My GF asked what love means to me

[high nrg]

Tonight, my girlfriend asked me what love means to me.

I had no idea what to say. I told her that was a hard question and that I have to think about it.

I was wondering what love means to you guys.

Im not gonna tell her what you say, i need to figure out what it means to ME.

I just want to hear your opinions.

Thanks

 

[California Love]

"Love is an irresistable desire to be irresistably desired."

Robert Frost.

 

[AmgineEX]

This one loves drama. For the people that can't read between the lines, don't answer the question as it's always the wrong answer and will bite you in the ass. Find a way around it. You should NEVER to forced to answer that question. Love is shown through action, not spoken through words.

 

[Kraken]

You guys are right when you say love is shown through actions, not through words - but I think she's asking how he would describe love.

I'd say when you love someone, you care for them more than you care for yourself.

 

[Need-2-B-Pimpin]

I saw a quote somewhere that said that love is when an irresistible force meets an unmovable object.

 

[high nrg]

I have experienced this situation before and if a girl starts talkin love/how much do you like me? it's a very good signal.

she asked me when we were fighting.

she thinks ive been "testing" our relationship cuz i asked her if she still wanted to be with me (i said it a little differently then that and on more than one occasion, yeah, a big mistake)

i asked her cuz shed been being really flaky, and i was mad so i confronted her about it.

she told me why she had to bail on me (she bailed on me like 7 times over break). and she said she was really sorry. it sounded sincere.

she says that she loves me. ive told her that i do, but im havin second thoughts now. its not that i want to leave her, cuz i dont, but her bailing on me was hella shady.

thanks for the replies, i still havent answered her and i dont even know if i will.

 

[playher]

The best explanation is love is pain. Love isnt perfect and always happy, it takes time to develop and isn't rushed. Love is mutual and requires many sacrifices and much time, and many times when you THINK you know it, you dont.

 

[LikRetsam]

Bailed on you 7 times? What's that I see over the horizon?!!?!

Could it be!? Yes! It is!

A RED FLAG!!!!

If she really wanted you/liked you/loved you she wouldn't have. She would make her way around other things to be with YOU.

Bailed SEVEN times!? dude, Don't let your emotions cloud your judgement, I think it is safest to back out of this relationship. Don't worry, the world will still turn.

 

[high nrg]

Could it be!? Yes! It is!
A RED FLAG!!!!
If she really wanted you/liked you/loved you she wouldn't have. She would make her way around other things to be with YOU.

i was thinking the same thing so i confronted her on it. the reasons were legit. there was a big storm and she got stuck at a friends house. the friend lives up in the mtns so they couldnt get down. i checked it out, and it was true.

that accounted for a few of the bails and the other times were family things.

im gonna stay with her for now, but trust me, im looking for any other red flags, cuz im not gonna stay with someone who does stuff like that

 

[Nightspark]

lol had the same convo wid EX a while ago... ended up in a huge fight over the phone because i told her that i was incapable of saying or feeling it for anyone anymore (past experiances tell me never to say it too early)...

2 me love is basically an ultimate feeling however problem is that sometimes it's misinterpreted and well... fights break out

 

[The Irish Corleone]

When love happens, I'll know what it is.

 

[Zero0ne]

Originally written by Stephen Covey in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
. "Stephen, I like what you're saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?"
"The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked.
"That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"
"Love her," I replied.
"I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."
"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."
"But how do you love when you don't love?"
"My friend, love is a verb. Love--the feeling--is a fruit of love the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrafice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appericiate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"

I think that he was going in the right direction in this passage, but I know you know when to draw the line on the sacrafice part.

 

[Julian]

Damn whats with going into these deep convos with girls about love? If she asks you just give a simple, foggy answer.

Her : "What does love mean to you?"

You: "Too much to talk about."

or "All i know is that All is fair in love an war" Then kind of stare off into the distance, turn back to her and say "And the war of love, is the greatest war of all."

Lol i just pulled that out of my ass.

 

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[Focal core]

This,

Love is an ever-expanding sense of trust in another, along with admiration and respect for their talents, character, attributes and qualities.

 

[Focal core]

i was thinking the same thing so i confronted her on it. the reasons were legit. there was a big storm and she got stuck at a friends house. the friend lives up in the mtns so they couldnt get down. i checked it out, and it was true.

that accounted for a few of the bails and the other times were family things.

im gonna stay with her for now, but trust me, im looking for any other red flags, cuz im not gonna stay with someone who does stuff like that

No you shouldn't stay with a women who bail on you 7 times.. She tried to emotionally detached from you, that's never a good idea to be with someone who doesn't want to invest emotionally in one relationship, she doesn't want the relationship to grow any further, she's preparing herself to dump you.. dump her before she did, and she will.!!

 

[Focal core]

You already are staying with someone like that. This is were the blue and the red separate.
Its your choice but if you keep asking those weak question you won't have to worry about leaving her.

He's dead

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Unconditional Acceptance

 

[Alvafe]

why the hell every time someone ask what love means I remember what that HK 47 from star wars knight of old republic answers?

btw I wouldn't never take such question serious, and would make her give the answers for it

 

[Kotaix]

Love is the chemical rush of mutual attraction.

Never tell a woman that you love her. Let it be known thru your actions but never say the words.