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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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My GF disrespected me...

nvictor

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DJs,

She is a material girl. Money, gift, restaurants; she want it all.
Using attraction techniques that I've learned through the last 2 years, I've managed to be an unique boyfriend. The one that buys rarely gifts. You see my point?

Today she direspected me. A friend of me (who doesn't know about relation) came to visit me. He wanted to buy us something. Two cans of beer was enough for me. But she insisted to get food plus her can of beer.

And later the guy gave her money, and you know what? At first I thought she wouldn't take it. She said surprisingly "Are you giving me money?". And she took it. I didn't said anything. I kissed her goodbye (first time I'm showing my friend we're together) and said "Message me tonight".

DJs, she's direspected me. Accepting money from a friend in front of me. It's insulting. But she's girl. She just need a lesson. And believe me I'll give it to her.

I do little favors for other girls (gifts, money and all...) and they also do but never in front of her. I call that respect.

I know she didn't ask. I know that it surprised her. But she would have never taken the money.

Now I need the perfect payback. What do you think of not buying anything from now on? (for a couple of weeks)?
 

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00Kevin

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I don't understand this. Your girl is a gold digger and you get upset that your friend is a chump enough to pay her way?

All that maters is that you are slaping her ass. You might as well because it sounds like she is making you pay for it.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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So you got into a relationship with a gold digger and now you're upset she is gold digging? :rolleyes:

I got a better punishment. Find another girlfriend if you are unwilling to deal with the character of a gold digger instead of trying to get her to be a gold digger on YOUR terms. :rolleyes:
 

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nvictor said:
DJs, she's direspected me. Accepting money from a friend in front of me. It's insulting. But she's girl. She just need a lesson. And believe me I'll give it to her.
You are putting way too much thought into this. I don't see how she disrespected you. You said no but your chump friend offered her money and she took it, simple as that.

As Jerry Seinfeld once said: "People don't refuse money, its what separates us from the animals".
 

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i dont see anything wrong buying stuffs for her. unless u r extremely cheap and working in mcdonalds.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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funketekun said:
i dont see anything wrong buying stuffs for her. unless u r extremely cheap and working in mcdonalds.
Does she buy stuff for you?

I dont see anything wrong in buying stuff for a women either, but it is on MY terms and definalty not on her Terms.

I would not entertain a gold digger anyway, sell her to the mate, you will be far richer for it.
 

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DJs, she's direspected me. Accepting money from a friend in front of me.
Hold on a second, how is she disrespecting you by accepting money from someone else? Regardless of whether the guy is your friend or not, she's going to take free money from anybody that offers it to her.

It's 5hit tests like this that separate the Don Juans from the AFCs. Women will react appropriately to the male their interacting with. Your friend was offering himself to be taken advantage of, and your gf went for it. It's no different from a woman turning down a "nice guy" and accepting a date offer from a "jerk".

Look on the bright side, you don't have to worry about her cheating on you with your friend :)
 

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jonwon, the point is that mature guys approach her often. She would eat them a lot but give nothing in return :D

I remember my first reply to her asking me something : "Oh God! What happened to the time when girls used to buy chocolate to guys..."

She told me later that nobody ever answered that way.
 
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Instead of "payback," why dont you just tell her that she disrespected you?
 

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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have learned another lesson today : assume the consequence of your decisions. I've chosen to be with a gold digger I'd have to assume it.

I hope she would assume being with someone that can't buy her the moon.
 

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Like the others have pointed out, I don't see any disrespect behavior whatesoever from your girl. You should rather be happy. How do you think PIMPs get their money? You should be ridding other horses while you feed on the beef. And....
nvictor said:
Today she direspected me. A friend of me (who doesn't know about relation) came to visit me. He wanted to buy us something. Two cans of beer was enough for me. But she insisted to get food plus her can of beer.
Do you not have a job? Does your girl stay with you?
 

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YOU are the problem, not her. You chose to be with a golddigger. She didn't put a gun to your head. I hope. And, by the way, HOW IS TAKING MONEY FROM SOMEONE WHEN THEY OFFER IT, DISRESPECTING YOU? You must come from a different culture than American, because that makes no sense even to a guy.
 

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Desdinova said:
Hold on a second, how is she disrespecting you by accepting money from someone else? Regardless of whether the guy is your friend or not, she's going to take free money from anybody that offers it to her.
The girl i'm seeing now rarely lets me pay for anything. She will snatch the bill when it comes and put it on her credit card nearly always. I hardly try anymore. If i give her money she will throw it back at me.

It makes her happy. She says she really likes me and wants to make me happy so she pays.

It's a real treat when i get to buy her something now. I hope she's not too good to be true. She's just not the type of person who will take money from anyone. We went to IHOP one night after the bar with 2 of my friends and she paid for them too and she turned down their cash too.

She even knows I make a bit more money than her (she's an RN)
 
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