail about the crazy plans I had, for her and I, for the weekend. She didn't write me back that afternoon or evening and now it's almost 11 in the morning and I still got no reaction. :S

When I got home yesterday I opened Word and looked at the documents that were last opened. One of them was a really extremely over-the-top depressing poem I wrote more than a year ago. I didn't lock it up properly and it was the only one she read. I also feel kinda bad she's opening documents of me......

OK, I feel really bad about her reading that depressing sit. I want to call/see her sooooooooooo badly to explain it all. The problem is I don't know how to explain it.

Any help/suggestions please.........

 

[Warrior74]

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone but God. And he even waits until your dead.

Don't say anything. Let her bring it up. If she does, tell her its your 'art' and its private but if she likes it that's cool. And leave it at that. Don't say another word. Either she will believe you, or call bull****. Either way you never budge your ground on it and can walk away with your dignity intake. Calm and steady wins the race.

You might feel the need to attack her for looking thru your things. Don't. All you have to say is that it was private that one time...that's enough. She knows the score. Covert not overt communication.

Watch how she treats you afterwards....if it looks bleak, bail. Good Luck.

 

[abcd_z]

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone but God. And he even waits until your dead.

Don't say anything. Let her bring it up. If she does, tell her its your 'art' and its private but if she likes it that's cool. And leave it at that. Don't say another word. Either she will believe you, or call bull****. Either way you never budge your ground on it and can walk away with your dignity intake. Calm and steady wins the race.

You might feel the need to attack her for looking thru your things. Don't. All you have to say is that it was private that one time...that's enough. She knows the score. Covert not overt communication.

Watch how she treats you afterwards....if it looks bleak, bail. Good Luck.

Quoted For Truth

 

[KontrollerX]

You don't owe her an explanation.

She snooped and spied on you.

You should dump her for that sh!t but you won't so all I can say is don't explain anything to her and if she brings it up like the others have said to avoid an argument brush it off as simply being your art you intended to keep private.

Of course say this all in a casual way to her however if she acts b!tchy about it tell her to fvck off and begin the search for a better girlfriend.

AND AGAIN NO FVCKING EXPLANATIONS OTHER THAN THE CASUAL BRUSH OFF ABOUT IT BEING ART AND PRIVATE, NO JUSTIFYING YOURSELF TO ANY WOMAN!!!!!!!!!

They accept you for who you are or they get the fvck out of your life.

 

[Guoy Darko]

In this case: does anybody know how to put a password on a map in windows? That the computer asks a password to anyone who wants to enter the map? I know how to do it with individual word documents, but I want to put one password on an entire windows map, to put all my private **** in.

 

[DJ#7436]

If she doesnt bring it up, and still acts flakey, i would bounce. If she cant handle a poem, what else wont she be able to handle? Not to mention the lack of communication.

DJ

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

WOW, if a girl did this to me and acted weird after snooping and reading a private piece of writing . . Even as an AFC, it would be hard not to flip the fvck out on her.

 

[kdnash82]

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone but God. And he even waits until your dead.

Don't say anything. Let her bring it up. If she does, tell her its your 'art' and its private but if she likes it that's cool. And leave it at that. Don't say another word. Either she will believe you, or call bull****. Either way you never budge your ground on it and can walk away with your dignity intake. Calm and steady wins the race.

You might feel the need to attack her for looking thru your things. Don't. All you have to say is that it was private that one time...that's enough. She knows the score. Covert not overt communication.

Watch how she treats you afterwards....if it looks bleak, bail. Good Luck.

Enough said

 

[DJDamage]

Its probably nothing you are over-reacting.

What exectly did you write in that poem?!

 

[Pathgen]

.rar formats can be password protected. Its like a zip file and it will help manage file size a little lol. Other than that i dont know how to password protect a whole folder, i would just hide it in a really random ass spot like a really remote folder in a video game directory.

Oh and if you want to invest a little $ i remember that their are some flash drives that are password protected. You could keep all your stuff on that

 

[Rounder]

Hell if she brings it up - just call her out on it, why were you snooping through my files? Might there be things in her journal that she wouldn't appreciate you reading?

I am not creative through writing myself - but I think you've got an excellent skill that will create alot of interest in women - play it right and she'll forget all about the depressing poem and see you as a guy with alot of talent - she'll yearn to get in there and know that part of you.

 

[OneEyedJack]

In word:
Open the file.
On the Tools menu, click Options, and then click Security.

 

[Groovy]

The best advice I can give you if DON'T write down your bad toughts- If your self esteem is low, DON'T, DON'T write ALL the reasons why you think it's causing it.

When I'm feeling down, I write all the POSITIVE things about myself in a funny way actually. I once did that, and it made me feel a lot better. Then the other day I found that paper, read it, and I actually laughed at it, I tought it was funny! Things like that only improve my self esteem even more.

If I had wrote the bad things about me, I'd go and see it and was like: "Damn, I wrote that? What was I thinking?"

 

[tincanman99]

Install PGP on your machine. PGP = Pretty Good Privacy. Its encryption. Than you can encrypt a part of the drive and keep your private stuff on it. Only you know the password. You can set it to automatically unmount after a period of time of inactivity so if you leave your pc on it basically locks it. I use this at work and it works very well. We are warned that if you lose the password there is no way to ever get it back.

 

[trv26]

Dunno if the PGP thing is free. If not, try Truecrypt. Been using it for ages.

 

[handle]

I started writing almost compulsively in... Must've been middle school. I have TONNES of it, probably almost 1000 pages, mostly garbage, that was written in the good ol teen angst phase. But now I keep writing, and I wouldn't say it's very often positive, but now it's at the level where it's "art" and I'm doing readings a little poetry festivals and all that. Keep in mind I'm not that dude at the coffee shop trying to look brooding, nor am I the guy in the philosophy class talking about how much I feel connected to Kant or whatever, but people know I write and they know it's something I like to bust out in public from time to time. It's been a great, instant opener -- some girl I've never met in my life comes up and says "hey, I'm ___, I saw you do that reading a few weeks ago."

Point being, if you like writing then write. I write some things that are fairly depressing, and most writers keep a lot of their stuff under lock and key because they feel that a lot of it is crap. Like I said, I've got stuff dating back years ago (or even a few days ago) that is horrendous, but it's good to have a record to look back on. Don't do anything silly like tell yourself "I will only write positive from now on," just be a little more private if you want it to be personal.

Most important thing though: make no excuses. I remember last year I went up and read something that I thought was complete crap, but that's what I felt like reading at that very moment. It's part of the process... (And for whatever reason, I got compliments on that piece.)

 

[2.0]

SHE invaded YOUR privacy, therefore SHE'S the one who has some explaining to do. Why is she opening documents on your computer without your permission?

Just keep this attitude. Don't explain yourself.