Listen i am the type of man who in lieu of being married wants to make sure that all avenues have been tried before i divorce. I am thinking this way because i am clearly seeing some big changes in her and it's been going on for around two months now. What i am not saying is that this change, whatever it may be, is the kind of change that is needed to rebuild or reconcile our marriage. I am simply reporting what i am observing. I am not saying i am over her or that i have moved on. I have moved on from where i was before i had her move out though and i see things very differently now. I am in a position to accept her offer at healing our marriage or walking away. I just want to make the best educated decision.
I know the standard response on here is to drop her and start spinning plates. But this is my marriage we are talking about here...this is for me ok. I need to know i did what i could and there was nothing left but divorce. If she was a gf or a plate this would be a non issue but this is my second marriage and if i divorce i am never getting married again.Also keep in mind that she isnt acting like she was the first two years i have known her. Something is different and it is not me just deluding myself. I am here asking you all for advice because if this is just a rouse then i would like to understand why and how so i might learn from your experiences without having to learn it myself the hard way.
Yes she hit me
Yes she slept with someone,but so did i.
Yes she has been disrespectful the entire relationship.
Is this large apparent change of behavior something worth investigating? If i divorce i do not want to have any doubts for my own self conscious. Has any one here had a wife turn herself around and wake up? My wife is 31 with two kids from a previous relationship. We have no kids together and we haven't lived together since last Jan.
Ok replace "love" with respect. The important thing is that i am trying to put myself first in this marriage since we've been together. She's out of my house and has been for going on five months.
Yeah after the third time she hit me i called the cops, had her arrested, and then had her move out the next day. That was late January.
In Cali if you touch a women period you will go to jail. Hell if a women calls the police and claims domestic violence you will go to jail %100 no questions asked. The night the police showed up after she had hit me the cop told me he was going to haul me to jail until she openly admitted to to striking me in the face. That is the only reason she went instead of me.
I dodged a bullet and quickly moved her out the next day. It sucks that because we are male that we can not even defend ourselves against attack from any female.
