"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My game was soooooo off tonight...

Flabbergasped?

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There were some parties around campus, so I figured, since I'm done with my finals, why not enjoy the alcohol and socializing?

The whole night was a **** load of rejections. One after another. Despite having drank a decent amount, I still was a tad reluctant to approach the way I normally do (I dunno, tonight, even tho I was drunk, I approached less than when I'm sober), chicks wouldn't give me eye contact, and when I started up a convo, they seemed uninterested. These are chicks I KNOW I could pull if I were my normal self. I dunno, tonight just wasn't my night.

I can't really explain it, but I'll just have to forget about and remember that there will be many other parties. It's just strange that, for some reason I can't pinpoint, my game was really off.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It just happens man. It's like in sport you will always have atleast one off day just don't let it happen too much and do your own stuff and then you should be right.
 

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i'd say you weren't giving off a good vibe. ever go in a room and instantly you could cut the tension with a knife. i know it's just a feeling but it comes out through body language. sometimes you can talk like your the most confident person in the room but if your body is saying something different then people can pick that up.

you'll bounce back
 

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Flabbergasped? said:
The whole night was a **** load of rejections. One after another. Despite having drank a decent amount, I still was a tad reluctant to approach the way I normally do (I dunno, tonight, even tho I was drunk, I approached less than when I'm sober), chicks wouldn't give me eye contact, and when I started up a convo, they seemed uninterested. These are chicks I KNOW I could pull if I were my normal self. I dunno, tonight just wasn't my night.
Don't you have some female friends that can reassure your ego?
 

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On those nights you just look them in the eyes and say "I know I am drunk I just want to talk for a minute about my poor puppy (insert name) he or she is awfully sick" and go for the close.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dude, this happened the other night for me too. When I am drunk I have horrible game.. I was like practically raping a chick. Lol. She wouldn't kiss me, but she let me feel her up, so I took advantage of it.. it wasn't until she started making comments about how excessive it was that I finally got the hint.. man, I really have to watch out when I'm drinking, I might end up ****ing an UG again.
 

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Yea, drinking can royally *uck up game when done in excess and can lead to some unexpected outcomes. I usually try not to drink more than 2 drinks and a shot on a first date that is in a bar scene situation. Drinks at my place/her place are another story. Anyway the whole drinking thing is something to be very careful about since it can be a real game killer. If you are totally in the zone you can actually WATCH your game slip as the night progresses.

I had this HB7 on a date and my C&F was off the hook, she was totally digging me all night but after 4 hours of drinking, I started being less Funny and just ****y and even mean. It didn't end with any fireworks so it was something to learn from and definitely I realized that 4 hours of drinking led to losing control of what was in the beginning a very powerful game!
 

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So uhhhhhhh, like ummmmmmmm, sorta ummmmmm, yeaahh.......You're not in the competition any longer I gather? I just need to know so for the next time I edit the score. Thanx in advance.
 

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Lol, I think it was a one-night thing, so I'll chalk it off as exception. I'm going out tonight again (no class this week, so lots of parties), and I'm going sober with my dancing friends
 

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Went out today, game was on point, so much macking, so many numbers. looks like tuesday's nightmare is over, close the thread mods lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NFC said:
man, I really have to watch out when I'm drinking, I might end up ****ing an UG again.
Pfahahha!

Sorry for you bro.

Next time when you drink, at least make sure you're drunk enough that you won't remember her face next day in the morning! :D
 
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