Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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viktor1983

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Hi,

i haven't been visiting for a long time, but now i need your suggestion.

Situation:

haven't known much my friend's sister (Jennifer) for a long time, but now she work with us... haven't talked her too much, but she hasn't got a boyfriend now, and she's a 9 :)

She enjoys partying, working with me very much (as she told, and as she acts), touches regularry my leg, calls almost every day for 10-15 minutes on my mobile, and does almost everything to stay two ... last sunday travelled about 100 kms for sleeping here (nothing happened, we just got drunk, i've got a girlfriend now, and she knows...)

now i'm gonna drop my girlfriend, because I realised about two months before i doesn't like her really... The situation would be easy from here (distance doesn't matter, i don't like girls wanting to meet every day, and we are doing photos together almost on every party..), if she wouldn't speak about her advantages last night, about the boy who performed bad, etc..

I'm not gonna jump from the 10th level if we stay friends, i can easily find a girlfriend if i really want... The real problem is that we are doing an internet site about partys, and she is one of our photographers too, so i must have the friendship of her, because we have to work together for a long time... Someone said don't try to pick her up, because of the site.... After having been in a relationship it's not a problem for me to hold the friendship, but it could be problematic if I misunderstand the signs....

So what's your suggestion? Should I try "picking up" her, or not?

Thanks for your reply in advance, and sorry for my english.... :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sfalexi

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Wow. You're really breaking a lot of rules here. . .

"Don't dip the pen in the company ink". Do NOT go after someone you have to work with on a day to day basis. It only leads to everyone else being in your business (cause if YOU don't tell them, she will) and it leads to problems.

"Don't mess with a friend's close relative" - EVEN if your friend says it's 'ok'. Cause now HE'S gonna have to deal with the **** when that girl comes home and starts *****ing to him about how she wishes you would do this and he's gonna end up stuck in the middle.

Leave her alone.

Alexi
 

Fenderules

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yeah. If you had really a lot of chemistry you would have alrday been togethor so i'd say she's not worth the potencial hassel that could occur.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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quest

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probably best to stay away from her..

+ i know this might sound a bit weird.
but there is alot of girls that LOVE to flirt with a taken guy, then when he dumps her, flirting is reduced (not cut off) and any move you make will be thwarted.

think about it, what an ego boost if u can make a guy dump his girlfriend for you.
 
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