"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by djbr
Actually, it is a joke. :)
oohh....My bad.:flowers:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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1. Meet girl. Memorize number. Call in 2-3 days.
What do women think when you memorize their number?
I'm guessing they probably think you wont call, Do they freak
out? has it ever gone wrong?

2. BS on the phone. Be the first to end conversation WITHOUT making plans and WITHOUT saying, "I'll call you later" or "Call me this weekend". A simple "Ill talk to you later" shows your not desperate AND leaves the door open for her to call you.
I like this method, it stretches out the 'will he call/will he ask me out' even longer while building a bit more rapport. nice. How long do you normally stay on the phone for?


ahh just noticed this is 2 years old!
 
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