"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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my friend is considered a cuter version of me

tryst type

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my friend and i both have similar taste in clothes although he tends to be more simple than i am. we both have shaggy hair and neatly trimmed beards, could pass for brothers, the difference is his facial structure is considered more "appealing" smaller nose, better smile, thinner eye brows and he is 5 inches taller than me and has broader shoulders.

i never considered this to be a problem until people and mostly girls started pointing out the similarity between us physically yet he'd always get more attention and compliments ie "he's so cute" "he's hot"

this has started to bother me, and i find myself unable to shake it most of the time especially when we're out together in a social setting.

any ideas on how i can get passed this?
it also doesn't help that we have the same taste in girls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NewAndImproved

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It's useless to compare yourself with others. There will always be someone smarter than you. There will always be someone better-looking than you are. Make up for it in game. That's the leveling factor.

Also, from my experience, it just depends on the girl. We all have preferences. One of my good friends is a tall light-skinned black guy, mixed-race if you will. Girls call him "tall dark and handsome" which is still hilarious to me. If he's dark, I'm pitch black lol. Anyway we go out one night and his presence alone got him attention. This one girl approached me and is like "your friend is hot." In the past this would have bothered me but instead I just continued to scope out the scene. I looked good that night too and wasn't going to put it to waste. I got into a ridiculous state, probably the best ever. Lo and behold, at the end of the night, I found myself hooking up w/a girl who was hotter than any of his targets.
 
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