**** , Im really on the line with what to do here... go with a neg to a girl who has a boyfriend who just said "she doesnt like me like that" even though she may feel attracted to me , OR just basically say **** off and be done with herd!ckmojo said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
My friend just randomly texted me what do
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Sosly, we can give you all the advice in the world, and share our separate opinions, endlessly. Ultimately, however, its up to you to take the course of action you feel is neccessary. Don't be so dependent on other people's thoughts; as you see, it's split down the middle. You make the choice at the conclusion of the day.
Personally, i think you made a great decision. People who purposely hurt you deserve no place in your life, regardless whether she suddenly likes you or not. I cant imagine a relationship with her being a walk in the park.
Personally, i think you made a great decision. People who purposely hurt you deserve no place in your life, regardless whether she suddenly likes you or not. I cant imagine a relationship with her being a walk in the park.
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I'd delete her number and consider her nexted...but that's just me. I have better **** to do than jerk around with attention *****s.
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To the OP I see your conflict here with what to do/how to act. But, it's very simple the reason you even have such conflict is because deep down you WANT something from this girl. You want a kiss, you want attraction, you want sex.
This "wanting" from her is a sure sign that you won't get it, in fact you'll try to show you don't want anything in hopes of getting it! This is wrong, this causes pain, confusion, and everything that comes with wanting anything.
Take this into consideration, what if you truly could care less what she thought of you? I mean truly could give a sh*t. Becomes simple no? You'd respond with a funny neg or even ignore the text and both would send the right message to her because they'd be coming from a place of true indifference.
That's how you'd feel better about the situation and how she'd be the one in your current position wondering what to say/do/act to get your attention.
Remember, girls need to feel validated and true indifference towards them makes them act like an AFC they'll even go as far as giving you sex (their own real power against us) just for that validation. It's that pathetic behavior that gives us the upper hand.
This "wanting" from her is a sure sign that you won't get it, in fact you'll try to show you don't want anything in hopes of getting it! This is wrong, this causes pain, confusion, and everything that comes with wanting anything.
Take this into consideration, what if you truly could care less what she thought of you? I mean truly could give a sh*t. Becomes simple no? You'd respond with a funny neg or even ignore the text and both would send the right message to her because they'd be coming from a place of true indifference.
That's how you'd feel better about the situation and how she'd be the one in your current position wondering what to say/do/act to get your attention.
Remember, girls need to feel validated and true indifference towards them makes them act like an AFC they'll even go as far as giving you sex (their own real power against us) just for that validation. It's that pathetic behavior that gives us the upper hand.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Prime oportunity to create attraction here. Reply with "Phew, good cuz I didn't want you catching feelings for me right now" This will intrigue the sht out of her. If she's really interested she will reply asking for the reasons, at which point you keep it mysterious and even try to change the subject, because you don't care! Do not show any signs of being affected by her.
If she just replies with "ok" then you just go on your merry way.
Its a win/ win. It is from challenges like these that you learn the most, so dont cut her off until you've killed all your chances,
If she just replies with "ok" then you just go on your merry way.
Its a win/ win. It is from challenges like these that you learn the most, so dont cut her off until you've killed all your chances,
Good stuff here. However I think you may still have a chance to get attraction, if you play your cards right.vatoloco said: