Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My friends hot girls are showing interest

Ohso-Phresh

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Been in the ‘community’ since ‘06. Mostly solo but have now built a pretty tight friend circle that has been age seasoned. My bro’s are important to me more so than any woman but recently I’ve noticed some things with their ladies.

One has a bunch of poly sweetie’s the other in a ltr.

I’ve been in poly situations before some have been live-in groups, guys like it until the green eyed jealousy monster gets a grip.

I’m repressing escalating on any of them but have now come to a point where to continue doing so diminishes my value and I feel like I’m unconsciously supplicating.

i don’t have a problem being upfront and talking to them about it but in doing so it would change dynamics.

If these women were not with men I cared about, I would express myself more freely, and most likely hook-up.

In the past, friends have approached me checkin’ in after I’ve let someone go and since I’m the one whom moved on, it’s never been a problem.

This current set of circumstances feels different and I could use some alternative perspectives.

btw, I heard about this site by my current reading of The Rational Male.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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lamath

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Been in the ‘community’ since ‘06. Mostly solo but have now built a pretty tight friend circle that has been age seasoned. My bro’s are important to me more so than any woman but recently I’ve noticed some things with their ladies.

One has a bunch of poly sweetie’s the other in a ltr.

I’ve been in poly situations before some have been live-in groups, guys like it until the green eyed jealousy monster gets a grip.

I’m repressing escalating on any of them but have now come to a point where to continue doing so diminishes my value and I feel like I’m unconsciously supplicating.

i don’t have a problem being upfront and talking to them about it but in doing so it would change dynamics.

If these women were not with men I cared about, I would express myself more freely, and most likely hook-up.

In the past, friends have approached me checkin’ in after I’ve let someone go and since I’m the one whom moved on, it’s never been a problem.

This current set of circumstances feels different and I could use some alternative perspectives.

btw, I heard about this site by my current reading of The Rational Male.

Depends on the friendship level imo

Friend keeping tab on how you are doing after a breakup, are good friend man.

Same thing has happened to me before and ive always chosen my friends.
And never regretted my choices, plenty of women elsewhere.

Bros before hoes man!!!
 

mrgoodstuff

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Depends on the friendship level imo

Friend keeping tab on how you are doing after a breakup, are good friend man.

Same thing has happened to me before and ive always chosen my friends.
And never regretted my choices, plenty of women elsewhere.

Bros before hoes man!!!
Plus it keeps em attracted. I violated this tenant and paid over many years for it. Sometime the bros are hos so you have to verify.
 

Black Widow Void

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I really believe that there's this 'unspoken' code among men. If it's a "communal girl" or a friends "plate" and you're seriously into her, then maybe (but you get what you ask for on these types) .

If it's a friends ex or current gal, you shouldn't consider proceeding until you talk to your friend.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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