"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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my friend is considered a cuter version of me

tryst type

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my friend and i both have similar taste in clothes although he tends to be more simple than i am. we both have shaggy hair and neatly trimmed beards, could pass for brothers, the difference is his facial structure is considered more "appealing" smaller nose, better smile, thinner eye brows and he is 5 inches taller than me and has broader shoulders.

i never considered this to be a problem until people and mostly girls started pointing out the similarity between us physically yet he'd always get more attention and compliments ie "he's so cute" "he's hot"

this has started to bother me, and i find myself unable to shake it most of the time especially when we're out together in a social setting.

any ideas on how i can get passed this?
it also doesn't help that we have the same taste in girls.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NewAndImproved

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It's useless to compare yourself with others. There will always be someone smarter than you. There will always be someone better-looking than you are. Make up for it in game. That's the leveling factor.

Also, from my experience, it just depends on the girl. We all have preferences. One of my good friends is a tall light-skinned black guy, mixed-race if you will. Girls call him "tall dark and handsome" which is still hilarious to me. If he's dark, I'm pitch black lol. Anyway we go out one night and his presence alone got him attention. This one girl approached me and is like "your friend is hot." In the past this would have bothered me but instead I just continued to scope out the scene. I looked good that night too and wasn't going to put it to waste. I got into a ridiculous state, probably the best ever. Lo and behold, at the end of the night, I found myself hooking up w/a girl who was hotter than any of his targets.
 
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