my 'friend' is doing my head in

[mr.uk]

tonight i talked to a girl who is probably an 8.5 for looks and when i went back to my friends he said that im always chatting up girls that are too good for me...this is just one example but he moans and whines and brings my mood down on the rare occasions that i actually feel quite happy out and about. I have some other legendary friends that i love and they like this negative lad so theres no chance of getting rid of him. hes coming on holiday with us.

what can i do about him?

 

[Answers]

Its just the way he sees things, ignore him. He knows nothing. He'll end up with a not so attractive woman (if any) because of the way he thinks about women.

 

[TheHomelessNinja]

Axe his face off

 

[Damian]

As a man with a higher level of energy, you already have dominance over this guy. Because you're having fun chatting girls up and just exuding positive energy, people will put exponentially more significance to YOUR communication and not this Sad Sam.

My best retort when somebody is a little down, is toss them a few pebbles and try to bring up their energy levels. Encourage them to have fun and include them in your exciting conversations. Laugh at what they say and really give them some positive energy. Sometimes people who are low-energy are just a little bit shy and apprehensive about whether or not they will be accepted. If you demonstrate that he will be a critical part of the group when he has higher energy, he'll eventually catch on.

Just don't leave him by the side of the road while you carry on having your good times. Starts down a road of resentment and even builds more apprehension.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Been in your shoes .
And the best way is to learn how to ignore him . I hope your secure in your moves so you dont have why to give a fvck for some negative comments .

Tell yourself that your greatest and noone is going to change it never .

 

[Being_the_Don]

He's trying to bring you down. Keep your eye out for other things, if he's saying this stuff about you, he could also be spreading rumors behind your back. IMO he's a hater/c*ckblocker. I know how you feel about someone resenting you for chatting up women while the others watch with hate.

 

[Technical1]

Having a defeatist friend will darken your life even if you do succeed in ignoring him. Phase him out. Dont tell him about your adventures anymore, even the successful ones. Only accept his input on any issue if its comfirmed by an independent source. From now on, he can talk to you about football, the weather, and how school is going. That can be his reward for being so negative with you about your game.