My gf doesnt like sex...

[DasaniWater]

Okay well, me and my gf were virgins up until a while ago. We attempted to have sex but this never lasted very long because we were never really alone and always got interrupted. Well finally the right time came, and we had the entire nights to ourselves. I tried to do some four play but she was just begging me for the sex and wouldnt have it any other way. So i went straight to it. So then i start making love to her, and basically she is there with no expression... and eventually after me going pretty slow at first she just says " i dont feel anything" so i go faster and harder.. and she says i dont feel anything.. and i ask "it doesnt even feel good to u at all ? she says "no.. it just f eels like ur going in and out but it doesnt even feel good.. so then im like WHAT THE ****!!! in my head.. and she says "you can keep going tho because i know you like it a lot" .. and well **** that, i got off her and stopped, we put our clothes on ..

does anyone know what the **** happened. oh yeah, the other times we attempted it which lasted about 30 sec to 2 min.. well she always ended up crying after wards. this time she cried harder, and said maybe shes just one of those girls that didnt like sex. Well anyways, we're not going to have sex anymore until we get married. But i dont have a prob with that, i just wonderin if anyone knows what the deal is?

 

[Damian]

Seems like sexual abuse behavior. I'd ask her three questions:

1. Where's your father? (divorced? abusive? negligent?)
2. Have you ever been sexually abused?
3. Have you ever been molested or raped? (basically repeat of #2)

If she answer is yes to any one of those three questions, there's your answer. The crying thing is whats getting to me. That isn't normal at all, unless you're guilt-tripping her into having sex with you or using emotional blackmail when she tells you she can't feel anything.

If everything is normal, which I SERIOUSLY doubt, try going with some more foreplay before actual sex. Communicate with your partner during sex, and experiment with different oral/finger movements and such. If she responds to any stimulations, good times, keep doing it, but be gentle. There are dozens of ways to get past the pleasure phase for a woman.

My main concern would be her history. If she's not feeling ANYTHING at all, and if she's crying after sex, that means some BIG psychological problems that might include rape or molestation. Ask her about it and be understanding.

-Damian

 

[JayUK]

I dont hav any advice man, but stay strong, become part of it with her, like say ure gna share her problem an stuff! good luck man

 

[AC/DC]

Sounds like a trauma victim. The crying damn near proves it. Rape or molestation are very probable here.

 

[kev me723]

She isn't turned on. Plain and simple. You can shove all you want up there but she has to be turned on and soaking wet. Read posts about foreplay, and even if she is BEGGING for it, give sum more foreplay.

Also, have her ride you. She will be able to get her cl*t to rub on ur pubic bone and the base of your c*ck, that's how they get the most pleasure. If she's on top, she'll do the work to pleasure herself.

But most importantly, you have to TEASE her and TURN HER ON FIRST! good luck bud :woo:

 

[WaterTiger]

I'm going to agree with Kev Me 723. I don't think you're giving her orgasms, if you were, she'd be singing not crying. I think she's feeling used and unsatisfied. (Your average time is about 2 minutes???? That is NO WAY long enough for her to be pleasured!)

She might very well be an abuse victim, but I think sheer lack of experience on both of you is to blame.

 

[Dead Sexington]

She isn't turned on. Plain and simple. You can shove all you want up there but she has to be turned on and soaking wet. Read posts about foreplay, and even if she is BEGGING for it, give sum more foreplay.

Also, have her ride you. She will be able to get her cl*t to rub on ur pubic bone and the base of your c*ck, that's how they get the most pleasure. If she's on top, she'll do the work to pleasure herself.

But most importantly, you have to TEASE her and TURN HER ON FIRST! good luck bud :woo:

Thank you! This is clearly the case.

 

[LikRetsam]

I've been seduced a few times and ended up in a private area with a chick and even if I wasn't turned on, I never started crying.

Therefore, I don't think he's not doing his job. I think she has issues!

 

[Distant Light]

How could a girl not like it is mind boggling, unless she some real relgious person or some nun. Basically ur new the the pipe game.(sex) You should have never skipped foreplay that is why now I've made a rule that if i don't have enough time for foreplay i'm not going to fuvk them, because I want it to be good for them and then good for me. For past two or three weeks i've been reading some books and been practicing on a fuvk buddy.

Some crap to keep in mind is to do foreplay, and if you have a good amount of time go down on her, if you don't do eat the box then you can just finger her and wet ur finger and play with her ****. Tease the hell out of her make her beg for the divk. Feel inside to see how wet she is when she is soaking wet thats when you go in. (You may also have a little meat where ur meat isn't touching her sides of her pusvy.

Thats all i'm help you with for now some day I may post my new move that I found out which its kinda like stacking ograsm after orgasm on the girl and then finnally make her *** after that you can keep making her *** by just a few good spots of a good 2-3 hours. But ya

I reccomend reading...
Tantra sex
Karma sutra
male multiple orgasm

And anything else that can put ur game up to par.

Bottomline yall were just too inexperienced.

 

[penkitten]

i think she just isnt used to sex yet.
i never knew any chick that could have an orgasm their first time.
and.... since she is new at it, it hurts.

i dont think i liked sex until i had been having sex for a few years.

 

[dannowillbookem]

maybe she keeps coming close to popping her cherry but it never happens. im not a female virginity losing expert (i avoid taking them) so maybe im wrong.

rape and **** is a possibility. i dated a chick (the one who turned me back to afc btw so be careful) who was very cautious and emotional about sex cause she was felt up as a little girl... really depressing stuff but never, NEVER try to save a girl. if shes got problems you definetly cant help and you'll just be pulling yoruself down with her.

 

[penkitten]

even if she already had sex once, it doesnt mean it doesnt hurt for some chicks for quite some time.