Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
WRONG! THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE! girls say they like good guys, while everyone in this forum know they are attracted to confident, ****y, jerks and dangerous guys. The same applies to this situation. If girls know you are a homophobe they will be more attracted to you because they see you aren't a p**** like the rest of the guys.
Im not starting a flaming war, all I did is prove that your post was full of crap.
First off, pull your head out of your azz.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girls flock to gay guys because they are gossipy/girly and friendly, but girls don't flock to them because they are attracted to them sexually duh! so you think he will get chicks this way? the only thing he will get is girls thinking he is also gay and having girls talk to him about doing their nails and the latest school gossip!
Alright, once more SHOW ME WHERE I SAID THAT GIRLS WOULD FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE BY HANGING OUT WITH A GAY GUY. Also
Obviously I've already got a basic idea of what the average girl goes for. I've got some gay friends and they've got some damn hot chicks that are THEIR friends. Believe me, those chicks look up to you when they realize that you are afraid of a gay guy. You can't be confident and strong and a "man" if your AFRAID of somebody just because of their sexuality. Now can you? It's like being afraid of spiders because they've got 8 legs, oooh big and tough huh? All I'm saying is that if you fill your life with descrimination, you're going to screw yourself over in the long run. Let's take a friend of mine for example. True story, so just read it.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
So if I don't like to eat carrots does that make me afraid of carrots? Am I now a carrot-o-phobia? Please, don't go down this road. and I know you're going to bring up racism (and no, gay people aren't a race). Well, sorry to misinform you, but don't compare the two. When was the last time a gay person was kicked off a bus? When was the last time they had to go to separate schools? Hell, blacks are still picked on more today than any gay person ever was. You're too little informed on this issue to really know shiat about this arguement, so please don't bring it up.
Are you kidding me. Your name is Joe the HOMOPHOBE. PHOBE meaning phobia means your afriad. Carrots has nothing to do with this. I get why some people think it is weird. I understand why you dont like them or whatever your point of view on them is, but dont go around telling people that its not right. People can do whatever they please. I asked this question to get advice, not to get a lecture from a kid who stereotypes gays to makeup and nails and thinks that are creepy and thinks no one should respect them.
Just keep flirting with girls. Keep DJ'ing. Keep a manly aspect in your life. Sports, lifting, girls, cars. Not to stereotype, but generally speaking, gay guys are rarely into such stuff.