My friend has sex with his wife 1-2 times a month, is this normal even for marriage?

[lost_blackbird]

For the last 4 years of my marriage it was once every 4 to 6 weeks, initiated by her coming into
my bedroom to start something. Have to say I don't miss the pressure of having to perform
sexually one little bit. I haven't got the faintest idea what it is I'm meant to do to get a woman
going and more notably I don't care enough to learn. The whole push/pull complicated 'dance'
of knowing what to do and what to say all just feels forced and artificial for me and I've never
gotten any satisfaction from the chase, seduction (if I even knew how) and close whatsoever.
To be honest I just laid there, let her mount me and tried to get it over with as quickly as possible.

 

[SW15]

This is probably far more common than you realize. In fact, I'd add that many marriages are often quite sexless, especially as the years go by. I'm not entirely sure why this is but I think after a period of time most people grow bored of longer term relationships and they just lose interest, this goes for both men and women.

There are statistics, including ones I cited earlier in this thread, that support the idea of sexless marriages, sexless relationships, and boredom. This is why one of the concepts I regularly promote is that monogamous relationships have a shelf life of goodness of about 5 years, and that's if the guy has a stronger, Alpha frame. Guys with more beta frames are less likely to even get 5 good years. It doesn't matter if the relationship lasts 10 or 15 years. there were only 5 good years.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Some do.

I'm curious if women obsess over the number of times/number of people they have sex as much as guys do....

I'll admit when I went from a dead bedroom to a healthy sex life it was fun keeping tally but when I realized I wasn't going to win a MVP or get an end of the year bonus, I just enjoyed it and quit tracking stats.

Gotta take it one game, one inning. one pitch at a time.... you know who tracks stats? the folks who aren't out there on the field making plays...

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

As has been said since time immemorial “for every beautiful woman, there’s a man who’s tired of ****ing her.”

I can seriously say that’s not me. It has, however ended LTRs for me, I simply won’t put up with it.

This is probably far more common than you realize. In fact, I'd add that many marriages are often quite sexless, especially as the years go by. I'm not entirely sure why this is but I think after a period of time most people grow bored of longer term relationships and they just lose interest, this goes for both men and women.